In family education, parents should convey positive expectations to children and cultivate their self-confidence. Excessive expectations will cause psychological pressure on children, which is counterproductive. This is what we often call pygmalion effect.
In order to let children meet their expectations, parents often take the form of material incentives, but we must grasp the degree of material incentives. Excessive use of material incentives will lead to disadvantages. The interest in learning stimulated by material rewards can only be temporary, not long-lasting.
When parents give their children prizes, their attention will shift to the prizes, resulting in poor concentration, insufficient thinking depth and poor learning effect.
Now children are studying online, if parents only put forward expectations: they can play online games as long as they complete their tasks. I believe that most children only focus on finishing their homework in a hurry, ignoring the quality of learning, and the effect can be imagined.
Karel formula in the law of happy life tells us that as long as we dare to face the worst, there is nothing to be afraid of. This method points out that when encountering difficulties, first, ask yourself what the worst possible situation is; Second, accept this worst case; Finally, calmly find ways to improve the worst situation.
When encountering problems, thinking about the above three steps can help people see hope in despair, make people really calm down and find ways to solve the problems they encounter. If you don't have a sense of belonging in your heart, how can you get things done?
If you don't flinch and try when you encounter problems, there is no chance of success at all. It is better to act than to worry. Psychological peace can often resist the worst situation, make you glow with new vitality, and find that the solution to the problem is not as terrible as originally thought, naturally.
Reading the whole book is like following in the footsteps of our predecessors, and we can easily enjoy the scenery we have never seen before.