1. Appreciate your children and don't always move out of other people's children: what children hate most is that parents always talk about other people's children. You should know! There are so many children in other people's homes, and your children are far from surpassing every other child! So, think about it the other way around. The child did what he thought was satisfactory. For example, he has made progress in the exam and wants to share it with you. But in order to prevent his tail from sticking up, you repeatedly moved out "other people's children" to suppress him. The original intention is good, but the psychological shadow caused to children is lifelong! A research report pointed out that in family education, whispering is to communicate with children.

2. Learn to listen and talk about topics that he dares to be interested in: I will take this way when communicating with students. When students come to my office, I will listen to the situation for the first time, and then judge the nature of the matter according to the feedback from the students. I found that many ordinary students' problems are wasted when I talk too much, but I talk too little. If the students talk too much, their hearts will open up, or they will understand their mistakes. The last thing I want to do is to calm him down and finally give me a solution.

3. Understanding, trusting and respecting junior middle school students' sense of independence and adulthood is the basis of coordinating parent-child relationship.

The relationship between children and their parents is alienated after entering junior high school, which is the beginning of junior high school students' maturity. Parents should understand, trust and respect the independence and sense of adulthood of junior high school students, and don't force their children to change their interests with their own ideas. Only in this way can junior high school students feel encouraged and close the psychological distance between parents and children.

4. Parents should be good at and willing to let their children accept their own opinions: there are two conditions for children to accept the guidance of their parents: consistent understanding and emotional communication. There are many consistent factors to reach an understanding. As parents, we should be good at listening to children's opinions, not imposing them on children, and understanding their inner contradictions. The main reason is that parents adopt the education method of patient persuasion. Parents and children have the basis of mutual love, but parents and children do not necessarily have emotional communication. The key to emotional communication is to care about children's thoughts and understand their psychological troubles, hobbies and friends of the same age. Parents should help them get rid of their troubles, point out the development direction, satisfy their legitimate interests and hobbies, and let them have more opportunities to be alone with their friends.