In the eyes of Jewish parents, all kinds of skills education in schools, including music, dance, art, tennis and other sports, are essential nutrients for children's growth. However, these educations cannot provide a training ground for children's life experience.
On the issue of education, Jewish parents abandoned many flashy things and put survival education in the first place, aiming at the original intention of education-to make every child live better when he grows up.
Jewish education made me see the other side of things. In the contact with Israeli friends around me, I gradually understand why Jews are so smart and why they have grasped the economic pulse of the world with a proportion of only 3% of the world population. They don't rely on the so-called high IQ, but the family education that has been grounded in life since childhood.
Compared with our contemporary families in China, parents give children everything as long as they study hard according to their parents' wishes. Children lack personal experience and feel that learning has no important connection with family and life.
Even after graduating from college, many children still don't know how to make a living and get married.
In fact, it is not so difficult to mobilize the enthusiasm of children. The key depends on whether our parents are prepared in concept and action. Moreover, children are usually more sensitive, smarter, more observant and more studious than we think. Otherwise, why do some educators say: there are no improper children, only improper education?
My three children have a lot of contact with local children in Israel. Seeing Jewish children of the same age can often bear some small expenses by themselves, but they don't say it, but they are also envious and envious.
When I announced that our family would also implement the paid living mechanism, the children were ready to try. However, it turns out that many things are not as simple as imagined, and it is in the process of overcoming these difficulties that they truly feel what life is, what is the goal of life, and what kind of life dreams can be realized by grades and academic qualifications.
After the family meeting, it was decided that the paid living mechanism would start with helping me sell spring rolls. At that time, I was afraid to let my children work too far away from my sight. Since you want to engage in paid labor, let's start by helping me.
I can make one or two hundred spring rolls every day. I wholesale them to children at the price of 0.3 shekels per spring roll (2 yuan RMB 1 shekels). They can sell at a higher price and the profits are freely distributed. If they are unwilling to undertake the sales, they can also help me make some spring rolls at home, but the commission will be less. For example, making spring rolls is 10%, and selling spring rolls is 20%. Selling spring rolls exercises children's viability more than making them. It needs to deal with strangers, put forward more tests, and make greater contributions to our family's spring roll cause. Therefore, I made rules for my children according to the regular business. After making the rules, Huahe reached an agreement on their respective division of labor.
Yihua is introverted. He thought it was particularly painful for him to sell spring rolls, so he offered to help me make them at home. I am responsible for making family rules, but I don't interfere with children's independent choices. I told Yihua that it takes an hour to get up early every day to make spring rolls, and the percentage of commission is smaller, so I earn less pocket money. However, since China is willing to undertake this task, I believe he will do well.
Hui Hui is more outgoing. He said to me, "mom, I'm going to sell spring rolls!" Selling spring rolls earns twice as much as sleeping an hour more every day than making spring rolls. " Yihua saw her brother challenge a more difficult job, and was a little tempted, but conservative, leaving herself a way out. He discussed with me and said, mom, can I try to sell spring rolls while making them? ""of course! "Mothers must give strong support to their children's reasonable suggestions.
The youngest daughter and sister are less than four years old. When they saw that both brothers had joined the family's new plan, they also ran happily. "You are responsible for pulling out spring rolls every day!" China directly handed the task to her sister. The job of pulling out the skin of spring rolls is to push the skin of spring rolls away.
My sister likes to follow me around, and this job makes her very satisfied. When the rules of paid living were worked out, the children began to split up. Yihua has never made spring rolls. He doesn't know how to spread his skin. At first, he was experimenting with flour. However, Yihua's personality is very delicate. He observed the details of my spring rolls. Then, he was bored in the kitchen. After consuming three kilograms of flour, he came out with a plate of spring rolls and said to me with tears of joy, "Mom, there are ten of them, and I can earn 0.3 shekels."
Later, after a successful career in China, I recalled the years of spring rolls and said with emotion: "The paste should not be too thick or too thin. The highest state is as soft as satin. " Hui Hui, the youngest son, contracted the sale of spring rolls. Can he finish the task as he wishes?
At first, I followed Hui Hui. I'm not worried about his safety. I am more worried that if sales are frustrated, it will leave a small shadow in his heart. As a mother, I must plan ahead. Before pushing the child out of the house, I held the child's hand tightly and then slowly released it. As expected, Hui Hui panicked and took the spring roll basket.
Hui Hui is usually an extroverted child. He is lively and laughs, and can deal with strangers. However, for the first time in sales, he looked at the coming and going vehicles and pedestrians and couldn't open his mouth. This is actually the gap between China children and Jewish children. Dealing with customers one-on-one is a common occurrence for Jewish children.
I often see many Jewish children selling their second-hand books and toys at the gate of residential areas. They can always communicate with people happily and show attractive persuasion ability. The hardest part is actually that at the beginning, Hui Hui felt sorry for the spring roll basket and wanted to give it up. He turned to me for help. I stood on the street corner to cheer him up.
I walked over and gave Hui Hui the greatest encouragement with my eyes, just like telling him: Never mind, this is the beginning. Hui Hui was in front of a children's shop, so he got up the courage to go in. The shopkeeper has been busy, and Hui Hui is very polite. He waited patiently by, until the shopkeeper was finished, and then he went to sell his spring rolls. However, the shopkeeper was not interested in spring rolls and waved his hand gently to show that he didn't need them. Although he politely refused, this kind of thing is a bit embarrassing for us adults, let alone children.
However, there is no climate in Hui Hui, so I vaccinated him at home. I told him: selling spring rolls is not easy, even my mother can't handle it sometimes, so don't be pressured, just try your best and teach him some regular communication rules. Later, Hui Hui told me that these preparations were very useful.
When he saw that the shopkeeper refused him, he was disappointed at first and thought it was not a good start, but he immediately remembered what his mother had told him. He politely said to the shopkeeper, "It doesn't matter if you don't buy it now. I can deliver it for you when you need it or if you have a party at the weekend. You can also order. Our family not only has spring rolls, but also provides many China snacks. " Hui Hui, keep going. The second shop he entered was the grocery store.
The grocery store sells all kinds of snacks, drinks, pickled snacks and a small amount of stationery. The shopkeeper saw Hui Hui come in with a basket and said, "China, what do you want?" At that time, we were the only China people living in the Israeli town of Shemona, and everyone was a stranger to us. Hui Hui said politely to the shopkeeper as I practiced at home before, "Hello! Would you like to try some delicious China spring rolls? This is China Spring Roll made by my mother. They are very delicious. You are sure to like them. " The owner of the grocery store is a Jewish woman in her forties. She is very kind, very kind. She praised Hui Hui's ability and bought two spring rolls in his basket. This is Hui Hui 13' s first business. He once stood outside the store and hesitated. He couldn't open his tongue for a time. After that, he seems to be a brand-new person.
The paid living mechanism has completely changed two children. On the premise of not delaying study, children go out at 6: 30 every morning and sell them on the way to school. Sometimes it sells well, and it sells out quickly, so I run home to get some more. Sometimes when it's time for class and the spring rolls are not sold out, they will buckle their boxes and prepare to take them home after school. Sometimes after school in the afternoon, they also go to restaurants to sell some spring rolls.
I made a request to them: don't forget to study when selling spring rolls, take a small notebook with you at ordinary times, ask the older elders for Hebrew that the teacher taught but didn't understand, and then write it down. Although children only sell spring rolls for one or two dollars, I found that two children with completely different personalities changed a lot in the process of selling spring rolls.
Yihua is very introverted. He is not very good at dealing with people. It is difficult for him to sell spring rolls one-on-one. He will not feel happy or happy. Although several times, he also took spring rolls to school to sell, but he always secretly completed the task in a low-key way, unable to find a sense of value. This actually deviates from the original intention of the paid living mechanism.
Because the purpose of paid living mechanism is not to urge children to make money, but to let children understand labor ethics, mobilize their enthusiasm for survival, help them establish their ideals of life and cultivate their sense of responsibility. I encourage Eduardo to communicate with Jewish students, even to talk more about life in Shanghai, because Jewish children's marketing awareness is so flexible.
When my daughter and sister first arrived in Israel, they were still very young and reserved. Her job scope is to help me and her brother do some small housework at home, such as pulling spring rolls, counting spring rolls and cleaning the room. Later, when she was a little older, she learned to make black tea and toast. Every night, she will carefully cook a pot of black tea with different tastes of bread slices made by herself, and the family will sit down and talk while eating. The snacks made by my daughter combine Chinese and western tastes, and both brothers like them very much. If she is given money for tea and snacks, her sister will be happy to put the money in her piggy bank and then take out her savings to buy a card for her brother on his birthday.
"Don't leave your due reward until the next morning" is one of the basic principles of the paid living mechanism of Jewish parents. I give their share to Huahua and Hui Hui every day. With their mother's pocket money, the children didn't waste it.
Huahua and Hui Hui are busy buying snacks and small gifts for their families. The electricity, water and telephone bills disappeared as soon as they came up. Sometimes I haven't seen the telephone bill for several months, so I call the telephone office to ask why I didn't send us a bill.
"I have already paid it!" The other party answered in surprise.
After several years of tempering, Huahua and Hui Hui are no longer two boys with outstretched hands when they first arrived. In the past, I always kept them in cages. They always feel that they are caged birds and should be fed. Now when they see that they have run out of things at home, they will quietly buy them back to make up. Almost all the oil, salt, vinegar, toothpaste, washing powder and food in the refrigerator are bought by themselves.
Brothers, this time you buy, next time he buys, whoever wins pays. Yi Hua and Hui Hui said that whenever they pay water and electricity bills or buy daily necessities, they feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when they think that they can share their worries for their mothers and contribute to their families, and that they are no longer what their neighbors call waste.
Because parents cherish their children, and because of the backward educational concept, they artificially shut out the most important labor ethics course for their children, which has not brought them a better tomorrow and a brighter future. In fact, they exchanged their children's grades for their parents' kindness at the moment. In the eyes of Jewish parents, every child has the potential to become a rich man, and every child has the potential to visit the world like a duck to water. The key is whether parents' family education can be tapped.
-"especially cruel and special love"