This problem may have been encountered by most parents. I have read the answers to these questions for a long time. Obviously, I have been holding it in my mind for a long time and have answered it silently for hundreds of times. However, when the child asked, he couldn't say anything. What should I do?
When parents educate their children about sex, they should first adjust their attitudes towards sex, make clear the content of sex education, and understand sex education (in my previous article "Sex education for children, never too early", I have introduced in detail what children of all ages should learn, so I won't go into details here, and interested parents can go and have a look). Parents' different attitudes towards sex will have different effects on their children. Sex education has never been a shameful thing. The calmer you are, the calmer your child will be. The more coy you are and don't say it, the more children will feel that sex is a dirty and embarrassing thing.
I think most people must have experienced such a thing when they were young. Is to watch TV with parents, as long as there are intimate scenes, parents will immediately find the remote control to change channels. A friend of mine once told me that when he was young, every time he watched TV, his parents were afraid that these intimate scenes would have a bad influence on him. So until now, he watched TV with his parents, and when there were intimate scenes, he still looked embarrassed, his eyes didn't know where to look, and even made an excuse to get a glass of water to go to the toilet, trying to escape from this embarrassing place. Even after he met someone he liked and fell in love, he never dared to tell his family, because in his heart, love is a shameful thing, and expressing love is even more shameless. It seems to be just a small matter of changing the channel, but it is terrible to neglect the guidance and finally produce the same result as my friend. Love, which should be the most beautiful thing in the world, has a sense of shame in his eyes.
Therefore, as parents, when watching TV with children and seeing intimate scenes, don't rush to change channels. Talk to children about "love" and let them know what adults on TV are doing and why. Tell them that when they grow up and have someone they like, they can also express their love in this way.
Don't be unhappy when your child asks you difficult questions. Don't use the adult's thinking to guess that the child is not good at school. Children ask these questions just to try to understand the world. Therefore, no matter how embarrassed the child asks, don't worry too much and don't be embarrassed to answer. All you have to do is learn to listen, understand the child's real intentions, and then answer without prejudice.
Your goal is to let children know about healthy and correct sexual knowledge and avoid misleading children with wrong information. And let the children know that no matter what questions you encounter, you are willing to answer.
If the child asks questions regardless of the occasion and makes you feel embarrassed, don't be furious. You need to adjust your emotions first, and don't let children feel that these questions should not be asked. Secondly, if the child is under 6 years old and doesn't understand privacy issues, you can try to divert his attention first and then answer his questions when you get home. If your child has a sense of privacy, you can also tell him directly that in our country, "sex" is not allowed to be discussed in public. Doing so will make people feel impolite and their privacy will be violated. Therefore, if you have any questions in this regard in the future, you can go home and ask your parents, who are very willing to answer them.
Finally, practice more. Usually you can say it out loud in front of the mirror or your lover until you can convey what you want to express naturally and smoothly.
It's not too late to educate children about sex from now on.