And the education of growing up from childhood is particularly important. There are thousands of people with different educational methods. What kind of education they receive, what kind of personality and ability they cultivate, what kind of characters they shape, and their views on the world, their methods based on the world, their psychology and actions in the face of difficulties and setbacks.
I have read an article in which no one among the American elites the author knows practices "happy education" for their children, while many people are almost grateful for their parents' "tiger" and China's "heartless" education. I just don't agree with some specific ways and means, and think it needs improvement, but more and more people are against "happy education" without exception.
I have heard many opinions and statements about "happy education" before. In fact, my inner balance is a little biased towards "happy education". I think happiness is the most important thing for children, and everything else is secondary.
Two days ago, I heard from a friend that it doesn't matter how smart the child is as long as he is healthy and happy. I didn't feel anything wrong at that time. Most parents love their children dearly and can't bear their children's pain and unhappiness.
However, if he didn't care about anything since he was a child and just made him feel happy, he didn't learn anything well and didn't cultivate his ability well, then how could he grow up and go to the society like a duck to water in the increasingly competitive real society?
Of course, education full of "students' lifeblood" is also lacking. Children can't always be overloaded with the pressure of study and life, which makes his small body unbearable and bored, but appropriate pressure is still needed. It is said that only when there is pressure will there be motivation, which will inspire people to make a little progress and go further and better.
There is no fixed and absolutely correct template for education, as long as it is suitable for individuals, it is the best. According to different individuals, we try to find a suitable individual education method. Some people like to use "happy education", some people like to use the strict education of "tiger mom and cat dad", and some people are more relaxed, which is different.
And "happy education" actually has a premise. You need to be happy and worry-free on the premise of mastering certain knowledge and ability. If you are nothing, how profound is happiness? If a person doesn't think about distant things, he will find sadness close at hand. Once you encounter a little setback and have no ability to face it, you can't talk about happiness. There was only anxiety at that time. As the author said, there is no shortcut to life, and it is impossible to be truly happy without suffering.
In fact, some people can also experience the happiness of acquiring knowledge in continuous learning, and some people can also chew the hidden happiness in hardships. Happiness is relative. And many absolute "happy education" may have superior conditions. Don't worry too much about the difficulties you will encounter in the future. There is always someone who can support you.
But for some people with relatively poor conditions, more efforts and time are needed. What they care about most is not necessarily happiness, but that they will not lag far behind others and will not be so easily eliminated by society.
To some extent, strict education such as parents' "tiger" and China's "heartless" education can still make you suffer hardships, endure grievances and have the ability to win the competition. Because of the cruelty of your parents, you have gained more knowledge and ability, and even have a broader road choice.
People's potential sometimes needs to be tapped hard. If you don't push yourself, you don't know how awesome you are. I have been in a state of rambling for a long time and can't show what kind of ability I have. If you push hard, you may bounce higher.
What I think is that in the gap of "strict education", "happy education" should also have its place and complement each other. Be cruel when it is cruel, and give happiness a certain space when it is happy. Instead of talking about using some kind of educational method in general. Just like the combination of work and rest, the two seem to have the same effect.