In fact, I have always felt that it is very difficult to raise children, so I have been learning parenting knowledge for years and summing up my gains in practice.
The more you know about family education and children's psychology, the more you feel that the first six years of a child's life are really important!
Teacher Li Meijin, a professor of psychology at Public Security University, has studied adolescent psychology and criminal psychology for many years, and pointed out the influence of parents on children more than once in programs and speeches.
Professor Li Meijin once said frankly that in the first six years of a child's life, parents should take good care of these four things, and the child will become a talent more easily in the future, and they will be grateful to you!
Professor Li Meijin believes that parents should cultivate their character consciously before their children are 6 years old.
So what are the specific aspects of character cultivation?
1, restrain willfulness
From my experience in raising children, they are smart enough at about 3 years old to know how to get what they want from their parents. That's my son. He knows it's no use provoking me, so he never wastes his breath on me. He will only make excessive demands on his grandmother.
So children are actually very? Sensible? If you spoil him, he will push his luck. If you make rules for him, he will abide by them.
Professor Li Meijin also mentioned in an open class why some children 12 years old can't control themselves, just because their parents didn't say no to him before he was 6 years old!
The wayward habit has been formed, the child has been separated from his parents, and it is too late to discipline him. Therefore, we must restrain children's excessive willful behavior before the age of 6.
2. Teach children to manage themselves.
Children have no sense and ability of self-management. Professor Li Kang, a child psychologist at the University of Toronto, conducted an experiment on a global scale with 1200 children aged 2-6.
The experimenter and the children are playing in a small room with a monitor? Guess the number of cards? In the game, the experimenter will lend it out halfway and remind the children not to peek at the cards, but more than 90% of the children will peek in the next 5 seconds.
Children lack the ability of self-management, but also need parents to guide him to set goals and urge him to complete them. When passive management becomes a habit, parents can gradually let their children realize self-management.
Step 3 teach children to wait
From a psychological point of view, children's psychological development is self-awareness before others' consciousness, so children usually compare? Self? Don't want to wait, don't care about others, and get what you want at once.
Therefore, parents need to help their children exercise their ability to wait, think of others properly, and try not to cry even if they can't get it right away.
4. Accompany your child through setbacks
Finally, parents have to accompany their children through the setbacks before the age of 6. The frustration experience here is not to deliberately let the child experience setbacks, nor to watch the child experience setbacks regardless of him, but to comfort and encourage parents and teach him how to get through this when the child encounters setbacks. Threshold? The method.
Only in this way can children really learn to endure setbacks and tide over difficulties from the company of their parents.