Expert Tutor of "Love, Nature and Vitality" System

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1.28 Law: 1897, Italian economist Pareto accidentally noticed 19 th century British wealth and income pattern. In the survey and sampling, it was found that most of the wealth flowed to a few people. At the same time, he also found from the early data that in other countries, this subtle relationship appeared again and again, and it showed a stable relationship in mathematics. Therefore, Pareto found from a large number of specific facts that 20% of the people in society occupy 80% of the social wealth, that is, the distribution of wealth in the population is unbalanced.

At the same time, people also find that there are many unbalanced phenomena in life. Therefore, the "28 Law" has become the abbreviation of this unequal relationship, regardless of whether the results are exactly 80% and 20% (statistically speaking, the probability of accurate 80% and 20% is very small). Traditionally, the 28 th Law discusses the top 20% of people, not the bottom 80%. The 28 Law adopted by people is a quantitative empirical method to measure the possible relationship between input and output.

Learning pyramid

Learning Pyramid is the research result of Maine National Training Laboratory. It is displayed in digital form, and learners can still remember the content (average learning retention rate) after studying with different learning methods for two weeks. This is a theory of modern learning style. It was first discovered and put forward in 1946 by Edgar Dale, an American scholar and famous learning expert.

At the spire, the first way of learning-"attending class", that is, the teacher said above that students listen below, is the most familiar and commonly used way, but the learning effect is the lowest, and only 5% of the learning content can be left after two weeks.

Second, you can keep 10% of what you have learned through "reading".

Third, learning by "sound painting" can reach 20%.

The fourth is "demonstration". With this learning method, you can remember 30%.

The fifth type, "group discussion", can remember 50% of the content.

Sixth, "learning by doing" or "practical exercise" can reach 75%.

The last way to learn at the bottom of the pyramid is to "teach others" or "apply immediately", which can remember 90% of the learning content.

Edgar Dale pointed out that several traditional ways with learning effect below 30% are individual learning or passive learning; And the learning effect is above 50%, which is team learning, active learning and participatory learning.

1. Confucius Siwen Zhu Xing:

Lutz (1) asked: "Steven Zhu Xing (2)?" Confucius said, "With my father and brother around, how can I smell and act?"

You Ran asked, "Where is Sven?" Confucius said, "Si Wen must do it."

Gong Xihua (3) said: "You still ask:' Si Wen traveled around?' Confucius said,' There are fathers and brothers here.' Qiu asked again, Confucius said,' Si Wen will do it.' Red also confused (4), dare to ask. Confucius said, "Retreat after seeking, so advance; Because he is also a person (6), he retired. " ("The Analects of Confucius Advanced Eleventh")

2.？ Use energy where it is most needed.

Once, a friend took his children to work with me. Suddenly, the car in front suddenly braked, and my friend couldn't stop. Bang, it's almost over! There is a taxi ahead. The driver came down and pointed to my friend and said, "How do you drive?" The friend smiled and said, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry!" "Then I checked the damage and there was no problem. The bumper is not broken. The friend asked, "What do you think?" The driver said, "At least 200 yuan a step! "My friend immediately took 200 yuan to the driver. The whole process takes less than 1 minute. Later, I said to my friend, "Are you too accommodating? "

My friend gave me three reasons: "first, we have very important things to do today, and there is no time to waste." Quarrel not only consumes energy, but also affects our mood; " Second, there are many cars behind, which can't delay other people's time; Third, taxi drivers are not easy. After all, rear-end collision is our problem. Who uses 200 yuan? "I believe that when the child sitting in the back looked at himself and his father handled the problem like this, he also learned a lot, learned to do important things, learned to put himself in others' shoes, and learned to think for others. There is a pattern!

1. Right and wrong are our inner judgments about the world. The education we agree with is often the education we think is right, and what we think is right is only our judgment, so some right and wrong are just a choice within our cognitive range. p23、

2. Diligence is like a seedling in spring. If you don't see its increase, you will be stronger every day. Dropping out of school is like a whetstone. If you don't reduce it, you will lose money every day. Learning is like this, so is education. In different times, parents finally reap their educational achievements. Whether parents like it or not, children are their own educational achievements. p3 1

3. People are everywhere, the land follows the sky, the sky follows the road, and the road is natural. Nature itself is the teacher of our life. When we understand the law of nature and the growth of a big tree, we begin to understand how to educate children. p37

We often say that we should solve the problem by keeping up. Without finding the fundamental problem, only solving the problems in the phenomenon will eventually be confused! Children's education needs to start with parents' self-education, because parents are the roots of children! p48

I am the root of all problems, and solving problems begins with realizing myself. All the ways we try to change others to accommodate ourselves will only harm others and ourselves. When it is in full bloom, the butterfly will come! p65

6. Behind empathy is compassion, empathy and compassion. Empathy brings us more angles and space, which makes us understand, tolerate and love more. p73

7. After empathy, I understand that the world is diverse, and I can't ask everyone and everything by my own standards! p77

8. Parents should not cling to the dream itself, but understand that every dream can bring about the cultivation of character. p 123

9. Tao itself is: a person's ability, personality, health, mentality, etc.

? The dream center is your own dream,

The center of the stage is to realize this dream in stages, and each stage will have the goal of each stage. This is the stage center p 137.

10. Always pay attention to your child's heart and don't always speak for outsiders. You also think that this is a virtue of humility, which finally hurts the child's heart. Let the children know that mom and dad are always with themselves and have something to face together. With this connection, children will feel safe and more powerful. p 180

1 1. Giving advice to others is like giving a gift. When you go to the other person's house with a lot of gifts, do you go to knock knock first, or do you just kick it away and put the gifts into the other person's hand? If you ask first, "Can I give you some advice?" Just like knocking at the door. Only by respecting each other can we establish a connection, and the suggestions after the connection are more effective. p 174

12. Sometimes don't treat children as children, treat them equally and respect them; Sometimes we should treat children as children, understand that the process of growth is regular, and don't demand children by adult standards. p 14 1

13. The energy of love is very strange, because it does not depend on knowledge and logic, but just an intuition. p 15 1

13. Appreciate, recognize and trust children from the heart. You should constantly hypnotize yourself. p 15 1

14. Children have no shortcomings, only characteristics. p 15 1

15. Don't be emotional when you stick to the principle, but be full of love and acceptance! p 162

16. Maitreya and Wei Tuo have different looks, different expressions and different ways of doing things, but they both have a bodhicitta, so heartfelt praise is particularly important, and praise is only a means. If praise is effective at this time, use praise method; If criticism is effective, use criticism. But don't be angry and emotional. p 167

17. A child is like a car. There are six horses desperately pulling the child and loving it, but in different directions, the result is useless. p 19 1

18. The relationship between husband and wife is a hotbed of children's education. A father's best love for his children is to love his mother. A mother's best love for her children is to appreciate and admire her father. p 195

19. The death penalty cannot solve the fundamental problem. The tragedy of two years' young life reflects the pallor of life education, psychological education and life education, and rings the alarm bell of education. This alarm bell rings not only in schools, but also in every family and the whole society. p230

20. Don't be afraid of children making mistakes, because some education can only be better carried out in mistakes, and what they get from mistakes often exceeds what parents tell their children, because children have experiences and feelings! p250

1. Reading Mr. Zhu Xiaoping's book seems to be with Mr. Xiaoping all the time. My voice, face and smile are all in my mind, and I unconsciously want to imitate my words, deeds and expressions. Why do you want to read more books? Every author has his own research and achievements in his own field and has his own uniqueness. In the process of reading their books, he can resonate with the author from the text and absorb the energy of the author. Over time, your own energy field will also sublimate.

2. When you encounter something that makes your mood fluctuate, you will feel much better psychologically by maintaining a normal heart and the golden mean.

3. Strengthen the education of "clapping for the winners" for his son.