For example, children are too young to complete their learning tasks alone. They always need their parents to help them read the questions, explain them properly and urge the rhythm. In addition, it is normal that study and life have not adapted.
If children have bad habits and are not motivated, for example, they don't like studying, forget things, don't remember their homework, don't invite their parents and don't attend classes, then their grades are not good. This is the responsibility of parents. They don't have the habit of cultivating their children before school, and they don't cultivate their learning enthusiasm and rational self-control ability.
Because I don't know your specific situation, I generally suggest you try the following:
1 Cultivate children's enthusiasm for learning. Parents should set an example, don't play mobile TV games and drink alcohol, learn a skill, or learn a textbook with their children, discuss with them and explain to each other, which will definitely inspire them and let them concentrate on their studies. Family environment is the best teacher, and children's learning begins with imitating adults.
2 Cultivate children's interest in knowledge. For example, if you start to write homework from subjects you are interested in, expand and extend it appropriately, so that your child can have a sense of accomplishment, praise and envy him appropriately, and he will definitely be more motivated. Try to downplay the task of homework.
Don't spend too much time studying, don't pile up homework at night, divide the homework time into sections, write only two subjects at a time, exercise properly in the middle, and then write after the children regain their interest. Timing is also important.
Ask the children for their own opinions, let them participate, discuss with them, and push them to make their own plans, such as when to write which homework, how long it will take, and finish it on time, no matter right or wrong, and then there will be fewer mistakes. This is also a constraint to cultivate his rational self-control ability, and his parents can urge him appropriately. They can ask the child whether to remind him or not, and grade his performance with them every day according to his performance. In order to strengthen and stimulate his consciousness.
Parents should criticize their children when they don't do it, be as gentle as possible when they don't finish it, and affirm the good performance of specific links in front of everyone in time, which will stimulate their sense of honor and self-motivation and have real motivation.
There can be some training in life to strengthen his concept of time and think quickly. Moreover, it depends on why the children are fooling around. What is certain is that apart from interest, they are not focused in class and can't write homework.
As long as parents are willing to work hard, persist and don't complain, the child will be fine. I hope I can help you!
Thank you for your question:
Family is the only comprehensive logistics supply base that children can't shirk on the road of learning and growth. The longer the children concentrate on school education, the greater the financial consumption of the family and the weaker the per capita fertility of the family.
Life is endowed with the natural material combination form of reproductive ability+growth cycle+a little damage self-healing function. When the living matter is created by nature, the growth trajectory of life is not locked. The real growth of every natural life requires independent adaptation after birth, in addition to the basic growth form, physical characteristics and nutrient supply channels. Human beings are highly intelligent mammals based on communities in the natural life system, and they are the only animals capable of transforming the combination form of natural substances through large-scale similar division of labor and cooperation, improving the food supply structure by domesticating sowing plants and domesticating captive animals, and evolving systematically abstract social civilization achievements in the natural life system ... Therefore, in order to pass on the comprehensive wisdom adapted to the natural living environment from generation to generation, human beings have evolved a more complete survival skill inheritance system than other natural lives. Then, why is the family the only comprehensive logistics supply base that children can't shirk on the road of learning and growth?
Family is the most basic social organization unit of modern human society, and it is also the "cradle" of population birth in modern countries. Kindergartens, primary schools, middle schools, universities ... The campus where children receive school education and teachers will change constantly, and only the family, the logistics base to help children learn and grow, will not change.
Schools have expenses to find parents, children are not doing well in school, children are not feeling well, and children need extra-curricular interests to find parents ... Many occupations have evolved in the division of labor and cooperation in modern human society, but parents can't shirk their responsibilities, dare not be lazy, and can't resign.
Milk powder, diapers, meals, clothes, rooms ... In modern urban society, it is impossible to raise a child without more than 500,000 economic expenses, not to mention that children need a lot of growth time from childhood, which may indirectly affect their professional work. Therefore, the more developed the monetary economy, the longer the average years of education, and the lower the total fertility rate of a country or region. Britain+Germany+France+Italy+Russia in Europe, America+Canada in North America, Japan+Korea+Singapore in Asia, etc. All suffer from low population marriage and childbearing syndrome.
There are day and night in natural time, solid and liquid in natural matter, and male and female in human reproduction ... Similarly, education has two sides in helping human beings learn and grow. On the one hand, the labor productivity is stronger after the improvement of human individual cultural literacy. On the other hand, prolonging the time for children to receive school education in childhood will increase the reproductive burden of the population. Because children can hardly produce any new consumption wealth in human society during full-time school education, and the main consumption resources of children during full-time school education must be paid by families.
Sun Tzu's Art of War: Fighting
Sun Tzu said, "With soldiers, you can ride a thousand chariots, ride a thousand chariots, take a hundred thousand armour and eat a thousand miles." . Then the internal and external expenses, the use of guests, the material of glue paint, the gift of car armor, thousands of dollars a day, and then hundreds of thousands of teachers to carry.
Its use of troops will also win, if it is long, it will be blunt, if it is long, it will attack the city, and if it is bent, it will not be enough for the country. If the husband is blunt, he will bend his strength to get his goods, and the princes will take advantage of his disadvantages, although there are wise men who can't be good. Therefore, the soldiers are alert and discerning, and they have not seen wisdom for a long time. Those who have fought for a long time and benefited the country and the people have never done so. Therefore, people who are not fully aware of the dangers of fighting cannot fully realize the benefits of fighting.
Those who are good at fighting will not recruit again, and their food will not last for three years. They will be used by the country, and because food is used by the enemy, the army can have enough food.
If the country is poor, it will be far away, and if the people are poor, it will be far away; Those who are close to teachers are expensive to sell. If you sell them, the people will have no money. If they have no money, they will be eager to serve in the mountains. Flexibility, wealth, the central plains, internal deficiency at home, the cost of the people, seven out of ten; At public expense, Pojun's horses, armor, crossbows, halberds and paddles, high ox carts, ten to six. Therefore, wisdom will serve the enemy, eat the enemy for one minute and be me for twenty minutes; A stone for a stem is twenty stones to me. Therefore, those who kill the enemy are angry; Those who take advantage of the enemy get the goods. So in a car battle, if you win more than ten cars, you will be rewarded with the first one. What's more, if you ride in a substandard car, you will be better off than the enemy.
Therefore, winning for a long time is not expensive.
So we know that the general of the soldiers, the life of the people, and the Lord of national security are also.
Translation:
Sun Tzu said: In order to raise troops and fight, the materials needed to be prepared are: 1,000 light cars, 1,000 heavy cars, 100,000 fully armed soldiers, and thousands of miles to transport grain. Then the expenses inside and outside the army, the expenses of entertaining envoys and military strategists, the expenses of materials such as glue paint for weapons maintenance, and the maintenance expenses of chariots and armor will consume thousands of dollars every day. After preparing according to this standard,100000 troops can go to the battlefield.
Therefore, the army needs to make a quick decision, and if it drags on for a long time, the army will be tired and depressed. Once besieged, exhausted, and fighting outside for a long time, it will inevitably lead to insufficient national financial resources. If the army is exhausted by the long war, its spirit is frustrated, its military strength is exhausted, and its domestic materials are exhausted, other governors will certainly take advantage of the fire to rob. In this way, even resourceful people have no good way to escape. Therefore, in actual combat, I only heard that it is difficult for a general to make a quick decision without clever tactics, but I have never seen anyone who is clever and skilled in sustained operations. There has never been a protracted war that is beneficial to the country. Therefore, only by fully understanding the harm of using troops can we fully understand the benefits of using troops.
Good fighters don't have to recruit soldiers and transport rations many times. Weapons and equipment are all supplied at home, so we try our best to snatch food from the enemy so that the army can have enough food and grass. The reason why the country is poor because of the war is that the army has to carry out long-distance transportation because of the expedition. Long-distance transportation will inevitably lead to poverty. Prices near the garrison will inevitably soar, which will inevitably lead to the exhaustion of materials, materials and wealth, and the increase of taxes and labor. On the battlefield, military strength is exhausted, domestic financial resources are exhausted, and people's private property is depleted by seven tenths. Public property, due to the damage of vehicles, the fatigue of horses, the loss of armor, bows and arrows, spears and halberds, shields and ox carts, consumed six tenths. Therefore, a wise general must solve the problem of food and grass in the enemy country. Getting a grain from an enemy country is equivalent to 20 minutes' departure from your own country, and getting a stone of feed locally is equivalent to 20 stones from your own country. Therefore, in order to make soldiers desperate to kill the enemy, there must be anger and encouragement. If soldiers dare to seize enemy munitions, they must be rewarded with the seized property. Therefore, in the battle of chariots, whoever grabs more than ten chariots first will be rewarded. Captured chariots should be planted with our flag immediately and incorporated into our team. Be kind to prisoners and make them submissive. This is the way to defeat the enemy and make yourself stronger. Therefore, the most important and beneficial thing about a battle is to make a quick decision, and the most unfavorable thing is to drag on. A general who really knows how to use troops and knows the benefits of using them holds the life and death of the people and the safety of the country.
"Han Shu Shi Lichuan": "If I hear its voice, if I know its sky, I can do anything; If you don't know about heaven, you can't do anything. Wang takes the people as the sky, and the people take food as the sky. " Grain is the most basic material basis for both sides to March and fight. Before the war has started, we should try our best to transport the grain and grass urgently needed by the army to the front, that is to say, the horses and soldiers have not moved, and the grain and grass go first.
The war between the two countries will cause a lot of material consumption, including food, grass and manpower. Therefore, almost all armies expect to quickly defeat their opponents and end the war. Similarly, education assists children's learning and growth, just like marching to war. The longer children concentrate on school education, the greater the financial consumption of families. Because the family is the only comprehensive logistics supply base on the road of children's learning and growth.
I think this problem is a social problem.
First of all, we moved all the schools in the village.
The second school district room. Old people and young people in rural areas are separated, so they lose farming and employment for their children to study, and go to the school district to accompany them.
Third, our enterprises, supermarkets, supply and marketing materials, hospitals, markets, etc. They have all moved away, and it is hard to say that 800 million farmers have left the countryside. Farmers are too far away from seeing a doctor, farmers are too far away from providing for the elderly, and young people are too far away from the city. Old farmers sell their agricultural products too far, and they buy daily necessities and record materials too far.
Fourth, online games are endangering the whole society. Online games infringe on the healthy growth of children and the physical and mental health and future destiny of the younger generation. Because they don't work, get married and have no children, they are addicted to online games. It's hard to say that the teacher didn't teach well when children were studying. Young people don't work, get married and have children because their parents don't manage well. Where are the rumors that hurt our descendants? Why doesn't the country shut down this poisonous online game?
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These must not be divorced from the countryside, leading to many facts that cannot be concealed today. Online games fascinate young people. Why don't our parents hate them? So I hope the country will shut down online games as soon as possible and bring back the original schools, hospitals, enterprises, supermarkets and markets. Let young people, the elderly and children live and survive together in the beautiful countryside, gain a sense of security, prosper the countryside and take the road of common prosperity.
In the process of children's growth, do parents suffer from help, life and study? That's the responsibility of parents! You brought him into this world without his consent, and everything you did after that was responsible for your actions. Feeling pain is that your expectations are too high. In this process, you are often at a loss, and the result is often counterproductive, so you are anxious, discouraged, and then complain. You can also avoid this crime and let him die and grow freely, but are you satisfied? Believe in it? So it's not the children's problem, it's the parents' mentality! Accepting yourself and your children as ordinary people rationally and calmly will solve your "suffering" theory!
Now when it comes to education, most parents are overwhelmed and arrogant every day, but their children are indifferent. The root cause is that children do not develop good study habits, which leads parents to "remind" frequently. After repeated education, it can only lead to the outbreak of parents. Reading is accompanied by habits and attitudes. Of course, the process is painful and long, but we should have enough patience to wait for flowers to bloom.
I have a deep understanding of this. I went to accompany my child when he was three and a half years old, because I knew that Japanese educators said it was too late to learn violin at this age, so I rushed up. The child was very cooperative at first, but he didn't cooperate after a few classes. If the left score is not completed, it will be postponed. Every class is paid in cash, but the progress is stagnant. So I, a rising star, caught up. I could play, but the child still resisted. I also take my children to learn acting and painting, and I can win prizes under pressure, including my children's main courses. It seems that there is no white effort, but I feel very tired and my mood fluctuates with my child's grades. My child may be ungrateful under high pressure, and many times I want to give up, but think about the long future of my child. When I was in junior high school, children addicted to video games would go to the video game store after school. We bought a card as pocket money without eating or drinking, and even changed the lucky money into video games. Fortunately, I told my children from an early age that there were police in the game hall. No matter how crazy he plays, he dare not go in. In order to prevent this from happening, we let him live in a high school and shut down the education management. The cards in his hand are still endless. Then came the college entrance examination and studying abroad. My heart is always afraid to relax. I didn't relax until I got to work. I knew that he found his favorite job across disciplines, which was related to his favorite video games. At this time, he cut off his pocket money. He will secretly play games for his classmates to exchange money and cards. That kind of obsession makes me collapse, but looking back now, I will find that children's hobbies that seem to be playthings are not necessarily spare tires for future life, but we artificially define what is useful and what is useless, and the school's education curriculum is very limited. Every child comes into this world with a mission. As the old saying goes, there is no limit to talents. I quite agree with this sentence. However, the curriculum of school education is standardized and mechanized, and children's learning is based on hobbies. Courses may not inspire the enthusiasm of all children. Therefore, children will be tired of learning and afraid of learning. In fact, the fundamental thing of learning is to meet the future survival first, and then to develop. Basic education should be diversified, because talents are diversified. For example, many courses such as cooking, cutting, editing, breeding, etc., even if we don't embark on a career, we will find more talents. There is no problem in surviving in the future. It's better than not touching the spring with your fingers. I can do nothing but read, let alone survive. People who lose their ability to survive can only lie flat and complain about their families and society.
That is to say, the psychological effect of comparison is like driving up prices! Make up classes and choose schools. It can only be an empty house! Create vicious competition. Thirdly, teachers don't read books to improve their ability and the classroom efficiency is low. What's more, they won't stand there and work hard! The headmaster thinks she can't teach herself. She assigns a lot of homework at night, which is incompatible with reducing the burden. The old hard-working classmate can't use the big screen for a semester, and her classmates have never even seen what her big characters look like. Healy Working people face students' thirst for knowledge. I want three boxes, which are awesome and exquisite. Just waiting to go home and get a pension. Go your own way! Be realistic in class and assign homework after class. It's just that children suffer, and parents dare to be angry and dare not speak. They can only make up lessons by themselves and choose their own schools to study hard.
Worry too much. ...
The growth of children is also accompanied by the growth of young parents to their elders, and growth will always bring some pain. [shh]