I know it's hard, but it's only temporary.

Encourage children, if only let him work hard, not to talk about their inner experiences and feelings, it is difficult to have an effect.

There is a very popular saying on the internet: people only care about whether you fly high or not, and no one cares about whether you are tired or not.

Children are tired and eager to be understood. Understanding children is not to tolerate them indefinitely, but to admit the rationality of their negative emotions such as anger, sadness and disappointment.

Therefore, the first step to encourage children is to see them, accept their feelings, see their fears and see their struggles.

Tell the child: "I know you are sad, let's find a way together." The feeling of being recognized and accepted will really push children to make positive changes.

Second, "You are working hard, and you are …".

Every child is unique in the world. See the strengths, details and efforts of children.

For example, today, children encounter many problems in doing homework, writing slowly and making many mistakes. You can say, "Never mind, you have devoted yourself to today's homework, and you have written it neatly!" "

It is very important to make children aware of the process and details, so that next time he will pay attention to the process and develop a growing mentality by trying to change the final result.

Third, "You can fail, but we can try again".

As parents, we are sometimes more afraid of failure than our children.

You can't see the child's progress and efforts. You only look at the results, and then use a certain result to completely deny and attack the child.

In fact, the last child is more sad than the adult. What they need most is the hug, comfort, support and encouragement from their parents.

If adults can't treat failure and success with a normal heart, then children will become more and more nervous and gradually have no way to face failure.

It is the aspiration of all parents to hope that their children will succeed, but teaching children how to face setbacks and failures is an unavoidable course in education.