6 steps The first step in correctly educating children in the rebellious period is to face up to their rebellious psychology without prejudice. If the child's rebellious mentality is particularly strong, it must be clear that this is a normal phenomenon. In fact, rebellious psychology also contains many positive qualities, such as strong self-awareness, strong competitiveness and innovative spirit. Parents should be good at discovering the creative quality and pioneering consciousness in rebellious psychology and guiding them reasonably. As long as it is properly guided, rebellious psychology can play a positive role in modern society.
The second step is that boys who don't quarrel with their children and embarrass their children during the rebellious period will become very grumpy. They think that everything parents do is against their will, and they often feel helpless, anxious and lonely, so no one can understand their inner world, so parents should first understand their children's situation. It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, which will lead to more resistance of children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. After you calm down, you can communicate with your children.
The third step is to give children space and freedom and try to communicate with them actively. Boys in the rebellious period will gradually lose their attachment to their parents as they did when they were children, but they will often find their own separate space to vent and express themselves. Therefore, as parents, don't think that children are not sensible as children, but should care more about their children and actively communicate with them. It is forbidden to communicate with children in their studies, and parents should not always focus on their academic performance, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business.
The fourth step is to master the correct communication methods and guide the children out of the incorrect range. Children who are in a rebellious period often show cynicism and feel that this environment and society do not belong to them. They always do behaviors that parents and family members can't understand, such as dyeing their hair in various colors and saying things that only their peers can understand. This is why parents should not always talk to their children with complaints and criticisms, but learn to communicate and explain correctly with their children. Help children lighten the burden of rebellious children. Parents have:? Looking forward to your son's success and your daughter's success? Some parents even impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and their children have to receive training they don't want when they come back from school, which makes them have no good mental relaxation and brings great mental stress to their children, which leads to their aversion to life and the early arrival of the rebellious period. I hope parents can give them proper time to play while studying!
Fifth, be more patient, tolerant and understand children's behavior. Children in the rebellious period often disappoint adults, because they don't pay attention to all the family rules and school rules they will show, because they think they have grown up and have their own ideas and opinions. They don't want to be controlled by someone, and they don't want to obey anyone, including their parents. All this also makes parents feel anxious, but as parents, we should not just be anxious, but learn to understand and tolerate. Pay attention to allowing rebellious children to make mistakes. This stage is a critical period for children to form their own opinions. Small mistakes are inevitable. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make mistakes and suffer losses, and don't tie their hands and feet too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can exert a subtle influence on children.
The sixth step is to enlist the help of children's friends or relatives to help children get out of the rebellious period. Parents can certainly enlist the help of others, such as classmates who have a good relationship with their children, or relatives and friends whom their children trust. Knowing children from them can also help them guide and educate their children, let parents know their own educational methods and methods, and let children choose to stay away from themselves. Such targeted education will help children through this rebellious period.
The Educational Method of Rebellious Children —— Parent-child Communication
Parents will find it difficult to communicate with children who are obviously rebellious. We need to take part in more children's activities.
Spend more time with your children.
Now the only child is lonely and lacks playmates. Therefore, parents still have a task, to play with their children, often choose books suitable for her, accompany her to surf the Internet, play cards with her, and accompany her to exercise. In this process, parents can understand her likes and dislikes and guide her in time. Spend more time with your child, play with him, talk with him, and maybe he won't look for spiritual sustenance in the illusory world.
Get to know the children
Children grow up and pay more attention to privacy. Some parents peeked at their children's diaries and found some secrets of their children. They couldn't hold their breath and flew into a rage. This is the most unwise way to educate children. If you think that only by reading your child's diary can you understand what the child is thinking, that's fine, but it's best not to get angry, let yourself calm down, analyze the reasons and think about ways to deal with it. And most importantly, don't let your child know that you have seen something she doesn't want to see. Otherwise, it is easy for her to have a crisis of trust in you and have a rebellious mentality.
Respect for children
Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and compare their children's shortcomings with other children's strengths. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.
Transposition consideration
Parents also came from the rebellious period of youth, but children are not obvious, so in the face of their inexplicable behavior, we might as well put ourselves in their shoes and think about why children are like this. With empathy, you will understand the child and find the crux of the problem.
Stabilize mood
It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, which will lead to more resistance of children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. When you calm down, you can communicate with your children.
Allowable error
This stage is a critical period for children to form their own opinions, and small mistakes are inevitable. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make some mistakes and suffer some losses, and don't tie their children's hands and feet too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can exert a subtle influence on children.
Avoid talking about grades.
When communicating with children, parents should not always focus on learning, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business.
Skills of communicating with rebellious children The rebellious period of teenagers is a critical period for the formation of children's world outlook, and their personality and creativity are rising freely. At the same time, due to the limitations of children's physical and mental development and education, many of their ideas are immature and even extreme, which requires external education to guide children correctly. However, in real education, some parents easily fall into the misunderstanding of educational polarization.
Myth 1: A general strike. In the face of children's rebellious words and deeds, some parents have taken tough measures. Gradually, the child seems to be obedient again? Good boy? In fact, I have closed the door to communicate with my parents in my heart.
Myth 2: Let yourself go. Some parents, in the face of difficult children, failed to improve after several times of discipline, lost confidence and began to let their children go with the flow. At this time, regardless of the child's words and deeds and thoughts, parents no longer ask and guide. Over time, children are adversely affected and their behavior is biased. When parents regret it, they find that they have delayed their children's life.
freedom
? Should you? 、? Do you have to? 、? you do not get it , do you? This is the mantra of many parents. In the face of rebellious children, parents should say as little as possible, because children who think they are adults will not accept such orders.
right to speak
? Sweep the road if you can't get into college? Many parents have told their children that although they are good for their children, their ears have long cocoons. Can they promise these words in the rebellious period? All poisons do not invade? Yes At this time, parents should talk less and listen more to understand what their children are thinking.
Time domination
Children in this period are eager to have their own small world. Therefore, parents should not make their own decisions and arrange their children's time according to their own wishes. They should leave time for the children themselves. For unreasonable arrangements, parents should make suggestions in a negotiated tone, and never completely deny their children.
voting right
Some important events at home, such as moving and buying a house, may wish to discuss with children, consider their feelings and ask for their opinions. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children can generally approach their parents on their own initiative.
right of privacy