Don't stare at the children's homework. I see some parents like to stare at their children's homework. Once you find a mistake, or the handwriting is wrong or crooked, you can help the child erase it while criticizing, complaining and blaming the child: "What's wrong, what's wrong, you can't change it." "How many times have I said? I just can't remember. Too irritating! " We can imagine, in this tense and anxious atmosphere, can children still open the door to their interest and energy in learning? At this time, no matter what parents say and teach, he won't listen and can't change it. The suggestion is to ask how much homework there is, and then let the children do it themselves. We will do our own thing quietly, don't disturb the child lightly, and then check according to the above method when he is finished.
3. How to cultivate children's habit of concentrating on homework? Many friends have asked me for advice, saying that their children are inattentive and procrastinating in their homework, and several problems need to be done for a long time. What should I do?
A. use the "limited time encouragement method" to correct it. The method is illustrated by an example. For example, first understand your child's homework, estimate a completion time in your mind, and then ask your child, for example, "Can you finish the Chinese in 40 minutes?" Can math be finished in 30 minutes? "Usually, children are willing to accept challenges.
If you find the child running wild and don't pay attention to his homework, as long as it's not too much, let him move. After all, home is a place to rest, much more free than school. If the child is too inattentive and procrastinating, adults can remind him, for example, "It has been done for 15 minutes, come on!" At this time, the child may concentrate on doing it.
Remind parents that this "time-limited encouragement method" is to correct the bad habit of children doing homework first. Even if he finished his homework within the specified time, he should be praised. As for whether the quality of homework is satisfactory, that is the next step. "It's good that you finished your homework within the specified time. Keep going. There just seems to be something wrong here. Will you check it yourself? " I think if the child is treated like this, then he will be happy to accept it.
Parents should be patient, as long as their children make a little progress every day, it is something to be happy and praised. Cultivate children's good study habits step by step, not impatient.
B. correct it by "halfway appeasement". This method is illustrated by examples. For example, when parents feel it necessary to stop their children from doing homework and procrastinating, they can go to their children and touch their heads with their hands, saying, "Are you in trouble and can't do it anymore?" Do you want your mother to help you? " This first draws the child's attention back to study. Usually, children will say that there is nothing to solve. At this time, adults should show a calm look: "you are very smart and will finish it soon." Will mom wait for you? " This method, in fact, is to stop the child's presumptuous and procrastinating behavior first, and then let the child know that adults are paying attention to him and hope that he can finish his homework quickly.
Children who procrastinate and like to play homework should not always lecture by blaming, criticizing and complaining, such as "always playing wild and not paying attention to homework, which is really annoying." "Go ahead and stop playing." "I have done a few questions for a long time. Really worthless. " The more you scold the child, the more it will aggravate his bad habits.
C. use the "direct demand method" to correct it. If the above two methods fail, then I think we can only use the "direct demand method" to correct it This method is to know the child's homework in advance, and then directly propose the completion time. For example, today's Chinese homework is not too much, it can be completed in 20 minutes, and math is a little more, it can be completed in 35 minutes. If you don't finish it within the specified time, then dad will put your homework away and put it in your schoolbag, so you can't continue to do it at home. If the teacher finds that you have not finished your homework, he will punish you, and all the responsibilities arising therefrom will be borne by you. Of course, if you feel that there is not enough time, you can bring it up now, and then we can agree on the completion time. "So, adults will do as they say. Of course, when implementing this rule, you should be calm and not angry. Let the children understand that adults mean what they say, not for fun. This method is compulsory, so it is necessary to get in touch with the teacher in advance and ask the teacher to cooperate well, so as to prevent the teacher from thinking that parents don't check their homework and putting the responsibility of educating their children on the teacher.
4. How to guide children to do problems? Not all children don't need their parents to point out exercises or "climbing" problems that they can't do. It is necessary and necessary for parents to provide corresponding counseling and guidance. Because primary school students' learning ability is limited, they need to be induced and cultivated by adults. In consultation and counseling, only pay attention to skills, the method is:
A. let the children read the questions repeatedly. Many questions are not difficult, but children lack the patience to read the original questions. They often feel that they can't do it once, which is a negative psychological suggestion. If adults always indulge their children's negative psychology, tell them what to do immediately, or even list formulas, which will make them develop the bad habit of not thinking about problems and relying on others to solve them. The correct way is: "Just read the original question several times." When children do it, adults should happily praise: "I say you are smart, as long as you look at the questions carefully, you will do it." At this time, the child will be happy.
Children can't do problems, adults insist on "reading again" and "reading again" ... I told him without care that this encouraging reading method can "force" children's interest in active learning and gain confidence.
B. use examples as a guide. For questions that children can't do after thinking, adults should not directly tell the solution of the original question. The best way is to make up a similar example according to the original question, analyze and discuss it with the children, and then let the children do the original question. Because they understand the examples, most children can do the original questions. If they still can't do the original question, then go back and do the discussion and calculation of the example. A few back and forth, as long as the parents patiently guide, the child will definitely do the original question. This kind of practice, although more troublesome for adults, can train children's ability to extrapolate. Otherwise, children are always in the passive mindset of solving problems on topics, and it is difficult to establish a thinking transfer model of learning.
Children who can learn, in the final analysis, have the ability to transfer by analogy, and can cope with ever-changing exercises on the basis of understanding examples. This is called "living reading", not "dead reading". Some parents seem to love their children very much and are afraid that their children will use their brains more. Tell them what to do when they encounter problems. This is a bad method and should be avoided.
C. only to the point. For some difficult problems, parents can't compile examples for a while. Then we can analyze the key points of the original problem, find out what conditions are conducive to solving the problem, and let the children think according to the tips of adults. Instead of directly solving the problem, or telling the child what to do in the first step and what to do in the second step ... If you tutor the child, his problem-solving ideas will never be opened.