The girl's lonely back disappeared in front of my eyes. In many family education, such things are very common. Why do parents seldom apologize to their children? Excuse me. Is it really that difficult? This seems to belong to all parents? Common diseases? There used to be a topic on the Internet: Do you want your parents to apologize to you? Think this is everyone venting their grievances? Small world, huh? Among them, there are two things that impressed me most: even if I am wrong, my parents will never admit their mistakes to me; My mother and I called me to invite me to dinner to apologize.
When I was a child, my father misunderstood that I stole money from my family. Turning around in front of my friend is a slap in the face. The shocked eyes of my friends left a deep imprint on my heart. When I grew up, my mother asked my father to apologize half jokingly and half seriously. My father just waved his hand indifferently: It's all over, why mention him!
My mother told me that my father knew he had done something wrong, but he couldn't erase his face. How many parents does my father have? They always think that we will forgive them even if they are wrong, but they don't know how many children have been waiting for their apologies. Some people say, look how good your dad is to you, buy you everything, and he agrees with everything you do. In fact, it's like? Are these shoes comfortable? Only the feet know? Only we know how our parents are doing.
When I was a child, several friends got together to discuss the hope of growing up quickly, but the reason was that they could reprimand my children when they grew up. In our subconscious, parents only need to reprimand their children when they are wrong, even if it is not their fault. Look, this is what parents tell us with their own actions, but when we really become parents, we really become parents. Excuse me. I don't know how to say three words.
In fact, apologizing to children is not a shameful thing. If you still can't say it, try to change it slowly. First of all, it is not an apology, but a hug to soothe the child's injured heart. Even if you can't say something, let him feel your apology. Holding him in your arms and kissing his little face are all good ways to convey your apology.
After that, try telling the children? Excuse me. Hugs and kisses can only comfort young babies. With the growth of age, this method seems perfunctory and insincere. Try telling your children? Am I wrong? 、? Excuse me. There is no shame in taking the first step bravely. On the contrary, children will be proud of you.
Finally, writing letters is the best way to convey feelings. The traditional conservative psychology of the Chinese nation makes many people unwilling or even afraid to express themselves. At this time, they can use words and even pictures to express their true thoughts. Our family has always had the habit of using words to express themselves, not because we can't say those three words, but because I think written expression is more sincere.
When my son was young, the child couldn't read the written words. I would draw a picture, put it in an envelope and put it quietly where my son could see it. My son will tell me what he wants to say with pictures. This method can not only enhance the affection between parents and children, but also collect these wonderful memories.
Have you seen such a sentence? Parents are waiting for us to be grateful, we are waiting for their apologies, and finally none of us can get what we want. ? Education is not to make children become? Muppets? On the contrary, we should set an example and teach them respect and empathy. In the process of education, it is not only children who grow up, but more importantly, parents' transformation and growth.