This kind of child doesn't want to communicate with others. He has to bear everything alone and be silent in front of everyone. Parents don't want their children to become like this. What kind of family education led to this situation?
Xiaohua fell down in primary school and left an obvious scar on his leg. She likes wearing beautiful clothes and skirts since she was a child. After that, she stopped wearing skirts and became silent.
In everyone's mind, Xiaohua is a lively and cheerful girl, but later she became an introverted child. It all started with the scar on her leg. Instead of comforting her after her fall, her parents blamed her for carelessness. They also laughed at her and said, look at you, it's ugly to leave such a big scar. Don't wear skirts in the future.
This sentence has brought great harm to Xiaohua's young mind, and it is also the main reason why she becomes introverted. Xiaohua's parents didn't encourage and comfort Xiaohua after she fell, but attacked and laughed at him, which made Xiaohua feel inferior because of the scar, so she didn't dare to wear a skirt for fear that others would say the same things as her parents.
Some parents will complain to others that children are like gourds and don't like to talk. In fact, parents' behavior will affect their children. Some children are the epitome of their parents. Don't blame the children for their problems. The problem lies with parents.
1. Long-term attacks on children's families
The education that some families give their children is frustrating, that is, they often throw cold water on their children. Some children like to dance and sing when they are young, and they will sing along with TV. Some parents will say that they are ugly and singing is not good.
Parents may not praise their children because they are afraid of their pride, but such a blow has hurt them. Because they will have a feeling that my parents think I am not good, then others will definitely think I am not good, I am poor, and a sense of inferiority will arise.
2. Families living too frugally
Most people are vain, especially younger children, which is particularly prominent. They don't hide themselves, and even compare who wears the most beautiful clothes today. Some families are very frugal. Most of the clothes children wear are old clothes of their brothers and sisters, and some of them have been mended several times.
Adults may think it doesn't matter, and buying a new one is also a waste of money, but the comparison of children will hurt that child invisibly. Children who are not sensible will laugh at him for wearing old clothes, rags and not even making friends with him. Because his parents ask him to do that, he can't change the status quo, which will lead to no one making friends with him, and the ridicule of his classmates will make him lift his head and become inferior.
3. Children without parents
Some parents are sometimes very busy at work and are very lacking in taking care of their children. Children may not be around when they are sick, and sometimes even children bear it alone. I met unhappy things at school and no one told me when I came home. After school, other students were taken home by their parents, but he went home alone.
These details will lead children to become introverted and inferior. He envies his classmates who have parents around him. He is afraid to associate with them because he is afraid that others will laugh at him like a child without parents. Too little parental company will make children feel insecure and become timid and introverted.
1. Don't want to be with people
Children with low self-esteem will not like to associate with others, because they will have a kind of pressure to feel that they can't play well with others, and others will say that they are not good.
Children need to socialize. If they don't associate with others, they will always be lonely, which will make their inferiority complex stronger and more serious.
2. easy to blame yourself
Children with low self-esteem are afraid of making mistakes, but the tension caused by low self-esteem will make them make mistakes more frequently. If things are not done well, they will deny themselves more, and children will indulge in self-blame.
3. Lose hope in life
This is very serious. When children feel inferior to a certain extent, they will become very negative. I feel that living is meaningless, and I can't do anything well, which is much worse than others. Driven by this psychology, they may do things that hurt themselves.
1. Encourage and praise children more.
Being praised by parents, the child is very happy. When they do something, don't blame them even if they are not good parents. Encourage them to receive education. Praise their good work and encourage them to make persistent efforts. The encouragement given by parents will make them confident and become confident.
2. Influence children with a positive attitude
Parents have a great influence on their children. Sometimes parents' attitude towards something is the attitude of future children. Therefore, when children are around, parents should be positive and not bring negative emotions to their children.
? When children encounter problems, they will think about what their parents did and they will do the same. Positive treatment will not make people feel depressed, people will become positive and will not feel inferior.
Many parents only pay attention to their children's grades and physical health, without considering their mental health. When the inferiority complex is formed, children's lives will lose a lot of their own colors.
Parents should not only pay attention to their children's health, but also pay attention to their psychology, help them overcome their inferiority complex and let them realize themselves well.
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