Raise excellent children. This picture of 10 must be seen.
1, don't look down on children.
How can you be so stupid! Or "Are you a wooden head? "Whenever this contempt for children blurts out, it will damage the child's self-esteem and weaken the child's self-concept.
2. Don't intimidate children.
Intimidation will make them feel afraid of their parents.
Don't make rules that are not suitable for children's age.
If you want a two-year-old child to act like a five-year-old child, it will only make him feel incompetent. Because what you expect from him is a level of behavior that he can't reach at his age.
4. Don't use inconsistent rules.
Disciplining children depends on their own emotions to make rules at will, and the same behavior sometimes punishes and sometimes lets him go. This will confuse the children. Children need you to educate them with a consistent, credible and reliable set of rules.
Don't pamper your children too much.
Spoiling children is not good for them. Because sooner or later, children will grow up and go to the society, and some things that work at home are hard to say outside. Therefore, indulging a child will only deprive him of the opportunity to develop his potential ability and hinder him from becoming a capable, independent and self-disciplined person.
6. Don't force children to obey others immediately.
If you force your child to leave what he is doing and listen to you to do something else, his reaction will be very unhappy. Parents should remind their children what to do in advance, such as "Baby, you will come in for dinner in about ten minutes!" " ! Simply asking children to obey at once is ineffective for cultivating independent and self-disciplined people.
7. Don't overprotect and supervise children.
Excessive protection of children will dampen their self-concept and weaken their autonomy, because when parents over-supervise their children's behavior, they are actually telling their children: "You can't take care of yourself. Most parents have no confidence in their children's ability to take care of themselves. We should take "as long as children can do it by themselves, they will never do everything instead" as our motto. Only in this way can children gradually cultivate their self-care ability.
8. Don't bribe children.
If you do well in school, it's not a good idea to buy something as a reward to stimulate your child to do something. Such a bribe will trigger the motivation of children to do things from the inside out. He studies not for the established good self-concept, but for material rewards. This is not conducive to children to establish a good learning purpose.
9. Don't force your child to promise not to dare next time.
"Well, now that the child has made a mistake, the mother said angrily: Now you promise me that it will never happen again." But after a while, the old fork made a mistake, and his mother scolded: "You promised your mother, why not?" Mothers should know that it is meaningless to make children promise. When you meet a sensitive child, forcing him to agree will make him feel sorry for making mistakes again. Even if the child is not sensitive, it will make the child duplicity.
10, don't nag the children.
Too much nagging will make a child feel that his parents think that he has not taken the initiative to understand things. Over time, children will feel disgusted and unhappy. In fact, explaining things to children in an orderly way will enhance their self-confidence and self-esteem.