Fan's filial piety experience
Confucius said, "Disciples are filial, and younger brothers are younger. They sincerely believe that they love people all the time, but they are kind. I have spare capacity to study literature. " In the Analects of Confucius, filial piety is an excellent character alongside faith, love and benevolence, and it is listed in the first place. It is the basic principle of being a man and one of the important foundations of "learning literature". If you don't know how to be grateful to your parents, you can't be at home everywhere. Emotional overdraft leads to the lack of life experience, and even if you barely study, you can't understand the emotions and thoughts of your ancestors. Xia Zi, a student of Confucius, said, "A gentleman changes color. Parents can do their best, and gentlemen can bring him to health. He makes friends and keeps his word. Although I have not studied, I will call it learning. " Do your best to serve your parents and think for the monarch, and you can be loyal. In the ethical concepts of Jun Jun, ministers and father and son, a gentleman is like a father and a dutiful son is like a loyal minister. A Confucius said, "He is also filial to his younger brother, but few people like to make mistakes." It is not easy to make mistakes, but it is not easy to make mistakes. Gentleman's business is based on inheritance and Taoism. Filial piety is also the foundation of benevolence! "If filial piety is promoted to a higher level, there are very few people who can honor their parents and respect their brothers, but like to make mistakes. A gentleman is committed to cultivating the spirit of filial piety, which is the foundation of benevolence and Taoism. Filial piety is not only the foundation of being a son and a minister, but also the cornerstone of pursuing the highest realm of benevolence.
When Confucius discussed his attitude towards his parents with his students, he thought that supporting his parents was generally regarded as filial piety in society at that time. However, supporting parents is something that all dogs and horses can do, so it is not enough to support parents only. If we don't respect them, what's the difference between the son of man and all the children of dogs and horses? Parents are most worried about their children's health. Children should keep healthy and not let their parents worry, which is also filial piety to their parents. When parents are alive, children often accompany them to serve. Don't travel far. If you must travel far, you must have a certain direction and let your parents know your whereabouts. This is also a comfort to parents' concern. However, high-spirited teenagers often yearn for a wandering life. In their early years, they ignored their parents' efforts to persuade them to stay away from their hometown. It is often too late to get dressed and go home, or the prodigal son comes back, which inevitably leads to the regret that his son has to support and his relatives are not there. Children can't help thinking of their parents' age. On the one hand, they should celebrate their parents' birthdays. On the other hand, parents are getting older and older, and the days that are far away from us are getting closer and closer. As children, we should always feel sad, so that we can cherish our parents' lifetime and serve them wholeheartedly.
In the practice of serving parents, Confucius thought it was difficult to serve parents with kindness. Children do housework inside and outside the family, and parents can enjoy food first, but this should not be the only criterion of filial piety. If you see your parents doing something wrong, you should gently persuade them many times. If your parents don't adopt their own opinions, you should still respect them. Although you are worried, you still don't resent your parents. Serving parents, burying parents and offering sacrifices to parents should abide by the rules of "courtesy". Confucius' students killed me and thought that three years of mourning for my parents was too long. Confucius said he was heartless. After the child was born, it took three years to walk freely in the mother's arms. Three years of filial piety for parents is to repay their hard work when their children can't walk, but I can't even do this.
"Father, view its ambition; Father didn't, observe his actions; It is filial piety not to change the way of the father for three years. " Observe his ambition when his father is alive and his behavior when his father dies. If he does not change his father's principles for a long time, it can be said that he is filial. Emphasizing the practical action of filial piety, filial piety is not only a ceremony, a funeral and a sacrificial ceremony. It is not enough to work hard, live a considerate life and miss them often. We should strive to realize our parents' ideals and inherit and carry forward their advantages. Children are the continuation of parents' lives. As a dutiful son, we should let the spirit of parents continue on ourselves.
The poet said that mother is a pearl clam, and she suffered a lot because she cultivated a hard stone. She did not refuse to raise it, but wrapped it layer by layer with her thick and generous maternal love until it became a bright, round and flawless pearl. Mr. Yu Guangzhong, a famous poet and essayist in Taiwan Province, wrote on Mother's Day: After you left, the world has changed beyond recognition, and the only constant is my eternal gratitude to you. Filial piety advocated by Confucius has been a common national creed of China people for thousands of years, and it will also become the moral standard of future generations of Qian Qian.
Fan's filial piety experience
"Filial piety comes first in all virtues" is the unchangeable cognition of China people since ancient times, and unfilial is the basis of morality. Today's social culture is progressing and the times are changing. Only filial piety has always been observed and passed down by people. After reading "Filial Piety" in The Analects of Confucius, I deeply realized the true meaning of filial piety.
Filial piety is an important part of The Analects. Confucius said: You must know the age of your parents. One is joy and the other is fear. The son also said: Today's filial piety can be raised. As for dogs and horses, both can be kept; Disrespect, why not? One is happy because parents are alive, and the other is afraid because parents are old. There are also many people who feel that they have done their filial piety. They all say, "My parents eat the best, wear the latest clothes and live the biggest." But they don't know that filial piety is the heart first and behavior second. Facing their parents, today's children should ask themselves: how can the elderly be proud of having their own children and how can they be truly filial? A modern song expresses the feelings of many parents, that is, "go home often." Parents don't care what you do outside or how much you give them. I only care about your heart for them. I hope you can go home often. Anyway, as long as they can see you, they will feel that they are the happiest old people. When we honor our parents, we should do one thing: "We should try our best to serve our parents." When we honor our parents, we should do our best to honor them. Mind first, behavior second. When we often try our best to work, do we try our best to our parents?
Filial piety is the psychology of children's respect, obedience and gratitude to their parents and elders. When the baby was born, he lived with his parents and family day and night, and his parents were his closest relatives. Parents take good care of their children and devote all their efforts to their growth. This kind of love can also be felt by babies. When they are old and sensible, they begin to teach filial piety, that is, to teach children to recognize their parents' hard work, to cherish their parents' labor achievements and to repay their parents as much as possible. What is taught, said and done is within the range that children can understand. Although the children are young, they can feel how much their parents love me. I should learn from my parents and love them in this way, so that children can realize what it is like to love their parents from an early age. This kind of emotional experience is to sow a seed of "love" in a child's innocent heart. I know that I have loved my parents since I was a child, and it is natural to get used to it. When I grow up, I will naturally love my brothers and sisters, the people around me, the country, the society and mankind. It can be seen that China people teach filial piety, that is, from near to far, from easy to difficult, to cultivate children's love step by step, and finally to cultivate children's selfless love for all mankind. And all this starts with teaching children filial piety. Filial piety is both the starting point and the destination of all education. Therefore, China people say: "Filial piety is the foundation of virtue, and teaching is born."
If parents love their children to a considerable extent out of nature, then teaching children filial piety is a kind of humanistic education and the result of acquired education. Of course, in human nature, everyone knows that parents work hard and they should try their best to repay their parents. However, if this kind nature is not taught in time and correctly, so that it can take root, sprout, grow and grow, this feeling of gratitude will soon disappear. Unconsciously, I naturally think that my parents love me and love me, and I have become accustomed to clothes and reaching for food; As for me, I also want to love my parents, because no one taught me or reminded me that this has not become my living habit, but I gradually forgot it, and finally I was ignorant. In early childhood, there is no concept of guiding children to form filial piety, and there is no conscious action to make filial parents become children. When they grow up, they complain that their children don't know filial piety. Isn't it just a fish for a fish? Cultivating children's filial piety spirit from childhood, starting with dolls, is the most critical and the easiest to see the effect. Therefore, Confucius said, "Less becomes nature, and habit becomes nature". There is an old saying in China: "If you love your son, you should teach him justice", and filial piety is the greatest justice.
"Historical Records" said: "Those who are blessed by heaven are the beginning of human beings; Parents are the foundation of people. If you are poor, you will carry your roots, so you will be very tired. This is so painful that I don't have to call my parents. " Parents are the source of our life, the first teacher in life, and the people who love themselves the most in the world. Can I grow from a seedling to a towering tree without the support of my parents? Who is the most rewarding person in the world? In my opinion, it's parents. No matter how big your career is or how high your official position is, you can't forget your roots and kick down the ladder. As a poem says, "The kindness of parents is as deep as the sea. Don't forget their kindness in life. From ancient times to modern times, the birth cycle has been passed down from generation to generation. Being a child should be filial, and those who are unfilial commit a heinous crime. Only when the family is poor can a dutiful son be born. Birds and beasts still know how to breastfeed. It is also futile to hope that the child will become a dragon if you don't repay the kindness of parenting. "How can a person who doesn't even respect his parents expect him to love others?