How should newlyweds run their own marriages?
First of all, recognize your role in marriage.
Now that you are married, you should learn to recognize your identity and role in marriage. When you are in love, you can still lose your temper, but after marriage, you need to shoulder a responsibility and play the role of a good wife and mother. Recognizing your role in marriage is the primary task of managing marriage.
Second, dealing with marriage needs to pay attention to art.
After marriage, the couple will gradually show their true colors. As they get closer, they will encounter some setbacks. What you see is not only the advantages of each other, but also the disadvantages, and there will be more and more contradictions between husband and wife. At this time, we should deal with the marriage problem flexibly, don't magnify the problem, and try our best to solve the problem in contradiction. Only in this way can we get through the dangerous period of marriage safely.
Third, respect each other.
In marriage, men and women should have equal status. Couples should learn to respect each other, don't bully each other by virtue of women's advantages, and don't feel inferior because they are married to each other's family. When you encounter differences of opinion, you should know how to respect each other's opinions. Even if you disagree, don't slander each other's views. Mutual respect and understanding will make the relationship between husband and wife better and better.
Marriage management methods of newlyweds.
1. Innocent and romantic love letter
Marriage is the umbrella of this relationship, and it is also a new beginning of a relationship and life. After a few years, marriage will begin to fade over time. So let's have a romantic offensive. Have you forgotten the ancient method of "love letter" for a long time? Many years ago, when I wrote with a pen, the warmth of a letter and the happiness of a love letter made me feel deep love through your brushstrokes. As long as you write it yourself, it doesn't matter if you are naive. A brave lover will be welcomed everywhere.
2. Be careful of the intimate contact of the machine.
Holding hands and hugging are common in love. After marriage, it seems that these intimate behaviors began to decrease a lot. It actually happened after marriage. Take advantage of crossing the road and climbing the steps to pretend to hold his hand inadvertently. You two will go to the top of the mountain to see the stars, enjoy the moonlit night by the lake, and enjoy a romantic night only for you two. It will not be less intimate than indoors, because outdoors, with beautiful luminous and romantic scenery as a foil, the whole beautiful atmosphere will also add a lot of emotional appeal!
3. Remember the passion and sweetness of honeymoon.
Getting engaged is very troublesome and stressful, but with a happy ending, all the hard work is worth it. After the honeymoon, you need to make your own itinerary, and every detail can't be sloppy. Although it sounds like everything is spent in a non-stop busy life, you must feel that no matter how hard you work, everything is developing in a better direction.
Skills of newlyweds in managing marriage
1. Make progress together.
Many women believe that once two people get a marriage certificate in the Civil Affairs Bureau, everything will be under control in the future. With this idea, marriage is very dangerous. First of all, a marriage certificate is a form of contract, which only legally recognizes the relationship between two people. Secondly, the existence of a marriage certificate does not mean that your marriage has entered the safe. Finally, please don't ignore the role of two people making progress together. There is still a long way to go after marriage, and many things mean that you need to pay and take responsibility. When our pressure is increasing day by day, there are more and more things to deal with and our ability is also improving. If men make great progress and grow rapidly during this period, but we stand still and stagnate, then with the passage of time, the psychological distance between them will gradually widen, and they will begin to be uncoordinated and even become a burden to the family. So in daily life, two people should constantly support each other and make progress together.
2. Keep yourself young forever.
Many people find it difficult to do this. Once a woman reaches the age, she is no longer as young as before. From this moment on, we should start to change our ideas. Keeping young is not just about your appearance. The so-called being born from the heart means that a person's inner activities can be seen from his temperament and appearance, so he should keep his heart young and mature. We used to love makeup, matching, playing and joking, so please keep it up. In the future, you will gradually find that a good attitude can make you more attractive while maintaining vitality.
3. Have an independent personality.
Character can be cultivated slowly. If you depend on each other and trust each other when you get married, it will often be very difficult after marriage. Married women need to cultivate their independence and the ability to think independently. Independence is the ability to solve problems independently. Imagine if a person travels for a month or more, can he take care of himself? The so-called independent thinking means whether you can express your opinions on a matter and take measures that are not echoed by others, but draw independent opinions according to the actual situation. To achieve the above two points, it will not become a burden for men in marriage and reduce the occurrence of contradictions.
The most common contradiction between newlyweds
1. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
The first test that most newlyweds face after marriage is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is also a contradiction that many families can't reconcile all their lives. Because new family members join, the original family balance is broken, and family members can't adapt to the new role in a short time. There will be many contradictions: for example, the mother-in-law still has a strong sense of parents and insists on mastering the dominance of the new family; Mother-in-law hasn't adapted to her daughter-in-law, and this family treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider.
2. Money hurts the feelings of husband and wife most.
Money is the most likely trigger for family conflicts. After marriage, because women are in charge of all the expenses of the family, they will ask men to pay the monthly salary in full, leaving only the right amount of money for their husbands to do petty expenses. But from a man's point of view, why should someone else distribute his salary? Don't you have any special purpose?
3. Children education
Both parents want to be kind to their children, but they have different views on how to educate them. Some fathers think it should be strict, but some mothers think that children should not be so strict, so that there will be no more family conflicts caused by children.