In today's world, the new scientific and technological revolution is developing rapidly, social competition is becoming increasingly fierce, society is progressing, and the requirements for national cultural quality are also improving, so the requirements for education are also improving. However, education is not only the responsibility of one-sided kindergartens, but also the support and cooperation of families. Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous educator in China, said: "Kindergarten education is a complicated matter. It is not something that a family can do alone, nor can a kindergarten do it alone. It must be used together to get full effect. " The new "Outline" also clearly points out: "Family is an important partner of kindergarten. Based on the principles of respect, equality and cooperation, we should strive for parents' understanding, support and active participation, and actively support and help parents improve their educational ability. "In contact with parents, I found that some parents did not correctly realize their correct position in education, and there were still some confusing educational behavior deviations in the process of educating children, which were not suitable for their healthy growth. In order to let children receive newer and better education, make them develop good behavior habits, and lay a better foundation for them to become talents adapted to the future social development, we have carried out a study on "home cooperation and jointly cultivate children's good behavior habits".
First, realize the mutual cooperation between home and home and synchronize education.
The purpose of kindergarten parents' work is to realize the mutual cooperation between families, synchronize education and promote the improvement of children's quality. This is also the starting point and destination of kindergarten parents' work. The so-called "home cooperation, synchronous education" is mainly to publicize children's scientific care and education knowledge to parents and help parents improve their tutoring level, which is a very important part of their work. Promoting the knowledge of scientific conservation and education of children to parents and helping parents to improve the level of raising children is for parents to better educate their children, let families cooperate with each other in education and promote the development of children. We have repeatedly used parent-teacher conferences, individual conversations, home visits, expert introductions and other forms to publicize the importance of good behavior habits for children's growth. An article about parents' garden every week provides parents with a guide to action. Specific requirements are put forward in terms of children's etiquette communication and self-care ability. Parents can cultivate their children's good behavior habits by following these requirements. It is absolutely necessary to carry out parent-teacher conferences and publicity columns in kindergartens, but it is not enough to do these tasks alone. We should also do a good job in regular contact and communication between families, and carry out in-depth and meticulous parental work, so as to realize the mutual cooperation and synchronous education between families and promote the improvement of children's quality.
1. Family communication consciousness
Families and kindergartens are out of touch with their children's behaviors and habits. Kindergarten teachers feel that children are obedient and can take the initiative to do things. At home, parents reflect their children's willfulness and dependence. Good behavior habits developed in kindergartens are diluted or even abolished at home. For example, in kindergarten, children insist on eating independently every day and are not picky about food. At home, the family revolves around the children, and you laugh at me and feed them, and the children become "little emperors". It is not enough for children to develop good behavior habits only in kindergartens, but also in families, which require the joint efforts of families and kindergartens. Kindergarten and family are two wheels in one car, which must be synchronized and in the same direction. On the one hand, parents should establish a correct educational concept, persistently cultivate their children to form good behavior habits, and let the behavior habits formed in kindergartens be consolidated and developed at home. On the other hand, kindergartens should also publicize scientific educational methods to parents, increase their participation, and adopt various ways to work together to cultivate children to form good behavior habits.
Only by establishing close contact and frequent communication with family members can kindergartens achieve the goal of educating children to keep pace. Kindergarten teachers and parents should always communicate their children's situation in kindergarten and at home, jointly study ways to cooperate with education, and give feedback to each other on the educational effect. Only in this way can we reach a consensus, achieve the goal of synchronous education and promote the development of children. It is not easy to realize the communication between kindergarten and family, and it needs the efforts of both sides. Kindergarten should play a leading role, because kindergarten is a specialized corrective institution. Preschool teachers should actively create conditions to eliminate parents' worries, smooth communication channels and make joint efforts to promote the healthy development of children's body and mind.
2. Help parents to improve their understanding of "cultivating good behavior habits".
What is a habit? It is a kind of behavior that people gradually consolidate in constant repetition and consciously appear in specific situations. Behavioral habits include behaviors that occur unconsciously and naturally in people's study, life and moral practice. The formation of habits is a process of establishing dynamic stereotypes on the basis of conditioned reflex. This process needs to be realized through continuous learning. The younger the child is, the greater the plasticity of the body, and the easier it is to establish dynamic stereotypes. Therefore, let children start to enter a regular life and pay attention to all kinds of good behaviors for them as soon as possible. The cultivation of habits is very necessary. As Mr. Chen Heqin said: "Infantile period is very important for children's life, so naive education is the basic education for children." Children have laid a deep foundation in habits, knowledge, words and thoughts during this period. If the foundation is slightly unstable during this period, a sound personality will not be established in the future. " 1.5 ~3 years old children refuse to help their families when their self-confidence is budding. Many parents will say, "You are too young to do it!" Reason, and arrange instead of behavior. In order to guide parents to carry out all-round development education, give their children self-confidence and overcome excessive protection of their children, as teachers, we should first help parents to improve their understanding of "cultivating good behavior habits".
Second, help parents improve the level of scientific parenting.
Kindergartens adopt various effective ways to publicize the correct educational concept and scientific parenting knowledge to parents, and help parents improve their family education level, which can not only improve and optimize family education, but also help families reach a consensus on educating their children and achieve educational harmony. To publicize the principles and knowledge of scientific parenting to parents and provide tutoring guidance, we should pay attention to the following aspects:
1. Help parents understand the importance of family education for young children.
Many parents lack understanding of the importance of early childhood education, especially early childhood family education. Some parents think that "the tree attracts the wind"; Some people think that children mainly grow up when they are young, and going to school is the beginning of education; Some parents only pay attention to making money and don't care about their children's education; There are still quite a few parents who think that sending their children to kindergarten, education is a teacher's business, and parents just care about their children's lives. Kindergarten should publicize to parents that children are the foundation of life, an important period for the rapid development of body and intelligence and the formation of personality, morality and behavior habits, and a golden age for education. Parents should also be aware that parents play an important and irreplaceable role in the process of educating their children and should do their duty.
2. Help parents to establish a correct educational concept.
The concept of family education determines parents' educational behavior. At present, many parents of children in our country have problems in their views on children, development, teaching children and success, which leads some parents to go astray in their children's education and directly affects the quality of family education and home cooperative education. For example, many parents mistakenly think that instilling a lot of knowledge into their children's minds is intellectual development, so that children can become talents and stars by learning a skill, which is considered as early education; Some parents ignore the social development of their children and pay no attention to the cultivation of their character, morality and behavior habits; Some parents' educational ideas are out of date and can't meet the requirements of the times. Therefore, it is necessary to help parents correct and update their educational concepts, establish the idea of making children develop in an all-round and harmonious way in physical, intellectual, moral and aesthetic aspects, and establish the concept of facing the future, starting from young children and cultivating a new generation of socialism.
3. Promote parenting knowledge to parents.
Nowadays, many parents expect too much from their children, but they don't educate them well. They don't understand the physiological and psychological characteristics of children and lack scientific parenting knowledge. Some parents dote on their children, others are simple and rude; Some parents give their children directional education too early, and some parents don't advocate their children playing games, thinking that children can't learn knowledge by playing games, and educate their children in primary school and adult stage.
To publicize the knowledge about children's physical and mental characteristics, scientific care and education to parents, so that parents can understand the scientific laws that must be followed in raising children, adhere to the educational principles of combining strict love, giving priority to positive education, leading by example, and consistent education, and promote children to develop good behavior habits.
Third, create a good family environment for the healthy growth of children.
Family environment is composed of the cultivation of family members, parents' educational concepts, attitudes, the relationship between family members and family atmosphere. This is a more important aspect related to children's physical and mental development. So how can we create a good family education environment? First of all, parents should strive to create and maintain a harmonious, happy and respectful atmosphere. Children in such a family will feel warm and happy, emotionally stable, influenced by love, and sprout self-confidence and self-motivation; Secondly, it is necessary to create a beautiful and tidy family environment, so that children can sprout good behavior habits such as loving beauty and neatness, caring for things and living rules. Furthermore, the teacher's education model is extended to family education, and what the kindergarten asks the children to do is the same for the children at home. In this way, good behavior habits can be consolidated. The way of family education provides conditions for the formation of children's habit system, and the cultivation of parents provides an example for the shaping of some habits of children. Parents teach by example, children are exposed, and the overall habits are subtly built.
Parents should realize that family education, especially family preschool education, is essentially an environmental education, and should pay attention to creating a good material and spiritual environment for the healthy and harmonious development of children's body and mind.
Fourth, ways to cultivate good behavior habits.
Children's good behavior habits are beneficial to their life, and their behavior habits are formed and consolidated through repeated practice and practice. If the result of our education is only learning knowledge without good behavior habits, then our education is a failure. Children's habits of good behavior can be cultivated from the following aspects.
1. Education should be patient and the truth should be clear.
What kind of education, children will form what kind of habits. Young children are young and have poor understanding ability. Teachers and parents should be more patient with their children's education. When reasoning, be clear and not vague. What is right and what is wrong must be explained clearly to the children. If a child fights with his companion because of a toy, as a parent, he should educate his child how to get along well with his companion and tell him that it is wrong to hit someone if there is a contradiction. When talking about problems, be specific and explain things. For example, children don't know how to "listen carefully". At this time, parents need to explain: when others speak, they must first look at others and listen to him clearly; Don't interrupt others casually; We'll talk about it when others have finished. Through repeated "lectures" and repeated "demonstrations", children will gradually deepen their impressions and form an understanding.
2. Practice strengthening behavior repeatedly.
Through repeated training and practice, strengthening certain skills and methods and developing appropriate attitudes are important ways to form good habits. Therefore, the cultivation of children's behavior habits should be infiltrated and strengthened bit by bit from every daily activity, every game and every link. For example, in the cultivation of children's self-care ability, children are required to learn to do their own things, learn to put on and take off their clothes, and learn to organize their toys. If children can't do it, they should demonstrate it carefully. Parents should always have the awareness of "habit education", start from bit by bit and pay close attention to the cultivation of children's habits. Always holding hands and taking pains to teach. At the same time, children should be encouraged to practice repeatedly through oral praise, small stickers and other methods until they master it. Through continuous strengthening, accumulation, strict requirements and perseverance, children's good behavior will gradually become a habit.
3. Consistency of family education
Every aspect of children's growing environment is very important, but parents must be consistent in cultivating concepts, methods, measures and rhythms for the way children love. Mom just said, dad immediately denied it; Dad's decision, mother completely disagree; What you say in the morning changes in the afternoon, and so on, so that children don't know who to listen to, and even wander between their parents, forming a dual personality and becoming a hypocritical person. Therefore, the education of family members must be consistent. These include: the consistency of educational objectives and educational methods; Consistency of educational content; Consistency of educational attitude. In case of inconsistency, parents should first communicate, discuss and reach an agreement on the issue. Even if we can't resolve our differences immediately, we should hide our views. In order to facilitate children's growth, scientifically create a harmonious family atmosphere.
No habit can be formed overnight, especially the cultivation of children's good behavior habits. It needs the unremitting joint efforts of family, society and kindergarten to let children practice and practice in a good environment, so as to better consolidate and cultivate good behavior habits. In practice, we realize that our homes are out of touch and get twice the result with half the effort; The combination of home and home will get twice the result with half the effort. It is necessary to better guide all kinds of parents, adopt more creative and effective guidance methods, and cultivate children's good behavior habits from an early age. Only through family cooperation and common education can children develop good behavior habits and benefit for life.