How to educate adolescent girls 1 There is no doubt that girls also have adolescence and adolescence is also rebellious. Just because of in our nature, girls are quiet and introverted in adolescence, and they are not as rebellious and antagonistic as boys.
First, several typical psychology of adolescent girls
1, depression and inferiority complex
When you enter adolescence, you will gradually enter the social growth period. People, events, environment and atmosphere around you will affect and determine the growth and maturity of a girl. At this time, the girl is no longer a naive little girl, and the carefree natural growth period has gradually passed. Especially when they enter middle school, the collective unfamiliarity, the change of environment, the pressure of study and the competitive atmosphere all make them feel the experience of facing life alone before entering the society, which will cause great waves in their hearts. These factors will promote their growth and maturity, and at the same time make some girls feel depressed and inferior. Especially those reserved girls are more likely to have this kind of psychology. They feel inferior because they lack friends, because they don't study well and because they are not beautiful enough. Such a girl is a good girl in front of the teacher, but she may be the easiest to play a small temper at home, which makes people feel moody. This is also a manifestation of adolescence.
2. Strong dependence on partners
On campus, we often see two or three good girls together; When judging students' compositions, we often marvel at the strong desire and concern of girls of this age for partners and friendship. Girls often get emotional and have conflicts because we look like sesame and mung beans. This shows their need for friendship and dependence on friends. When a girl reaches puberty, she has the consciousness of getting rid of her family. She no longer needs much care and companionship from her parents, but their independence and immaturity determine that they are always timid. We must admit that most girls are more vulnerable than boys. When they face a strange environment and want to integrate into a new group, they must not be accompanied by friends.
3. Obvious attention to the opposite sex
The obvious concern for the opposite sex is the most obvious and normal performance of boys and girls in adolescence. As Goethe said in Young Werther, "Which boy doesn't love and which girl doesn't love". This is a common and reasonable thing. However, many of our parents and teachers regard girls' yearning for male stars and their affection for boys as a scourge, and think that this psychological shame is shameful, so they take improper or radical measures.
4. Invisible rebellion in adolescence
The reason why girls' adolescence is easily overlooked by us is that even if they are rebellious, they are more obscure and introverted. Boys will have fierce arguments and emotional conflicts with their parents who criticize them. They are unruly and go their own way. Adolescent girls often say nothing or express obedience when facing criticism, although their hearts are full of resistance and dissatisfaction. Therefore, in school, we often find that some girls are quiet on the surface, but they quietly highlight their hair, wear accessories and even secretly smoke and drink with boys. All these show that they have never really recognized and accepted the teacher's criticism and education. Not resisting is not equal to accepting, which is an "invisible resistance".
Just as buds quietly bloom, trees stretch their branches, chicks flap their wings, adolescent boys and girls are beautiful and full of vigor, giving people infinite hope and hope. But why did it backfire, and their growth brought us a lot of embarrassment and trouble? We must reflect on our education.
Second, some thoughts on adolescent girls' education
1. Mothers should be role models for girls.
We often say: family is a child's first class, parents are a child's first teacher and a child's lifelong teacher. This requires parents not only to bear the responsibility of raising and educating their children, but also to have perfect manners and character as teachers. Especially the mother, the mother is the guide, demonstrator and the nearest bystander in the process of girls' physical and mental growth. In the process of her growth, children are naturally looking for role models and references. Mother's dress, manners, temperament and hobbies have a great and far-reaching influence on girls. Like mother, like daughter, that's why. Mothers should use their own actions to educate adolescent girls to be clean, decent and kind, so that girls can establish a correct aesthetic outlook and personality psychology.
2. School education should be targeted.
Girls have special, subtle and complicated physiological and psychological changes in adolescence, and they pay more attention to and care about their own changes than boys. If you can't give correct guidance and education in time, they will become distressed, inferior and uneasy, and they will also behave more impetuous and perverse. In school, these social performances will be more prominent when interacting with the opposite sex of the same age.
3. Guide girls to grow up with correct public opinion.
Now the hype of movie stars makes adolescent girls more envious of perfect figure, beautiful appearance and glamorous clothes. Naive girls don't know that this is just a woman's most superficial and short-lived capital. Abundant mind, confident and elegant temperament, brilliant talent, perfect personality and character are the most precious wealth and proud capital of a person's life. Therefore, our media and public opinion have the responsibility and obligation to publicize the highlights of outstanding women and ordinary women at all times and in all countries. Such as, Mulan, Madame Curie, Lin, Bing Xin, and the runaway mother. Some of them are brilliant, infecting and educating future generations with their beautiful poems; Some are simple, strong and brave; Some are quiet and rigorous, dedicated to science; Some people are kind, caring and selfless. These women, their virtues, their kind words, their good deeds and their beautiful writings should be vigorously promoted by our public opinion, admired by people and imitated by children.
Adolescent girl is a bud that is about to bloom. Let every flower bloom full, solid, bright and fragrant, so that they can not only decorate the world, but also contribute to mankind and society. This is our highest pursuit as a teacher. Let every flower not be a epiphyllum, but bloom instantly in the most beautiful season of life, but always quietly open and stay for a long time, which is the original intention of our education for adolescent girls; They can have elegant and beautiful appearance, rich connotation and noble and perfect personality, which is the good hope of every girl.
How to educate adolescent girls II. Adolescence is an annoying transitional age for children and parents. If parents are not careful, it will seriously affect the emotional communication between parents and children. Girls are at the age of 12- 15, which is the fastest period of psychological and physical development. Psychologically, they long for independence and think they have grown up. Physically, it is developing into an adult. How to educate children at this stage in ideology, moral quality and scientific and cultural knowledge is particularly important. In order to cultivate children into all-round talents and avoid some adverse effects and go astray, we need to educate children from the following aspects.
First, education is the first priority. Today's society is full of brilliance.
This is a pluralistic society. People's ideological quality is uneven, especially a few people pursue fame and fortune by hook or by crook, which has a great influence on children whose thoughts are in transition. As parents, morality should start from itself, consciously resist the invasion of some bad ideas and set an example for children. When children's words and deeds are found to deviate from the law and social morality, we should seriously point out the consequences and harmfulness, guide children to the right track, and encourage them to establish a correct world outlook.
Second, every parent wants his son to be a dragon and his daughter to be a phoenix.
Educate parents of children to behave themselves. Parents should first create a good learning atmosphere for their children. Practice is better than precept. Parents are children's first teachers, and learning parents can certainly educate a child who loves learning. If parents can't control themselves and indulge in surfing the Internet and playing cards all day, it may be unrealistic for hyperactive children to calm down and read books and do their homework.
Third, go into the children's world and be their bosom friends.
First of all, we must understand the child's physiological changes. Help children correctly understand and accept their own physiological changes and cherish their sexual characteristics. In addition, the child's brain and nerves are gradually developing, and his emotions are prone to fluctuations and his feelings are very fragile. At this time, parents and teachers need to cooperate and guide and help in time. It is also particularly important to understand the psychological changes of children. Adolescent girls begin to have a sense of adulthood, and the independence and criticism of thinking have developed significantly, but their ability is not strong, and they are still one-sided and superficial. Began to realize the relationship between the two sexes and germinated the demand for sex and love; Interpersonal relationships are becoming more frequent, and they are eager to find friends with the same thoughts and feelings, but they are not good at combining feelings with reason. This requires the guidance and help of parents. Parents should always communicate with their children and understand their thoughts and actions before they can enter their world.
Fourth, don't be prejudiced against adolescent children.
I always thought that children at this stage would be rebellious. Parents should not try to suppress their children as soon as they see signs of independence, for fear that a slight concession will lead them astray. The more parents react, the more children will stick to their opinions; If parents forcibly suppress it, it is not only ineffective, but also counterproductive.
Fifth, let children have a healthy body.
At present, many parents only pay attention to the study of children's cultural knowledge and pay little attention to their children's physical exercise. You know, without a strong body, there is no healthy mind. No matter how great the ideal and ambition are, it is difficult to achieve because the mind is willing but unable to do so.
Sixth, establish a United front.
Children sometimes prefer one of their parents. A father may not be too hard on his children because of his daughter's intimate behavior. Similarly, when the father scolds the child for something, the mother will also defend the child because of her distress. Different attitudes towards children can lead to conflicts between parents. Therefore, when dealing with children's problems, we should discuss with our lover more and decide where to make concessions to each other. Then, reveal your decision to your child together. Both parents should reach a consensus on educating their children.
Generally speaking, when children enter adolescence, they need not only some material help from their parents, but also spiritual encouragement and psychological understanding and support from their parents. This requires parents to master some knowledge of psychology and pedagogy. If they can lay a good foundation for their world outlook and outlook on life during their adolescence, it will have a great impact on their lives. Let children spend their adolescence healthily and happily.