First, step by step, according to the principle of step by step.
Step by step, according to one's ability, basically means that in family education, children must develop according to their actual physical and mental level and follow the order of gradual improvement from easy to difficult. We should implement this principle and do the following:
First, fully understand the actual level of children's physical and mental development and do it with strength.
To succeed in education, we must fully understand the actual level of children's physical and mental development and follow the laws of children's physical and mental development, so as to consider what to teach and how to teach. Therefore, in family education, parents must fully understand their children's physical and mental development level and the actual level of knowledge they have learned. On this basis, only by choosing appropriate educational content and effective educational methods can we achieve ideal results.
Second, we should impart knowledge step by step and cultivate our ability, and don't rush for success.
Every kind of scientific and cultural knowledge has its logical order from the shallow to the deep and from the easy to the difficult, which has certain consistency. When teaching knowledge to children, we should pay attention to the connection between old and new knowledge and enhance the systematization of knowledge. We should not only pay attention to consolidating the knowledge that children have learned, but also inspire children to learn new knowledge. It is necessary to inspire and induce children to think independently and gradually cultivate their ability to think systematically. Pay attention to observation and understand the child's knowledge. When children don't understand what they have learned, don't rush to teach new content, but teach knowledge according to the principle of step by step and ability. Second, the principle of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and all-round development.
To teach students in accordance with their aptitude and develop in an all-round way, it is necessary to determine the educational content and requirements according to children's age characteristics, personality differences and physical and mental development level. Use appropriate methods to carry out targeted education, so that children can grow up healthily according to the requirements of all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty.
The physical and mental characteristics of children vary with age and personality development, and there are also differences in the level of physical and mental development, which is objective. Parents must do a good job in the education of their children according to their specific conditions. Every child's personality, temperament, hobbies and IQ are different. Parents should, according to their children's specific conditions, adopt appropriate methods to carry out targeted education, and cultivate their children's cultural knowledge, ideological morality and behavior habits in accordance with the principle of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and all-round development. At the same time, we should enlighten, guide and help children according to their physical and mental laws.
Third, the principle of consistently demanding and unifying education.
This principle means that in the family education of children, family members should cooperate and coordinate with each other, so that children's morality and behavior can develop in accordance with unified requirements. The formation of children's ideological morality and behavior habits is not only a long-term development process, but also a continuous and complete process. Therefore, in family education, we should follow the principle of educational unity. Only when family members coordinate with each other and have a unified understanding and requirements for children's education can we achieve good results. Therefore, when educating children, family members should cooperate with each other and keep pace. Even if there are differences of opinion, it should not be exposed to children, otherwise it will have a negative impact on their physical and mental development, which parents should pay attention to when educating their children. Therefore, if family education is to be successful, it is very important for family members to adopt a consistent attitude when educating their children.
The cultivation of children's good moral character and behavior habits can not be achieved by telling the truth once and doing one or two exercises, but by constantly strengthening and consolidating after many exercises. Family members have the same attitude and requirements for children's education, which will encourage children to practice some virtues and behaviors many times, and constantly strengthen and consolidate them, thus forming good morality and habits.
Fourth, the principle of combining teaching with practical activities.
Family is the earliest classroom for children, and participating in family life is the earliest practical activity for children. Therefore, family education for children should run through family life, educate children to care for each other, be harmonious and coordinated, be civilized and polite, and cultivate children's good moral character of respecting, caring for and helping others imperceptibly. Family life practice plays an inestimable role in the formation of children's moral character and behavior habits. As someone said, family is the first vat, degree is the second vat, society is the third vat, and the first vat is the first coloring of life, all of which are colored on the basis of background color. Therefore, the coloring of family has a very important influence on the formation of a person's ideological and moral character and behavior habits, and even affects a person's life. Therefore, parents should pay special attention to combining their children's early education with the practice of family life, so as to create a good family education environment for their children and let them receive education and grow up healthily in a harmonious and civilized family environment. Five, the principle of combining care with strict requirements
It is human nature for parents to care for their children. This kind of love is the emotional basis for cultivating children's good character and behavior. Without this kind of love, there is no education, and it is difficult to achieve good educational results. However, loving without teaching and lax management will naturally fail to achieve the purpose of education. Therefore, when educating their children, parents should pay attention to the combination of caring and strict requirements, so as to love without drowning and be strict without persistence.
(1) Love without drowning
Parents' care and love for their children should be based on the premise of being conducive to their physical and mental health. Without this premise, it is easy to run counter to their desire to succeed. Parents' love for their children should be rational and measured, and they should never spoil them, otherwise they will become the bane of their physical and mental deformities.
There are different forms of doting, but the result of doting can only be harmful to children. The victims are naturally the state and society, but it is parents who bear the brunt and suffer the consequences. Because parents' doting makes children form bad habits, it is difficult to discipline, and there are countless examples of harm to family and society.
Parents should pay attention to the following points in order to love their children from drowning:
First, parents should care and love their children rationally and properly. They should not only let their children feel the sincere love of their parents, but also let them feel the warmth of their families and stimulate their positive wishes. They should also make children care about their parents and other family members, and gradually ask them to do some self-help work and housework within their power. This is not only conducive to cultivating children's good moral character of loving labor and caring for the collective, but also conducive to cultivating children's intelligence and self-care ability.
Second, parents should correctly treat their children's requirements. Everyone has needs, which are manifold and often endless. Children's needs should be analyzed in detail, based on the actual economic situation of the family and the physical and mental health of the children, and they should not be obedient and responsive. Excessive satisfaction of children's needs can easily lead to children's excessive desires and develop insatiable habits. Once parents can't meet their children's needs, they will inevitably cause their children's dissatisfaction and be difficult to discipline. When their strong desires are not satisfied, they are easy to go astray, which is what every parent needs to pay attention to.
Third, in the case of family, try to meet the reasonable requirements of children. If a child asks to buy some necessary articles for children's painting, calligraphy and entertainment that are conducive to increasing knowledge, developing intelligence and enriching spiritual life, it should generally be met. If it is difficult for parents to do it at the moment, explain the reasons to their children. When educating their children, parents should not only actively create conditions to promote their physical and mental health, but also educate their children to pay attention to thrift and prevent them from developing the bad habit of extravagance and waste.
(2) Strict and lax.
Caring and strict requirements are two aspects of the unity of opposites in cultivating children's good morality and habits. I talked about how to care and love, and here I will talk about strict requirements.
The strict requirements we are talking about are based on children's development level and age characteristics, and the premise is to achieve good educational results. If "strictness" is qualified, it will go to the opposite side. To this end, parents must follow the following points:
First of all, the requirements put forward by parents are reasonable, in line with the actual situation of children and conducive to their physical and mental health. It is ok to ask a four-year-old child to follow his parents as far as possible, but it is unreasonable to ask him to walk as fast and as far as his parents.
Secondly, the requirements put forward by parents must be appropriate and can be achieved by children through hard work. If the requirements are too high, children can't achieve it even if they work hard, which will make them lose confidence and fail to achieve educational results.
Thirdly, the requirements for children must be clear and specific, so that children can understand what to do and how to do it, and they can't be ambiguous, so that children are at a loss.
Finally, once parents make demands on their children, they should urge them to do it seriously. We shouldn't say that they don't keep their word, or they don't do it, but we must let them do it, otherwise the educational effect will not be achieved.
Six, the principle of the unity of example and teaching.
In the process of educating their children, parents should not only be good at reasoning, but also set an example for their children with their own actions. In other words, we should not only set an example, but also pay attention to teaching by example, so as to unify the two and make education achieve good results.
Children's social knowledge of life experience is very lacking, and they can't distinguish right from wrong. They always need the guidance of their parents. It is very necessary to explain the truth to children and tell them what they did wrong, what they should do and what they should not do. But it is not enough to reason, and it is difficult to achieve the educational goal, because children can only speak for a few minutes or a little longer, and children can only listen to this kind of preaching with their ears, and what they hear is empty truth. Parents' words and deeds appear in front of children all the time from morning till night, and children see concrete and vivid images with their eyes. Compared with the former, the latter is more influential. Therefore, when educating their children, parents should not only pay attention to reasonable education, but also set an example for their children in terms of ideology, morality and behavior habits.
Parents' ideological morality and behavior habits play a subtle role in children. In family education, children should not only listen to their parents' reasonable education, but also pay attention to their parents' words and deeds and every move. If parents are virtuous, polite and caring for children, children will respect and fear their parents and follow their example. If parents tell their children clearly, the actual action is another matter. Naturally, children will not be convinced and it will be difficult to achieve the purpose of education. Children often like to imitate adults. Parents have the longest contact with children, the greatest influence and the most imitation. In children's minds, parents are the most reliable people. Parents' words and deeds, manners and manners are often the code of conduct and role models for children, so parents' ideological morality and behavior habits have a great influence on children's development and growth. To this end, parents should strive to improve their own quality, set an example for their children, unify their words and deeds, do a good job in family education, and let their children develop noble ideology and good behavior habits from an early age.