The first trap is "conditional love", which means that our parents can't love their children unconditionally, and our love for them is conditional.

Ask children to do corresponding behaviors or achieve corresponding results, and then we will give them corresponding love. Our relationship with our children has become a "business" relationship. This kind of conditional love has greatly killed the child's self-esteem.

The second trap is: "parents can't afford to lose", and there is a mentality of not being able to lose. Our parents strictly monitor their children's words and deeds. Then help him do everything well and tell him that he just needs to study hard.

Look at children from the wrong angle: children may become hooligans and do things they shouldn't do? The more worried you are, the more concerned you are about your child. In the end, your child's self-esteem, self-confidence, sense of responsibility and initiative will be accelerated and killed!