In terms of educating children, even though we have lived 20 or 30 years longer than children, we are still novices in this field. Only through practice can we really know whether our methods are right or not.
German philosopher gottfried? William? Leibniz
Say: there is not a leaf in the world? So every child's personality is different.
There are such children in life, often showing one track-minded, stuck in a dead end, Northeast dialect? Hey? Such children really give Bao Dad and Ma Bao a headache. They are often worried that they will suffer because they are inflexible when they grow up.
In fact, everything has two sides. It is a bad thing to fall into a dead end and not see one track-minded. It depends on how your parents guide you.
It is not necessarily a disadvantage for children to be obsessed with the dead end.
Shanshan's child is five years old this year. When Shanshan talks about her children, she always says? Can my little stubborn donkey really kill people in one day? .
It turns out that Shanshan's son likes to get into a dead end. He should not only get to the bottom of everything, but also play according to his own ideas.
One day, Shanshan's son was playing dominoes, but he went to the same place every time. He couldn't put them away. He put them down several times, and the little guy kept putting them down while crying angrily.
Shanshan wanted to help the child divert attention, so she invited him to lunch, but the child had to finish eating before eating. Although Shanshan is angry, she is more worried about whether the child has a personality deviation. Is she suffering from what people often say? Obsessive-compulsive disorder
One-track mind and persistence in doing things are separated by a window paper.
The situation of Shanshan's son in the above article is actually not a case. Many children will have problems of one kind or another at different times. Shanshan's son is probably in a sensitive period of children's order, so parents should guide him correctly.
We should treat this matter dialectically:
First of all, this situation of children shows that they are persistent in doing things, can persist until the end, and will not give up halfway. This is a rare quality, which is very important in future work and study.
Secondly, this kind of child has a distinct personality, has his own ideas and opinions, and will not be led by others in other aspects in the future.
However, parents should pay attention to the fact that when children have this kind of personality, they should guide them correctly, keep the best, remove impurities and avoid the deviation of their personality.
Correct guidance endows children with rare qualities.
(1) Accompany children through the sensitive period of order.
At this stage, children's cognition of space, time and other order begins to become sensitive. They hope that the orderly development of things around them conforms to their own thinking logic, and once they go against their inner thoughts, they will be agitated and cry.
When parents encounter such problems, they must guide their children correctly, don't scold or rudely interrupt them, and guide them slowly through stories and natural changes.
The sensitive period of order will gradually weaken with the change of children's age, so parents can neither be too nervous nor let themselves go.
2 analyze the process, inform the consequences, and let the children measure themselves.
When children have problems, we should help them analyze the process of things, and tell them to blindly stick to the consequences they see, and then let them measure their own experiences, and then find the right opportunity to understand their inner thoughts after the things are over, and then guide them.
③ Set the bottom line.
Everything has rules and bottom lines. When the child's persistence becomes unreasonable, parents should stop it in time, tell the child what the bottom line is, and let the child know what is right and wrong.
The growth of children is not smooth sailing. Mom and dad are helmsmen, so we should guide them to sail and sail correctly.