First, avoid nagging, say it only once, and don't always think about preaching and nagging children. Parents should try their best to control their emotions and words. If children don't make principled mistakes, it is best not to reprimand and preach. Leaving room for children to grow up and let them overcome alone is more conducive to the improvement of children's independent ability.
Don't nag all the time when you have to preach, just tell the sermon and its main idea once, grasp the key to the problem and spread it to the practical things. Don't involve the past and keep blaming, otherwise it will make children feel bored and unmotivated. Finally, you can give a small example to illustrate that deep understanding is more useful to children than empty talk.
Second, we might as well replace words with actions. Some parents like to remind their children by nagging. They feel that it is always unreasonable and self-disciplined not to preach to children, but excessive preaching will only cause children's rebellious psychology and even damage their self-esteem. At this time, instead of nagging, it is better to take action or set goals to control and teach children. When children are lazy and ignorant, ending meaningless nagging can be slightly punished, so that children can bear the due adverse effects and reflect on themselves.
For example, children will get dirty if they don't have to play in the water. No matter how hard it is, children will turn a blind eye. Parents can try to let their children bear the consequences and wash their dirty clothes. Children feel the lesson and will definitely correct it. At the same time, we can replace preaching with overall goals, set accurate overall goals for children, and strictly manage children to complete their goals within the specified time. If they exceed the limited time, they need to be punished. After asking for an accurate overall goal for a long time, there is no need for parents to nag, and children have a sense of urgency to achieve the goal.
Third, listening patiently is more useful than preaching. Children will inevitably have setbacks and mistakes when they grow up. The core of parents' nagging is to remind children to get twice the result with half the effort, but nagging is not an effective educational concept. What children need most is encouragement and relief. Children are easily encouraged by their parents' patience and immediate relief.
When children feel wronged or hurt, they want to talk to others, so they get spiritual comfort and recognition. Parents should talk less, listen more carefully to their children's stories, and give them a good opportunity to express their ideas at will. Only love and understanding can better communicate and educate children.