A girl named Jassamyn Liu in the variety "Tales of Teenagers" left a deep impression on me.
Although she comes from a single-parent family, Jassamyn Liu's happiness and warmth touched everyone. However, a story that warms people's hearts is yet to come. After thanking her mother for her efforts for many years, Jassamyn Liu urged her to get married quickly.
"Mom, I hope you can always be so young and so happy."
The audience, Jassamyn Liu's mother has become a crybaby. Over the years, in order to give children the best life, this weak woman has shouldered all the burdens of the family.
What she didn't expect was that her daughter was so considerate to herself and forced to get married in public before leaving home, hoping that she could find support.
Some netizens commented below: This is the most touching juvenile story. Deep maternal love hides a lot of loneliness and grievances. If you understand and sympathize, that is the cornerstone of happiness.
In fact, with deep maternal love, there will be the most sincere love of children for their parents. For most parents, children love themselves far more than they think.
There are too many such warm-hearted stories in society.
Once a boy from 10 in Hubei wanted to buy a diamond ring for his mother with lucky money. His mother wants to leave with her children because she is unwilling to spend money. The 10-year-old boy burst into tears. ...
Liu, a Shandong boy who is only 12 years old, went on a hot search. In the unknown days, he has been the eyes of his blind mother 10 for many years. ...
The news that "boys in Grade Two earned 65,438+7,000 yuan in eight days" exploded on the Internet. The original intention of this little boy named Yang Bochao to make money is only to buy a new mobile phone for his mother.
There are too many such touches. Many parents, after seeing such news, feel that these are other people's children, and their children will never fail. But is this really the case?
I saw a short film before, in which all the interviewed mothers felt that their children were not perfect. In grading children, mothers are so harsh that they only score 7 points, 8 points and even fail.
On the other hand, when the children in the short film mentioned their mothers, they were all very happy and laughed sweeter than eating sugar. In the child's mind, even if the mother can't always be with her, she is the best mother.
Some children even said shyly to the camera, "I want to protect her."
The mothers on the other side of the camera also shed tears. These children, who are full of shortcomings in their own eyes, already want to rely on their tender shoulders.
Unlike mothers who use shortcomings to reduce points for their children, children will always give their mothers full marks without thinking, because their mothers are always the most perfect in their own hearts.
It is said that the love of parents is the most selfless love in the world, but isn't it the same for children to love their parents?
I once heard a sentence on the Internet: Don't let your parents' love be full of plunder. Too many parents are used to appearing as mentors in their children's daily lives. They don't want to listen to their children, but want them to do what they want. Once children fail to meet their parents' expectations, they will fail in their parents' eyes.
But this kind of parental love is tantamount to plunder, which not only plunders the intimacy of children, but also plunders their brilliant future.
When children have to do what their parents think, they tend to be very silent, and even try their best to meet their parents' expectations and become what their parents imagine, even if it is not their dreams.
I remember a former friend. When he remembered why he chose science instead of his favorite liberal arts when he was an adult, he just smiled: "My parents want me to study science and liberal arts, and they will be unhappy."
It is in so many casual little details in daily life that children are silently loving their parents in their own way, but parents are unaware of it.
It is said that father's love is as thick as a mountain, mother's love is as soft as water, and children's love is often like spring rain, moistening things silently.
Professor Li Meijin, a famous adolescent psychologist, once said: Because of different ways and lack of communication, the love interaction between parents and children is mostly invalid.
In order to open this dilemma, the role of parents is much greater than that of children, and the mature three views make parents more comfortable in dealing with problems. Parenting education is the most difficult question for parents to answer. Although we can never give a standard answer, parents must have the following three kinds of consciousness.
● Children are the most perfect works of parents, but their future is only in their own hands.
Lebanese poet Ji Bolun has a famous poem "Children", which contains a sentence: Your children are not your children. You can give them love, but you can't give them thoughts.
Children are the continuation of parents' lives, but they are not the way for parents to complete life regrets. Children have their own lives, so parents should never plan their children's future according to their imagination.
As parents, they only guard their children's bottom line, grasp their direction, and do not participate in their future.
● Parents' love is selfless, but it does not mean that parents are "absolutely just".
Almost everyone has been hurt by the sentence "It's all for your own good". In fact, parents often don't understand what children think, but many parents kidnap their children's ideals and lives in the name of love.
Parents' love is selfless, but not everything parents love is right. Listen to your child's inner thoughts, not be the leader of your child's thoughts.
● Eliminate the sense of superiority brought by identity and face children with an equal attitude.
Wade Horn, an American psychologist, said: "The real meaning of being a child's friend is to carry out one's educational thoughts on children in an equal and acceptable way.
Children don't listen, which is the biggest headache for many parents when educating their children. In fact, many times parents will face such an embarrassing situation, often because parents like to speak in their own identity and there is no way to make their children feel the same.
Get rid of the sense of superiority brought by identity, go back to your child and let him completely relax his guard and open his heart. When parents really become children's intimate friends, the educational ideas that parents want to convey can easily penetrate into children's hearts.
Finally, I ended with a short poem "Pick Mom":
You asked me what I was doing before I was born. I replied, I choose the mother in the sky! Seeing you, I think you are very good, and I want to be your son, but I think I may not have that luck. Unexpectedly, the next morning, I was already in your stomach.