Compared with psychological maturity, girls care more about other people's experiences than boys, and girls are smarter! In these respects, I firmly believe that most people's bodies will be the same. There is indeed a big difference between boys and girls, which Hawke Brownlow mentioned in his work Girls' Things before.
It is also emphasized that there are certain differences in the five places before the age of 6, mostly because the brain is "too playful". If you don't pay attention to it, boys will be pulled up.
(1) has different language expression ability.
Boys and girls have different growth and development speeds of their left and right brains, and girls develop faster than boys, so boys' language expression ability will be weaker than girls'.
Usually speaking time is later than that of girls, and the development of language expression ability and thinking logic ability is slower.
(2) Boys are more anxious.
Parents will notice that girls are relatively independent from an early age, and it is obvious when they arrive in kindergarten that they can adapt to school life quickly without their parents.
But at the same age, boys' separation anxiety is very serious. This is related to the boy's natural anxiety. The psychological age of a boy will be about two years younger than his real age. Therefore, in the eyes of teachers, girls are clever and sensible, while boys like to play and cry. This is the reason why many boys have poor academic performance.
(3) Finger dexterity is different.
Boys and girls are also different in physical growth and development. Boys have stronger large-scale sports ability, such as creativity, while girls have better detailed sports ability, such as finger dexterity and attention.
Therefore, girls will be better and more attentive in learning to write and other things.
(4) Girls are emotional and boys are rational.
When the child's brain develops, the part of the girl's brain that undertakes emotional processing gets relatively perfect growth and development, while the place where the boy develops relatively is the immediate expression area of emotions.
In ordinary life, it is difficult for boys to notice other people's emotional changes. They look careless, and girls look more sensitive and gentle.
At school, the teacher noticed that the boys were not obedient, because the boys didn't realize the seriousness of the matter, so they were particularly naughty.
(5) The speed of brain development is different.
When the mother is in the belly, the boy's brain development speed lags behind that of the girl, especially the left brain.
Speer, a doctor of biology, concluded that the boy's brain development lags behind the right brain; The brain development of girls, the right brain lags behind the left brain.
Before the age of 6, the left brain responsible for speech, logic and judgment is more important to children than the right brain.
Therefore, it is difficult for boys to catch up with girls in learning ability during this period, and their achievements are not outstanding.
Moreover, the growth and development of boys' left brain will not catch up with girls until 12 years old.
Because girls and boys have these innate differences in growth and development, boys will be more naughty before they are 6 years old. In many fields, girls are not more shining and at a disadvantage.
This difference between boys and girls has been paid attention to in the past 30 years, and a new field has emerged in the world, that is, gender science.
After repeated analysis, it is proved that there are at least 100 brain differences between boys and girls. These differences urge parents to adopt appropriate methods to educate boys according to these differences.
Before the age of 6, how should we educate boys' playful brains and train their "willpower"?
(1) Build children's confidence
The delegates have been with the boys since the children started kindergarten.
Teachers' habitual criticism and parents' broken pots and falls will damage children's confidence and initiative. Long-term depression and incomprehension will make children reject learning and their grades will never improve. Parents must understand the innate IQ differences of boys, give their children a time to grow up, educate their children to do something they are good at, improve their inner pride, and then improve their self-confidence and give them the courage to come from behind.
(2) training the flexibility of the hand
There is a saying called "ingenuity", and a child with flexible hands will naturally have a good brain.
This is related to the fact that fingers occupy one third of the cerebral cortex. Finger flexibility training can enhance the growth and development of children's brains and improve their memory.
Especially when the left hand cooperates with the right hand, it is also training the left and right brain to cooperate.
The specific method can be to play finger games with children, or to make handicrafts, cut paper paintings and play plasticine with children. You can also play some brain development games, let children guess pictures, wiring, maze games, stickers. The more they play, the smarter they get!
(3) training the brain thinking logic
Because the child's left brain will not grow and develop until he is old, parents can learn from each other's strong points and develop the child's right brain before the child is 6 years old.
The right brain is mainly responsible for imagination, creativity and image ability. Parents can use the function of the right brain to combine knowledge points with images in learning and give full play to children's imagination to learn, so that children's grades will improve faster.
In normal life, boys' language expression ability is very weak, so parents should try to choose short sentences to communicate with their children, and don't exaggerate their understanding ability, so as not to make both sides unhappy.
All children will have their own growth rules. For example, they will have intuitive thinking when they are 3 years old and visual thinking when they are 5 years old. When they are 3-7 years old, there will be a critical period of logical thinking training. In this critical period, parents should not miss the education of their children.
It is a good educational method to seize the critical period of boys' development and grow up happily in play.
So what should our parents do? Here, I would like to introduce a book suitable for children to cultivate their logical ability-Crazy Brain Thinking Training Camp, which is a set of books that many parents who feel that their thinking logic has not been developed in high quality in childhood hate being late.
A full set of 400 questions, enough for children to play for a long time; The topic also incorporates a variety of basic knowledge of connecting primary schools such as graphics, operation, comparison and overall planning; And in the process of children's quiet play, not only their logical thinking ability, but also their learning ability and attention are improved simultaneously.
Crazy brain thinking training camp (10). There are stories, scenes, images, colorful and interesting. While reading, watching and thinking, children can easily exercise their 65,438+02 abilities such as logic, spatial imagination and language expression.
"Crazy Brain Thinking Training Camp" has a special scientific content editor. It refers to the theoretical system of jean piaget, a famous child psychologist, the pioneer of cognitive development theory and the founder of contemporary cognitive constructivism, and follows the proposition of brain development characteristics of children aged 3-7, and is approved by experts in child development psychology of China Academy of Sciences.
Through such games, children's understanding of the direction is gradual. They can not only identify different directions accurately and quickly, but also grasp the law in different situations and use direction knowledge to solve practical problems.
These trainings and games take Piaget's "all-round cultivation of children's logic" as the core value, and attach importance to the training of children's comprehensive logical thinking ability, which covers a wide range, is colorful and interesting. Children spend about 30 minutes training every day, which makes it easy for young and old to connect.