1, I have many children; 2. The children I come into contact with are of different ages: from kindergarten children to college students. Of course, due to special reasons, there are also many college graduates who "successfully get diplomas" and go to the society. 3, because there are more children in contact, I like to ponder and find something universal from the cross section of a certain age; There are many children of different ages, and some universal things are found from the dynamic development of children's growth process; My experience is that I worked as a teacher and a manager in an enterprise. This kind of experience made me discover the disjointed things between "learning, growing up and going to society". In other words, when children grow up, they don't necessarily grow up. If he has mastered a skill, he may not be an "adult talent" with a diploma.
I've been thinking that there are many reasons for the embarrassment between two people. You're welcome to say that there are many reasons for this phenomenon, including society, schools, families, history and modernity, but after careful study, the "ignorant smell" of our parents in family education can't escape. "There are thousands of roads in the dream, and I still sell tofu when I wake up." It is better to "start with me" than to complain about others. The reason why I dare to say something in front of everyone stems from my personal experience as a parent, teacher and manager.
There are some unforgettable painful lessons, as well as some comforting and pleasant experiences and insights. I am willing to communicate with you, even if it is just a little reminder; Secondly, when I learned that so many parents are repeating my mistakes, I suddenly realized a helpless objective reality: with the birth of a child, we have another professional title-father or mother, but we haven't learned how to do it yet. Although we have all received some education, even very professional higher education, no one has taught us how to be a father and a mother. Although we are subjectively "conscientious" every day, it is extremely hard, but what is the effect? Only God knows! The objective fact is that there are many gaps and misunderstandings in how to be parents and how to educate children. In my customary way, if it is just blank, it is not terrible. What is terrible is those misunderstandings: misunderstandings make us parents always impose something we think is right on our children.
To borrow a word: prejudice is farther from the truth than ignorance. When we do this, we will never think of all kinds of consequences; Unexpectedly, when we don't want to see the consequences, our life, family, mentality, body, work, career and so on. Will fall into chaos. What can we do then? Who knows! As some parents and friends told me, I am eager to learn, and I hope to get some help, not just self-exploration, because the price of self-exploration is that when I know the right method, I can't start from scratch. As I always say: life is not a play to be performed, but can be rehearsed; Life is a one-way street. Once it's over, there's no turning back.
In the education of children, schools and teachers have done some work to teach children some cultural knowledge and the truth of being a man and doing things. What should we do as parents? What can you do? It is also an urgent and big topic, and it is worth spending a lot of energy to communicate widely, learn from others and keep learning, so as to effectively guide, make our children happier, make our families happier and make our lives more exciting.