What should not be done to children in sex education?
1. Instill "having sex = getting pregnant"
More than half of teenagers always get the clear message that unintended pregnancy is wrong. 7 1% female teenagers and 64% male teenagers are in favor of or strongly opposed to unmarried women having children, which is a good phenomenon. But what is even more worrying is that 14% of girls and 18% of boys said that they would be very happy if they were pregnant (or caused them to be pregnant). Parents should not instill in their children the idea that sex will lead to pregnancy, because this may bring pressure to their children's hearts, which will lead them to extremes.
2. Too laissez-faire
You know, monitoring and supervising the behavior of your adolescent children are two different things. Know who their friends are. Don't think that you will know if your child has sex. -Most parents don't. Always show your concern and love for your children, not when they misbehave. In addition, if they have a brother or sister who is having sex, please pay close attention to him/her-in this case, teenagers are more likely to have sex earlier.
3. Taboo discussion
When it comes to doing this, teenagers need accurate information in order to make an informed decision. If your children ask you questions about contraception and sex, don't think they are having sex. Most parents agree that they prefer their children to remain abstinent, but this does not mean that teenagers are not curious about sex. Remember, abstinence education alone can't stop teenagers from having sex. Only a comprehensive sex education program can make teenagers postpone sex. Therefore, don't fall into the trap of thinking that discussing contraception with children will encourage sexual behavior.
Although you may feel uncomfortable discussing sex with your children, your children may feel even more embarrassed. Please do everything possible to make them feel comfortable and respected. Encourage them to ask questions and discuss with them. In any case, we should protect our children's adulthood. This responsibility is very extensive, and the input of sexual knowledge is an indispensable part, which can help your child learn how to make safe and wise sexual decisions.
Parents should pay attention to the following aspects when conducting correct and healthy sex education for their children:
1. Suitable age
Theoretically speaking, the gender differences between men and women, especially the primary sexual characteristics, can be solved before children's puberty. As far as the current social and cultural situation is concerned, it is best to answer the difference of primary sexual characteristics between men and women before the age of 5. Sex education should be more advanced, but it is inseparable from children's understanding ability.
2. Appropriate methods
Children can speak with their parents' bodies before the age of 5, but after the age of 5, it is more appropriate to use books, audio-visual materials and other methods.
3. Appropriate content
Children's sex education, the content of each age group should be focused. You should solve simple problems such as gender knowledge before the age of 5. Before puberty, sexual physiology education should be carried out; Sexual psychology and moral education should be carried out at a young age.
In short, sex education for children should adhere to natural and appropriate principles, and should not be done deliberately, nor should we look at children's problems from an adult's perspective.