In fact, in our life, there will always be people who say that their children are unreasonable. As long as you see something you like, you have to see it. If we don't meet their demands, then they will cry and make noise, and some children will roll. It is estimated that many pictures will emerge in your mind after seeing these. Then if the child makes these unreasonable demands, I don't know if it is reasonable or not. Then parents know that these are unreasonable. I hope we also have corresponding treatment methods. Their educational effects are also different. Today, we will come with you to see how to skillfully refuse the unreasonable demands of children.

Let's first look at why children make such unreasonable demands.

At present, many parents and friends find that they have exhausted all methods for their children's unreasonable demands. But the final effect is also very small, so what caused this phenomenon? Have parents seriously thought about it? In fact, there is such a reason that we should take a closer look.

First, it is terrible to ignore children's psychological feelings.

Children rarely have the opportunity to control their own lives and always feel cherished. When you want to manage your time and enjoy a very happy and comfortable free time, you will hear an adult's command: Time is up! Wait a minute. Such a terrible noise scared me. At this time, they no longer have their own so-called free time. Then we can think about it, if our free time is taken away by others, are we unhappy? Therefore, we should learn to communicate with children in another way, communicate with children in clever language and express them in the right way, so that children can accept this phenomenon more easily.

Second, parents generally say that this is the biggest harm to children.

We adults think that we can gain insight into our hearts. In fact, children are most likely to read adults' minds. Children will be sensitive to their parents' behavior of saying one thing and doing another. Then when adults tell them that you can play for ten minutes, they will give themselves five minutes to relax after the time, and sometimes they can give themselves another half an hour. At this time, it shows that our parents and friends are not firm-willed, so when the children are spoiled or roll around in a temper, adults will blindly compromise, which will make the children deceive themselves again and again.

So, as parents, how can we learn these ingenious ways to communicate with our children?

Method 1: Meet children's reasonable requirements and let them know what is reasonable and what is unreasonable.

First of all, parents should not rush to give their children a conclusion. It is necessary to consider from the child's own point of view to see if it is a reasonable requirement. We must first understand the requirements put forward by the children. What are their motives? If this motive is reasonable, then we can satisfy them. If we can't do it for some reason, we can make it clear to the children. Why can't you do it now? We must let the children know what can be achieved again.

Method 2: Parents should learn to use yes instead of saying no.

In fact, we can get it from some psychologists, that is to say, when parents say no, some children can't understand why parents reject themselves so directly. When our children make unreasonable demands, parents should first learn to accept their children's emotions, then say yes, I know, and then say yes. This will let the children stabilize their emotions first. If mothers say that they can't eat sugar before dinner, then at this time, the baby will lose his temper instead of rolling. Then mothers can put it another way, that is, you can eat candy for you, but you can't eat it until after dinner. So now you can eat first, and if you tell your child this expression, it will be more acceptable for your child. Instead of rolling around and losing your temper as soon as you get up.

Method 3: Give children a choice.

We should give children a proper opportunity to feel that they have the right to control this situation. Then this phenomenon of free choice can replace us adults to make decisions for them. In this way, the child still has a certain sense of responsibility, and at the same time there will be no sense of oppression. It will also make them more like to cooperate with their parents. Giving our children some freedom will also help them learn to be self-disciplined. At this time, they can be better self-disciplined. If the baby doesn't want to sleep at this time, then we can tell the child that you still have ten minutes to sleep. Then wash up first, and then I have to tell you a story. So which is more suitable for you to choose first?

Method 4: Deliberate cold treatment is also a clever way.

In fact, it is not difficult for us to find from child psychologists that many children have high skin to attract the attention of their parents. Then some people will deliberately do some co-ordination on the dashboard. At this time, you can observe the child's reaction. If you don't let them open the refrigerator door, then they will open the refrigerator door on purpose and watch you get angry. Then at this time, you can pretend to be invisible, or pretend to be bored, and then they will stop making trouble, and there will be no more such pranks. But parents should also know what their children's psychological needs are. In our life, we should give our children more care and love.

Method 5: Parents should learn to divert children's attention.

In fact, for children's unreasonable demands or some dangerous activities, we should try to avoid confrontation with children, and then take the method of diverting attention, so as to be soft-handled. Just like turning on our TV, we can watch some programs that are not as good as Phoenix. Then show them funny toys and let them play by themselves. But just take the child out of the environment at that time. We should ensure the safety of children at the first time, and then we can satisfy the psychology that is not your experience. If children have to do something, such as touching a thermos bottle, then we can take off the lid and let their little hands touch it, so that when they feel hot, they will retract their little hands. Later, I will think that this place is too hot to touch.