Democratic and authoritative parents of preschool children give their children moderate care and restrictions, can communicate and exchange with their children equally, and can accept their reasonable opinions and ideas. They respect each other, understand each other and care about each other.

Although children are small, they have strong self-esteem like adults. Parents should respect their rights and needs as adults, guide their interests and tap their potential. For example, Tian Tian, a six-year-old neighbor, once began to learn calligraphy according to her parents' wishes. Under the supervision of her parents, she practices calligraphy every day. Although I have made some progress in calligraphy, I always feel depressed when I study. After a while, her parents realized this and talked to her. She told her parents what she really thought and said that her greatest interest was learning to play the violin. Instead of reprimanding her, her parents respected her choice and met her requirements. As Goethe said, "The knower is not as good as the doer, and the doer is not as good as the musician."

Because of her interest, she consciously learned to play the violin, and in the process of playing, she integrated her feelings and made every piece of music vivid. Therefore, respecting children is the first principle of family education, while loving without flattery, being strict without losing dignity, being relaxed without indulgence, and being free without indulgence are the secrets of family education. Only by respecting children and convincing others by reasoning can children form a healthy psychology.