Parents praise or urge their children in time, so that they can give full play to their strengths and make up for their shortcomings.
Parents should set a good example for their children, communicate and learn with them, and grow together.
No wonder some people lament that the best education is "fighting for parents".
Examination is not only a knowledge competition on paper, but also a competition of educational investment.
The protagonist of investment is parents; The competition place is at home.
Excellent children must be accompanied by their parents, and all parents should know.
Five "pits" that parents must avoid when accompanying their children
An education expert once said: Excellent children are the fruits of quality education, and problem children is the product of problem families.
The wrong way of accompanying parents may ruin children's efforts and potential.
The first pit: too perfunctory, not really solving the problem.
Companionship is more than companionship. If parents do their own things while accompanying their children, it is equivalent to no companionship.
Children need to be seen, not accompanied.
The second pit: poor patience and uncontrollable emotions.
Some parents hate iron not to produce steel. They easily lose their temper and beat and scold their children.
Only seeing the differences of children, not seeing the goodness of children, and losing patience with them will become a "poison" for children's growth.
The third pit: too little reaction, away from children.
Some parents are very perfunctory. No matter what their children do, a "yes" or "I know" can get over it.
For children aged 3- 12, parents' participation in too low companionship is not conducive to their growth.
The fourth pit: too much talk about the church makes children disgusted.
Preaching is not education, but an outlet and an irresponsible accusation.
Parents always preach, that is, they stand on the opposite side of their children. When parents arm themselves with authority, children will protect themselves with emotions.
The fifth pit: expectations are too high, putting pressure on children.
Children are not machines. If we don't give love and care, we must get the feedback from our children to the maximum.
Educating children should not be too utilitarian.
Accompany the child, not just let him get a good grade in the exam.
Companionship is a very complicated concept. Parents are with their children, and it is more important to know what the children are thinking, what they need and what they are afraid of.
Only by deeply participating in children's growth and being accompanied by parents is effective education.
Excellent children are accompanied.
These five kinds of high-quality companionship are most needed.
The real quality of companionship lies not in the length of time, but in the quality of companionship.
The first kind: the company with heart.
Accompanying children should be "intentional" rather than "hard".
Pay close attention, listen attentively and help attentively. Only parents can help their children find and solve problems with their heart.
The second type: respectful companionship.
Don't attack children, don't blame them blindly, don't sell yourself short, even your own children should be given due respect and trust.
Real companionship is to be friends with children. We should all keep a low profile, respect each other and tolerate each other.
The third type: patient companionship.
When communicating with children, we must pay attention to the wording and attitude, explain the truth, and avoid getting angry and labeling children.
We all know some truth, but children don't necessarily understand it, so we should spend more patience to educate children.
The fourth kind: the companionship of a normal heart.
Not all children can get 100. If a child wins the first place, there must be children clapping by the roadside.
Achievement doesn't mean everything. There are many possibilities for children. We should help children understand themselves correctly and find the most suitable growth path for them.
Fifth: the companionship of common growth.
Dong Qing once said: What kind of person do you want your children to be? First, what kind of person do you want to be?
The process of parents accompanying their children is the process of setting a good example for children.
Leading by example is the best education we can give our children. ......