Strong mothers are generally smart and confident, even a little conceited, and think that all their arrangements are beneficial to their children. As long as children follow their own ideas, they can approach and achieve their goals according to the predetermined track.

Strong mothers give their children freedom on the surface, but in fact there is little room for their children to really choose, because they think their arrangement is the most scientific.

A strong mother, regardless of the details, will unconsciously take away a lot of things and inadvertently "deprive" her children of their growth space.

I need to turn over a new leaf and stop nagging and urging my children. I can't have my children around me anymore. Try to let them learn to manage and arrange their own time. Although the process will be tortuous, we must give him a chance to practice and let him take the risk of not finishing his homework, otherwise how can the child grow up?

At breakfast, just remind him "What time is it? There are still a few minutes to leave. " Say, "Eat!" Hurry up! Late! "Go out without a red scarf, just remind him to check.

When doing homework at night or on weekends, don't ask him to write, let him learn to arrange and control his own time, just give suggestions or reminders, and don't give orders.

Read a book before going to bed, just tell him what time it is, and let the child decide when to close the book, without forcing the lights to turn off. There may be the risk of staying up late occasionally, but this is the experience you need to grow up.

I'm anxious and always nagging. Children are used to doing homework and waiting for me to arrange it. It seems that reaching his mother's arrangement is his goal. Start to change now, and treat your child as an independent person, which is reflected in every sentence you say to your child. Only when you treat your child as an adult can he really grow up. The risk of letting go of children may be a small "problem", but it is temporary. If you don't let go of the child, the risk is 10- 15 years later!

Parents need to remind themselves at all times: What do you want their children to look like when they are 20 or 25, and what do you need most at that time? It's not a score, it's not an olympiad, and it's not a prestigious school. When you look further, you will find that these will all be clouds after all.

It is the core self-management ability, independent will, optimistic and positive thinking and communication ability. At the same time, what will the society look like in 20 years? Unpredictable, it is difficult for us to prepare any good swords for our children, except for a healthy body and mind.

So, relax and think like this when you are struggling.