Family education experience set 1
Children are innocent and pure, and brain development is not only influenced by basic heredity, but also has a lot to do with life experiences in early childhood. If parents don't let their children realize that it takes great efforts to make contributions, and children encounter many difficulties in their efforts, they will think that they can't be the kind of people their parents say, and they will feel depressed and sad, which will seriously affect their confidence in making progress and seeking knowledge. Therefore, parents should help their children to establish correct values! Let's share some ways to establish children's correct values from our own family education experience!
1. Create adversity and sharpen children's perseverance
Don't spoil children, you can create some setbacks and test their perseverance.
2. Let children start by overcoming small difficulties.
We should be strict with our children, let them overcome difficulties and gradually improve, and we must persist in achieving results.
3. Play a role model and stimulate self-exercise.
According to the characteristics of children, parents can tell stories, watch movies, go to the Martyrs Memorial Hall and read books. Let children learn typical characters, inspire self-education and cultivate perseverance.
4. The combination of love and strictness
Correct love for children is the basis of cultivating children's good character. If parents want to love their children properly, they must unify love and strictness. Parents are strict with their children in behavior quality, and children will certainly suffer, but in the long run, it will help cultivate their good character. Fear of children suffering, too accommodating to children, may lead to Japan, their willfulness and dependence are strong, and they can't suffer in their later lives. In fact, whether children will be happy in the future is more influenced by their personality.
5. Help children set up lofty ideals
Ideal is the core of personality. Ideal is a conscious pursuit gradually formed in children's minds through the inspiration and guidance of parents, teachers and society. Parents can't set goals, set ideals and impose them on their children. The child is naive. They often want to be a writer when they grow up, because they read an article that touched them, and they want to be a scientist, because they visited a natural museum. They may decide to be teachers when they grow up, because they met an amiable and lovely teacher. Don't easily deny these ideas of children, but encourage them to be positive and ambitious. With the growth of age, according to the emergence of different advantages of different children, we will gradually guide them to develop in the right direction.
6. Pay attention to cultivating from daily trifles.
Drop water to see the sun. It is not enough to talk about the director of the avenue to cultivate children's sound personality. It is important to start from daily life.
Family education experience set II
As a mother, my wish is a happy life and healthy growth for my daughter! My daughter has always wanted to be a perfect child in front of the teacher since she was a child. As a result, it backfired, showing too much concern and self-confidence.
Rousseau, a French educator, once said: "Self-confidence is the miracle of his career. With it, his talents can be inexhaustible; A person without self-confidence will not seize an opportunity no matter how talented he is. "
Therefore, self-confidence is the most precious wealth in life.
Experts at home and abroad have also investigated talented people and found that they all share several excellent qualities, one of which is self-confidence without inferiority.
In view of my daughter's actual performance, I think the cultivation of self-confidence should be particularly important during her growth. As for the cultivation of children's self-confidence, I mainly adopt the following methods:
First, the care of parents is the cornerstone of children's self-confidence.
Parents should express their love for their children and let them feel the love from their parents all the time, so that they will be more confident no matter what they do.
My daughter often plays all kinds of strange faces and asks me: If she looks like this, do I love her? Or if she lacks an eye, or has no legs or arms, do I still love her? Once when she asked me this question again, I didn't tell her the answer directly, but told her a story: "An angel came into this world and said to a mother, I have a gift, and I want you to help me give it to the cutest child in the world. After a while, the angel came again and asked his mother if she had given a gift to the cutest child. Mother said, I looked around and thought my child was the cutest, so I gave the gift to my child. " Through this story, I let my daughter know that whether she is beautiful or not, she is the cutest and most beautiful in the eyes of her parents.
After her daughter went to school, she began to worry about what to do with her poor academic performance. I often ask, mom, if I don't study well and get the first place in my class, do you still love me? I always tell her without hesitation that the first place in the exam is not the key, but whether you work hard or not. As long as you work hard, no matter which place you get in the exam, mom will love you and cheer for you!
Second, self-confidence needs the publicity of personality. In daily life, give children more opportunities to show themselves.
My daughter likes singing since she was a child and has a good memory. Before the cartoon was finished, the ending song of the theme song began to sing and dance.
Once, her father's unit held a "August 1" celebration, and the soldiers were singing blindly. Her father encouraged her to sing a song on stage, and her daughter's song "Invisible Wings" won everyone's applause before it was over.
We encouraged our daughter to sing boldly after discovering this specialty. For the first time, she participated in Changji Children's Singer Karaoke TV Competition, and her five-year-old daughter won the third prize in the children's group. Since then, our daughter's hobbies have been out of control, and she is willing to sing on any occasion, and she does not have stage fright when singing. She also said that she really wanted to participate in the children's program of CCTV's Baby Family. Teacher Liu's comment "You are versatile" made her beautiful for a long time during the winter vacation. She told me confidently that she should not only be versatile in the future, but also help the teacher manage the class as the teacher said.
Children need to be discovered and affirmed when they grow up, especially those who don't know themselves well, and they need to be appreciated by others. Children's hobbies become specialties, which stems from the encouragement and support of parents. Don't be afraid of children's pride. Children will show their personality in publicity. At this time, teachers and parents should proudly say to her, "You are great!"
Third, grasp small links to improve children's self-confidence in learning.
When my daughter first went to school, she gestured to me with her hand because she was not quick in mental arithmetic. Her interest in Chinese is no less than that of an elephant, and her interest in mathematics is second only to that of a watermelon. One day, after she came back, she said happily to me, "Mom, Teacher Ding made me a math committee member of the first group today!" " "I asked," why? " She said, "I don't know. Maybe I am serious in class. " I quickly said, "the math study Committee must be good at math." She asked me nervously, "Does Teacher Ding Na know that I am not interested in learning mathematics?" I said, "Teacher Ding not only doesn't know, but must think that your interest in mathematics is still great! ""She said seriously, "Now, I want to study math, and I must make my interest in learning math bigger." With the encouragement of teachers and us, in the process of collecting large groups of math homework every day, her enthusiasm for learning math is gradually rising. Sometimes, when I do some math problems with my brain, I will happily say, "Mom, I was wrong to do such problems before, but now I am right." I think math used to be quite interesting! " During the winter vacation, she asked me to buy her a first-grade math exercise paper, and sometimes she was very enthusiastic. She has to do several papers a day, so that her father and I can correct them carefully to see if she has made progress. At the beginning of this semester, I took her to the bookstore. She said to me, "Mom, buy me a workbook to strengthen the application problems. I'm a math Commissioner, but I don't think I can learn application problems well. " We made full use of the opportunity of "the teacher asked her to undertake the task of accepting a large group of math homework" to encourage her. Now, she has confidence in learning mathematics and her interest in learning mathematics is getting stronger and stronger.
Fourth, when children are frustrated, give them encouragement of love in time.
A hug, a kiss and an encouraging word can help children regain their confidence.
After her daughter goes to school, she is especially looking forward to wearing a red scarf one day earlier. But when the teacher announced that she had joined the team, she found that her daughter's self-confidence was hit by the lack of her own name. After returning home, he told me with tears: "mom, I think I study hard, too." Why didn't I join the team this time? Does the teacher dislike me? "
I suddenly realized that the process of children's growth was so smooth that I hardly suffered too many setbacks. You can't grow up without setbacks, but you must guide your children in time and correctly, and don't let them be defeated by setbacks. I held my daughter in my arms and said to her, "You didn't wear a red scarf this time. Mom thinks it's not that the teacher doesn't like you. It must be that you haven't done anything well! " The daughter thought for a moment and said, "Am I not active enough to answer questions in class?" Because my daughter is a child who pursues perfection and is too cautious, I know that my daughter is not very active in answering questions in class and always raises her hand when she thinks she can get 100% right.
After listening to my daughter's words, I thought it was a good opportunity, so I said, "Yes, although you are serious in class and homework, you are not bold enough to answer questions, which will also affect your joining the team." Think about what you haven't done well. "The daughter said," Mom, I can't remember. Why not ask Teacher Liu! " "My daughter is always careful, afraid that the teacher will beg me for anything. Let me ask the teacher. I took the opportunity to say: you dare not ask the teacher, you are timid. This is also a shortcoming, which will definitely affect joining the team. "
In order to join the team one day earlier, my daughter finally got up the courage to ask Miss Liu why she didn't join the team. When teacher Liu kindly told her that "it is not enough to join the team by studying hard on your own, but also to help other students and care more about the class group", first of all, her daughter confirmed that she did not join the team because the teacher didn't like it. Secondly, she knows where she needs to work hard. Later, when it was her turn to be the group leader, I took the opportunity to say, "Look, Miss Liu gave you an opportunity to help your classmates and care about your class. Mom believes that you will do well! " With the encouragement of teachers and parents, my daughter is also very happy. The little notebook carefully records the homework that the players hand in every day. Although the handwriting is immature, I feel that my daughter is happier and more confident than before.
No matter how busy I go home every day, I always take time to listen to my daughter talk about her study and life at school. As long as I hear her raise her hand and wait for a little progress in her study, or the team leader gets a little happiness in serving everyone, I will encourage her and give her a high five. Finally, one day, when I said I wanted to ask Miss Liu something, my daughter volunteered, "Mom, by the way, ask Miss Liu. I have recently answered questions. I know that with her personality, let me take the initiative to ask the teacher about his situation at school. I'm sure I feel good about myself Sure enough, Mr. Liu said that he had changed a lot recently, and he was much more active in answering questions in class than before.
Later, the teacher arranged for her to take charge of her large group of exercise books and remember the texts. Every once in a while, her classmates would call her to ask her homework. She feels that the teacher has a great responsibility for her small officials and plays an important role in the class group. She can help everyone, she is no worse than others, and her daughter has found her confidence again.
Confidence comes from the hint of success, and fear comes from the hint of failure. Once people's positive hints are formed, they will help you succeed just like sailing; On the other hand, the formation of negative psychological suggestion, which cannot be eliminated in time, will affect the success of life.
The cultivation of self-confidence is not achieved overnight, it requires the close cooperation and persistent efforts of parents and teachers. Although there is still a big gap between my daughter's self-confidence now and my expected goal, I believe that as long as the method is proper and persistent, she will become more and more confident.
The above is just my experience, and I believe there are many good practices. I hope that my little experience can play a role in attracting jade, and I hope that all children can turn their confidence into powerful wings and fly to happiness! Fly to success!
Family education experience set 3
Everything is difficult at the beginning, and education itself is a norm of moral behavior. The education problem of students is not only the school's, but also the family's. Family is a child's first teacher and a teacher of family education. It is through family education that parents impart good moral character, rich knowledge and experience to their children. For the future of the children. Lay a solid foundation in life. In my opinion, the key to doing a good job in family education should be to "prescribe the right medicine" according to the characteristics of children.
Children are like flowers in spring, innocent, lively and lovely, and have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong. At the same time, they are curious, receptive and imitative. Therefore, parents should never use simple and rude methods when educating their children. We should be good at guiding, try our best to stimulate their interest and change passive learning into active learning. They should mainly do the following work:
First, cultivate children's good study habits.
Ye Shengtao said: "Education is the formation of habits." "All good attitudes and good methods should become habits. Only when proficiency becomes a habit can we express a good attitude at any time and place, and apply good methods at any time and place, as if by instinct, we can never use them all our lives. " Children's concentration time is short, so they must improve their learning efficiency in peacetime. For example, when writing homework, you should finish the homework assigned by the teacher within the specified time, and you can't play while doing it; Check your homework and be responsible for yourself. Parents must not be teachers. Parents must pay attention to the analysis of the reasons for the wrong questions, not just staring at the scores. This makes children feel that learning is their own business, and good study habits can get twice the result with half the effort.
Second, pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with children.
As parents, we should put down our airs, make friends with children, regard children as independent subjects, communicate with children as low as possible, use less imperative tone and use more negotiating language. Use "we" more than "you should", even if it is criticism, let your child feel your love for him. Because children's hearts are very fragile, if parents often give their children classes, they will inevitably have a sense of fear and disgust. If they dare not approach you, they will often have rebellious psychology. Not only do they not like what you say, but they are afraid to go to school.
Third, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.
As parents, we should pay special attention to our image. Parents should behave in a civilized way in front of our children. Because parents are role models for children, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and have a far-reaching impact on their growth. Of course, we must have great endurance and be patient with children. Don't use your child as a vent bucket when you encounter troubles at work. As parents, you can't lose your temper. You can only take pains to persuade education. At most, you can only euphemistically say "I'm really angry if you do this again", and then patiently guide and persuade.
Fourth, stimulate children's interest in learning.
As parents, we should try our best to be good at guiding and stimulate children's interest in learning. As we all know, children are active and playful by nature, but as long as they are interested in something, they will really study hard, do it seriously and do it consciously. They don't want to do things they are not interested in, and it is impossible to drive ducks to the shelves for their children. Only by being good at guiding children and stimulating their interest in learning can children be happy and actively involved in learning. Usually, you can make use of your knowledge and imagination to make up some interesting stories or games, so that children can learn while playing, and truly "enjoy learning".
In short, for children's family education, we should learn to communicate with them attentively, help them develop good study habits, stimulate their interest in learning, and let them study happily and grow up healthily.