First of all, this concept is a subtle inner injury to elderly children. Maybe parents casually say that you have to make way for your younger brothers and sisters because they are younger than you. But this sends a negative message to the children as elders-that is, parents prefer younger brothers and sisters, and I am not noticed. The psychological damage caused to children is very great. Children who grow up in this environment will inevitably widen the gap with their parents, and children will think that their parents don't care about themselves. This will bring more insecurity to children. Especially those children who are not good at communication, are not concerned at school, and can't feel the attention of their parents at home, which is very traumatic to their children. Over time, the child's personality is different, and the parents don't notice it at all, so that the final tragedy is too late. Some people may question that letting older children make younger brothers and sisters have such scary results. It is true that there are few tragedies because of this concept, but it does not mean that there are no tragedies. In reality, there have indeed been tragic incidents that hurt younger brothers and sisters in order to compete for parents' attention, which is inevitable. In addition, this concept will gradually become a child's trauma and will gradually accumulate into a child's negative emotions, which is beyond doubt.

Finally, facing this concept, how to correct it is the key. This concept has a long history in China. Among most parents in China, this concept is deeply rooted and hard to change. However, this does not mean that it cannot be changed. We can change this situation from the joint efforts of parents, schools and society. Parents are the most crucial link, because parents are the first teachers of children and the most important companions in the process of their growth. If parents don't instill in their children the concept that "the big ones must give way to the small ones" as elders, and don't instill in their children the concept that "brothers and sisters will give way to you" as brothers and sisters. It is to educate children, whether they are brothers and sisters or younger brothers and sisters, to help each other and be humble to each other, instead of being humble. Endless humility is called "doting". Only in this way can children grow up healthily in a harmonious family.