Family education case
Wang Li's father always thinks that children grow up normally and develop naturally, and usually doesn't ask much about his life and study. Recently, the teacher told him that Wang Li's academic performance has dropped sharply since this semester and she often fights with her classmates.
Wang Li's father was very surprised. It's not like his own child. After confirmation, dad realized that his laissez-faire education method for children was inappropriate. Children are influenced by bad thoughts outside, spend all day with bad children and are not interested in learning. Dad didn't notice this, which made his behavior worse.
Expert analysis
Under the control of the educational thought of "letting nature take its course", many dads are indifferent to their children, let themselves go, and turn a deaf ear to some abnormal behaviors shown by their children, which will inevitably affect their normal development. The children educated in this way can hardly adapt to the requirements of society in the end.
Fathers who hold the idea of "letting nature take its course" usually show tolerance for their children's behavior, and failing to give guidance in time will distort their normal feelings and values. The phenomenon of "little emperor" and "little princess" is the result of this education to some extent.
Children's self-control is poor, and they often can't control their behavior well, and they won't choose the right learning method, which requires the timely guidance and help of their fathers. Correctly guiding children, cultivating children's ability, making children form a correct outlook on life and values, and have strong competitiveness in future competition, which is the basis for implementing family education.
Recommendation 1 Recognize the importance of family education.
Family is the most basic unit of society and the first natural educational place for children. With its advantages in emotional communication with children, family education is more likely to achieve ideal results. Scientific and reasonable educational methods will make children's abilities develop in a balanced way and form perfect personality and emotion, which is of great significance to children's healthy growth.
In the process of educating children, fathers also need to strengthen their self-cultivation, constantly improve their ideological, moral and cultural qualities, accept advanced educational concepts, strengthen their sense of purpose, set an example everywhere, learn more about their children, and communicate with them emotionally and psychologically, so as to create a democratic, harmonious and enterprising family atmosphere for their healthy growth and promote their healthy growth.
Recommendation 2: Family education methods should be combined with children's reality.
Respecting and understanding children is the first principle of family education. Only on the basis of knowing your children can you choose the education method suitable for your children. Family education methods should start with understanding children, and fathers should strengthen emotional communication with children and understand their personalities and hobbies.
In order to better educate Linlin, my father specially enrolled in the training class and mastered many educational methods in the training class. After going to school, my father couldn't wait to put these educational methods into practice, but the results were minimal. Linlin's study habits and living habits have not improved much.
For example, the training class said that parents should study with their children, so when Linlin did her homework, her father sat next to her with a book, constantly supervising her and dispelling her doubts. This made Linlin, who was used to doing his homework, feel depressed, so Linlin quarreled with his father several times.
Dad should analyze the scientific knowledge of family education in detail and implement it in a targeted manner according to the actual situation of children, so as to receive practical results and avoid copying it mechanically.
Recommendation 3: Family education should be combined with school education.
Family education is carried out among family members, and the intimate relationship of family members makes education initial and lasting, which has a great influence on children. Children begin to contact the society after school, and they have to face more complicated phenomena at school. Dad should always observe the child's emotional changes and understand the child's situation at school.
Recently, Li Chuan is always moping when he comes home. He doesn't care when his father talks to him. Dad was puzzled by his performance, so he took the initiative to contact Mr. Li Chuan. It turns out that Li Chuan didn't do well in this math exam. Mathematics used to be Li Chuan's strong point, because he failed in the exam, and he was very depressed.
Knowing Li Chuan's problems, my father actively enlightened him at home and told him that everything could not go smoothly in life and study. The key is to face setbacks with a good attitude. Under the education of his father, Li Chuan adjusted his state in time.
School-age children spend most of their time at school, and many of their problems will not be directly exposed at home. This requires fathers to pay attention to their own education methods, actively communicate with their children's teachers, understand their children's performance in school, and combine family education with school education to help their children grow better.
It is suggested that dad master some scientific educational methods.
Genius is not born. It depends on the father's cultivation, and his educational methods play a decisive role in the healthy growth of children. Dad's choice of education methods suitable for children on the basis of understanding children will make the effect of education more remarkable. But dad should also learn more scientific educational methods. The common education methods are: karl witte's comprehensive education method, Saidez's gifted education method, Montessori's special education method, Suzuki's gifted education method and so on.