Of course, in addition to skills, there are many taboos. Boys and girls have different social responsibilities because of their gender, so the taboo places are different. After reading Professor Li Meijin's lecture, I feel that Professor Li Meijin mentioned "three taboos for raising children and five taboos for raising daughters". Parents know this, and children can take fewer detours in the future. "The concept of parenting is very useful. Share it with everyone.
● Three taboos for raising children
1. Boys are not allowed to cry.
Many families are very strict with boys who cry, and they will teach their children to hold back, thinking that a boy often cries like something.
In fact, parents' consciousness is wrong. Crying is not for girls, nor for boys. As we all know, crying is a good way to vent negative emotions, and the mood will be much more comfortable after crying. However, parents blindly instill in their children: "Crying is weak, but not brave." If children can't find a normal exit, they will be surrounded by negative emotions and prone to psychological problems.
2. Avoid everything for children.
Parents should not treat their children as "greenhouse babies", do not do everything for their children, prevent them from trying, and let them lose the taste of experiencing success. This practice seems to save a lot of trouble for children, but it is not good for children at all.
Children's concept of right and wrong is inherently weak, and the experience of not making mistakes will only make them accomplish nothing; But also lose their independence and take everything their parents do for granted.
3. Avoid interfering with children too much.
Parents should not interfere too much with their children. One day, children will grow up and need to face this society by themselves. If parents have been controlling their children's lives, they will not let their children make their own decisions and let them rely too much on their parents. Children will put away their thoughts, will not express them, and will not reflect on themselves when they encounter things. Instead, I think it's my parents' fault and I'm irresponsible.
Therefore, parents should learn to let go of their children properly, let them make some decisions by themselves, and let them take corresponding responsibilities after making mistakes, so as to cultivate their sense of autonomy and responsibility and make them more promising in the future.
● There are five taboos for adopting a daughter.
1. Avoid poverty
Vision and pattern are also important for girls. Parents should not raise their daughters in poverty, but should broaden their horizons with their daughters.
If you have a daughter, you should properly meet her reasonable needs, tell the child why she can't meet other needs, and let the child understand the reasons. You can't meet all the requirements unconditionally, which will only spoil your daughter.
2. Avoid son preference.
Parents should avoid giving preference to boys. Boys and girls are the same. Parents should not be partial and treat each child fairly.
In fact, your daughter has always been your daughter and will not take care of you just because she is married. When she is old, she will still be your sweet little cotton-padded jacket.
Don't spoil a young lady's temper.
Parents should not spoil their children's miss temper, which will make their children become arrogant and willful, and this character is easy to suffer in society.
You know, children will always leave your umbrella, and cultivating children's good character is the best protection for her.
4. Don't spoil children too much
Parents can't spoil their children too much and can't meet all their requirements. This will make children rely too much on their parents, so it is very important to cultivate their independence. Because everything depends on others, it is easy to be eliminated by society.
5. Avoid neglecting sex education
Parents should not neglect sex education for children, especially girls, so that children can learn how to protect themselves. Avoiding talking about it will only make children simple, gullible and more vulnerable.