The original text "courtesy, respect." So if you respect your father, you will be happy; Respect his brother, then his brother is happy; Respecting its monarch makes me happy; For one person, it is the happiness of thousands of people in Qian Qian. Few people worship, but many people are happy. This is called the main road. "
The so-called courtesy, in the vernacular, is just respect. Therefore, if you respect other people's fathers, your son will be happy; Respect other people's brothers, and younger brothers will be happy; A respectful monarch gets along well with his servants. Loving one person can make thousands of people happy. Although only a few people are respected, thousands of people in Qian Qian are happy about it. This is the meaning of courtesy as the avenue. "
What is the connotation of etiquette? What is a ceremony without "respect"?
"Courtesy, respect." The spirit and connotation of ceremony, in the final analysis, is a word "respect". Ceremony is the appearance, respect is the heart, and it is the foundation of ceremony. Only with sincere respect from the heart can he respect people and naturally be polite everywhere. Only when a person has respect can he do things that conform to the ceremony, so it is called "righteousness". Sincere in heart, showing respect in every word and deed. For example, "A Brief Introduction to Chang Li" said, "You can't sit in the middle of the table and walk in the middle". People who have respect for their elders will naturally do it. For example, taking pictures, he respects his elders, so he won't sit in the middle and stand in the middle to take pictures. After one internalizes respect for elders, one can see it in these details. Including eating, it started before the elders arrived. Nowadays, young people eat first, without waiting for their parents and elders, because their inner respect has not been established. Even some delicious food is reserved for the elders. So here, filial piety came to teach him and teach him to be a man; Rites and music should be changed to influence and educate him.
On the other hand, if a person has no respect, his gift will definitely be artificial and reluctant, and others will immediately find his hypocrisy, so it is called "sincerity is in the middle and the form is outside." "If you are dishonest, you will have nothing." It's no use if you don't do it in your heart. Because he is only polite and has no respect, he doesn't do well, so he can't achieve interpersonal harmony. Politeness is first cultivated from one's own home. First of all, he has the intention of respecting his parents, elders and brothers. After this heart is cultivated, he can respect everywhere when he goes outside.
In ancient China, ceremony was a social system and moral standard. As a legal system, it is the embodiment of the social and political system, and it is the etiquette in maintaining the superstructure and the corresponding interpersonal communication. As a moral code, it is the standard and requirement of all actions of state leaders and nobles.
Before Confucius, there were Li Xia, Li Yin and Zhou Li. The ritual system of Xia, Yin and Zhou Dynasties was relatively perfect in the Duke of Zhou. As an ideological form, etiquette is inseparable from "benevolence" in Confucius' ideological system. Confucius said, "If people are heartless, what is a gift?" He advocated the rule of virtue, that is, rule of virtue by virtue and rule of virtue by courtesy, which broke the restriction that "courtesy cannot surpass Shu Ren". ?
During the Warring States Period, Mencius regarded benevolence, righteousness, propriety and wisdom as the basic moral norms, and propriety as "resigned heart", which became one of the virtues of human beings. Xunzi paid more attention to ceremony than Mencius. He wrote On Ceremony, which demonstrated the origin and social function of "ceremony". In his view, courtesy makes everyone in society have a proper position in the hierarchy of nobility, age, wealth and so on.
In the long-term historical development, etiquette, as the moral standard and life standard of China society, has played an important role in cultivating the spiritual quality of the Chinese nation. At the same time, with the change and development of society, ceremonies are constantly endowed with new contents, constantly changing and adjusting.
Thinking 2: How is "respecting one person and pleasing ten thousand people" realized? How can we respect others?
"Respect a person, but thousands of people in Qian Qian are happy." In other words, you worship one person and millions of people are happy. We can respect a person and make his children, brothers and courtiers happy when they see him. That is to say, respecting one person can make countless people happy. During President Nixon's visit to China from 65438 to 0972, the Prime Minister personally arranged everything, and even Premier Zhou personally selected music for the banquet, which received good social effects. Therefore, "few people are respected and many people are flattered" is very wonderful. You really have little respect, but you have benefited many people and made the public happy. This is the main road to a harmonious society.
If we want to learn to use this channel, it will play a huge role in our work and life. When we visited the enterprise, we saw neat workshops and orderly working procedures, and praised their leaders for knowing how to manage. The workers must be very happy. This is to know how to "respect their monarch and then obey them." When we see a very polite person, we will praise "you have a good tutor!" " "In fact, he not only praised him, but also praised his parents. Because parents know education, he was very happy to hear it. This is "respect the father and make the son happy." "When we go abroad, we may not have a chance to see their * * *, but we respect the national flag and national anthem of that country and respect their customs and habits, which all symbolize their country. If we respect these, we will also have the effect of "respecting one person and pleasing thousands of people", and everyone we meet in this country will be happy.
So "Avenue" means starting from myself, and I will respect others. I respect others, that is, I learn to respect others and teach people how to be filial. This is the key to a harmonious society. Confucius and Old Master Q inherited the road to a harmonious society in the Book of Filial Piety, and its connotation has special reference significance for today's society.