"My dad will pick me up from school in my BMW!"

"My mother will take me to America next week. Let's go and see my father together! "

"My family is very big. Grandpa bought me a room full of toys!"

Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what?

Children's world will also show off wealth!

The children's world also has a contempt chain! !

The children's world also has a wealth list! ! !

Children will compare themselves with their peers in intelligence, dress and ability, and even compare them with older children.

And I hope I am better than others in these aspects.

This mental state is a common phenomenon among children.

However, when comparing your children with others face to face,

Many parents began to lose their minds. What should they do?

1. Why do children compare themselves?

1. It is a child's nature to highlight self-superiority.

Children are curious about the outside world.

When I was young, I was easily attracted by colorful things.

Older ones will be tempted by novel toys,

And blindly worship and imitate the people around you.

Because this is their world!

Eager to be cared for, eager to be cared for,

Children can throw out hundreds of ways to arouse others' envy and jealousy.

Parents' doting is the direct cause of children's comparison.

"Grandpa, our class DuDu bought the latest cloud track model train."

"Never mind, stay in Amanome for a few days, and grandpa will give you a better one!"

Parents regard their children as the apple of their eye, and all they want is to be satisfied as much as possible.

Some parents even highlight their sense of superiority as parents by comparing the material conditions enjoyed by their children.

3. Parents' inferiority is an important reason for children's comparison.

In fact, some families are not rich. Every parent has self-esteem, and does not want their children to be looked down upon, nor do other children look down upon them.

Therefore, when children say what they want, parents will try their best to satisfy their children most of the time.

Even if you save money, you should buy the most for your children.

Second, how to solve the child's comparison mentality?

1. Enrich children's spiritual world

After providing children with proper material conditions, spend as much money as possible to enrich their spiritual world.

In life, take part in social activities, get in touch with healthy and beneficial cultural activities, cultivate hobbies and cultivate sentiment.

It is the smartest parents to raise their children spiritually.

2. Establish self-confident values

"Mom, we are too poor. Xixi's house is very big and has several bedrooms. "

"Are you happy in our present home?"

"Uh-huh"

"Our house is not big, but Xixi's father is abroad, and your parents are at home with you every day. Mom and dad want to spend money in a more reasonable way. "

Parents must tell their children that only making money by themselves is valuable and meaningful.

No matter how rich a child is, he didn't get it himself, but the wealth accumulated by the previous generation.

Don't despise children who are poorer than yourself, and don't compare with children who are richer than yourself.

3. Parents lead by example.

Parents are imitators of their children, so they should set an example in their words and deeds.

If parents keep up with the joneses every day, educated children will certainly keep up with others.

Children should be taught to set an example.

Especially some parents should pay attention!

On weekdays, I always like to say, "Our family has no money, and our family is poorer than others ...", hoping to control children's mentality of spending money indiscriminately.

Never, crying like this will only make children feel inferior and sensitive.