This is the last time I call you that.

Not long ago, several relatives called me and said that you were ill and asked me to go back and visit you.

I was really surprised at that time, because I almost forgot that I had a father, and gradually I remembered that the person who was irresponsible and abandoned his wife and children after cheating was my father.

Now you want me to recognize you. Why? When you disowned me as a son, you kicked me and my mother out of the house. Now you want me to recognize you, and I can't!

Besides, I must warn you: don't come to my mother or me in the future. Haven't you hurt her for so many years? Do you still want to tear those scars apart before you hurt them?

Many people advised me: that's your father, and his blood is flowing in you. What is there to hate?

If I had a choice, I would rather not.

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When I was 9 years old, you cheated on me and fell in love with a young woman. It spread like wildfire, and my mother was the last to know. My mother had a big fight with you that night.

This is not the first time you have quarreled, but this is the first time your mother has cried. I am very sad, crying to advise you not to quarrel. You said with a cold face, "this is an adult's business, don't worry about your children."

At that time, I didn't even know what cheating was, and I didn't realize that my family would be torn apart because of cheating.

Mother is a very hard woman, so hard that nothing can knock her down, but that time she cried her eyes red. I know you must have hurt her.

But even then, I didn't hate you then. Because, in my heart, I love my parents equally, and I expect you to hold me around when I go out. When I go home, my family can nest on the sofa and watch TV together.

But it wasn't long before you divorced, and my mother and I were kicked out of the house and left home clean.

It was raining the day I left, and my mother dragged me into the car. I clung to the door with my hand and didn't want to leave. I can't bear to part with you, and I don't want you to be separated from my mother. But when I look back, I only see your back disappearing in the rain. I understood that "Dad doesn't want us". At that moment, I grew up and let go of the hand dragging the door.

It's just, I don't understand why you are driving us away when you are obviously cheating. After so many years of husband-and-wife relationship, I am also your own son. How can you be so cruel?

You didn't stay in those days, and you didn't apologize for more than ten years. Why do you still think of us when you are sick now?

Is it true that a person who has made a mistake will not remember how many stupid things he did in the first half of his life until he dies?

It's just that you remember that I am your son now, but it's a pity that it's time for you to pay for the mistakes you made in those years.

I won't recognize you any more than you will recognize me and my mother.

02

When I got divorced, my mother left simply and decisively. Although she has never shown it in front of me, I don't know how many nights I heard my mother sobbing.

She is not as relaxed as she looks. You betrayed your mother's love for you. You ruined our home, but you made her suffer all the pain.

Women are weak, but mothers are strong.

Can you imagine the hardship of a mother taking care of her children alone? Can you imagine the pain of being surrounded by gossip when you have a family on holiday? Can you imagine what life is like for a divorced mother?

The toilet is blocked, and my mother uses her own tools to get through the sewer; The lamp tube was broken, so my mother moved the desk mat stool to remove the lamp and change it; The wall skin fell off, and my mother bought paint and carried it from the first floor to the seventh floor to brush it herself. ...

After divorce, women are forced to master all life skills.

You can't imagine it, and you haven't thought about it. After the divorce, you married another woman and gave birth to a daughter. How can you think of a mother and son who were kicked out of the house?

And even if you are so selfish that you don't even have your own wife and children, my mother hasn't said a bad word about you in front of me all these years.

She always touches my head and says, "Your father and I have nothing to do with you. It's our business. Don't be prejudiced against your father. Your dad is your dad after all. He used to be very kind to you. "

I know, my mother doesn't want me to hate you, and I have always been very sensible, because I don't want to give my mother any more trouble because of myself. She's tired enough.

I work hard at school and work just to let you know how to live. I want my mother to live a good life and let you know how many mistakes you made in those years!

Some time ago, you asked my uncle to persuade me and said, "Let me forgive the mistakes you made in those years and go back to see you. After all, there are fewer glances now. "

Sorry, I still can't forgive you.

From the moment you abandoned me and my mother, it was doomed to this result. Even from the moment you cheated, forgiveness is impossible.

As a man, what can you do if you can't control your lower body?

As a man, he is not responsible for his family, and he is not qualified to ask for forgiveness.

So, I won't recognize you and I won't forgive you.

-Your abandoned son

03

After reading this letter, I still can't calm down

How heartless is a man who is unfaithful to his wife and children? Maybe he was ready to give up this family the moment he cheated!

The saddest thing is the wife and children.

The divorced woman stirred up the broken home with her weak shoulders.

Children have also changed from expectation to disappointment, from disappointment to despair, from despair to indifference, and the love for a person who was closest to them has suddenly turned into resentment!

Invisibly, children have become victims of the war between husband and wife.

My friend Lulu finally divorced because her husband cheated, and her daughter was only two years old.

Once in the supermarket, her 2-year-old daughter heard other children calling her father and coquetry with him. Then I shouted into the air over and over again: "Dad, Dad, where are you ..."

However, she doesn't know that her father and she are not a family.

At that time, Lulu was behind her daughter, tears swished down and she cried with her daughter in her arms.

When my daughter is older, she gradually understands the reasons for her parents' divorce, so she is more sensible than her peers. However, when making friends, it is not easy to open her heart and feel distant from others. For fear of being cheated, she is very resistant to intimacy.

Many people think that cheating is only a matter for both husband and wife, and the one who is cheated is the most injured.

In fact, the biggest lethality of derailment is to involve children, which is equivalent to parents tearing off the veil of warmth and letting children see the bloody side of life. That kind of terror will scare children and become their lifelong nightmare.

04

The child is innocent, please don't let the child bear the mistakes made by adults.

The best education for children is the self-cultivation of parents. The best gift for children is the love of parents.

Don't wait until you get sick and die to remember what you have done wrong in this life, who you have wronged, who you have failed, and who you owe, because when you figure it out, it is irreparable.

If the child is not hurt, parents must weigh their actions before they have the idea of cheating. Don't ruin the child and this family for a moment of happiness.

Cheating is cool for a while, the whole family should be separated, marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished.