When we grow up, it seems that we have gradually reconciled with our parents and our former selves, but this does not mean that we can't remember the pain, nor can we completely abandon the personality problems brought about by the impact of education during our growth.
It seems that we have always been the accessories of our parents, and also the handicrafts made by our parents themselves. It's just that they always seem to be dissatisfied with their handicrafts. They think it's because the craft itself doesn't work hard, and they never think about whether it's unskilled. This is very strange.
In recent two years, there have been frequent news reports that minors can't stand the oppressive education of their parents, which leads to embarrassing tragedies. Eiko in last year's hit drama Little Joy also suffered from depression and even jumped into the sea because of her family background and Song Qian's desire for control.
Eiko likes astronomy, and then she wants to be admitted to the best university in astronomy, Nanjing University. In fact, the most important reason why she wants to go to Nantah is that she is far from home. But Song Qian's goal for Eiko is to clear the north. She doesn't care what Eiko likes, only what she likes.
It's really not easy for Song Qian to bring up Eiko alone, but she regards Eiko as her whole, and everything revolves around Eiko. She is a teacher. She felt that she was right about everything, and then she got used to making decisions for Eiko. Song Qian will kindly ask Eiko what she thinks, but as soon as Eiko says it, she will sharply refute it.
After entering senior three, Song Qian was more strict with Eiko, urging her to study and making all kinds of tonic soup for her. In Song Qian's view, as a mother, she has done enough.
But Liu Jing has a good saying: "You want her to be warm, but she just wants to look good;" You want her to eat well, but she just wants to eat. "
Song Qian's love for Eiko will suffocate her and make her want to escape.
When the doctor asked her, Song Qian was weak herself. Yes, the child was awarded to her, and she worked hard, but the relationship between the child and the father was better.
Fortunately, after Eiko jumped into the sea, Song Qian began to reflect on his own problems, otherwise Eiko would really become the next "Yi Ding".
Maybe you will feel sorry for the oppression of your parents, but you should take better care of yourself. You can try to set up a "caring contract" for yourself and set up some activities that can make you happy and love life, such as going out shopping, reading a great novel and taking part in more group activities. Remember, these are not just thinking, but more doing.
Then, you will find that you are not as bad as your parents say. You can also prove to your parents that you are not that bad.
Only when you move towards a new life and future goals because of the sadness of being hit, time and a sense of accomplishment in accomplishing your goals will heal your wounds.