What should I do if I am curious about the male organs of young children?
In the process of cognition, children will gradually become interested in the people around them and want to know how their bodies are different from others, especially their parents. They often try their best to know their parents' physical condition, because they want to know what their father's body looks like, instead of taking a bath with his father.
And if they really find that adults' bodies are different from children's, they will naively point to their parents' reproductive organs and ask questions. But parents often lack experience in this field, and they often find it difficult for their children to solve this problem. On the one hand, try to avoid this embarrassing thing, on the other hand, try to avoid children discovering the secrets of their bodies.
In fact, every habit of children has psychological and physical reasons. Two-year-olds are curious about exploring themselves. For them, touching the sex organs is just like touching the nose, just exploring the body. Just as children find themselves with hands and noses, they will also find their sexual organs.
Some parents are eager to stop their children from being curious about male sexual organs and even touching genitals, and ask them to correct them. In fact, this overreaction will make ignorant children realize the difference between touching genitals and touching other parts. If parents stop it with a fierce attitude, it may play a role of' strengthening behavior' and cause children to pay special attention to genitals. Therefore, parents can't apply the concept of adults to understand their children's behavior, let alone laugh at, rudely stop or even beat and scold their children's behavior, otherwise it will leave scars in their hearts.
When a child touches an adult's penis, first of all, parents should be calm, don't be angry, don't make a fuss, and don't treat the child's movements as fun. Secondly, for younger children, new toys or other games and food can be used to divert attention. For older children, you can let them know that touching the body is normal, but this is a private part, and you can't do it in public or show it to others. Of course you can't touch anyone else's. Mom and dad will tell you what you want.
What should I do if I am curious about the male organs of young children? Of course, it is important to teach with professional knowledge and literacy. As long as children know that these things are actually normal, they should answer naturally, concisely and correctly. Too much avoidance will make children more interested in these things.
When does sex education for children begin?
Theoretically speaking, the gender differences between men and women, especially the primary sexual characteristics, can be solved before children's puberty. As far as the current social and cultural situation is concerned, it is best to answer the difference of primary sexual characteristics between men and women before the age of 5. Sex education should be more advanced, but it is inseparable from children's understanding ability. The following are the key points of children's sex education in different periods:
Infant sex education
The main content of sex education in infancy is that parents raise and feed their children, mainly mothers. Contact with the mother's body can increase the sensitivity of children's nervous system and promote the differentiation and development of children's brains. Children who have insufficient physical contact with adults will suffer different degrees of damage to their intelligence and sexual sensitivity. American animal psychologists found that if two young monkeys left their mothers were fed by different mothers, one was a "mother with a cotton towel" (an artificial female monkey wrapped in a towel with a bottle on her chest) and the other was a "mother with a metal thorn" (the person with a metal thorn on the bottle made a fake female monkey). Young monkeys who eat the mother's milk of metal monkeys will not have sexual activity when they grow up, and their behavior will shrink and they will not be gregarious. Therefore, the characteristics of infant education are not only to satisfy the baby's appetite, but also to meet the development needs of the baby's skin touch. This period is generally not more than three years old. Sleeping with your mother at this time is good for your child's development.
Early childhood sex education
Children's sex education is to let children know their gender and initially enter the gender role. For example, encourage boys to be brave and strong, encourage girls to be gentle and sweet, love cleanliness and so on. Also, boys should wear boys' clothes and girls should have girls' clothes. From their own likes and dislikes, it is extremely harmful for boys and girls to raise children or girls and boys, because this may be one of the reasons why children are gay in the future, and it may also be the cause of family disharmony in the future. At the same time, it is also necessary to instill preliminary sexual morality, such as making boys love and respect women. Learn the basic knowledge of sexual hygiene, such as washing hands before urinating, and don't put sticks and other things into the nozzle of urine, and so on. At this time, in order to take care of young children, parents should share the same bed with their children, but they must sleep separately. This stage is from weaning to six years old, that is, the child will wake up at night. If the child is independent and can get up by himself at night, when should he be separated from the bed?
Childhood sex education
Sex education for children begins at the age of six to ten. At this time, the children have entered school, and their social knowledge and activities have been further expanded. Conditional families should live in separate rooms with their children. At this time, the child's sexual awareness is further enhanced, and he is unwilling to sit at the same table with the opposite sex and is proud of his gender. At this time, this psychological phenomenon of children should not be rudely interfered, but should be affirmed. If children are found to hate their gender roles, they should be corrected in time to prevent the reversal of gender roles in the future. At this time, it is necessary to teach children basic sexual hygiene knowledge and learn to keep the sexual organs clean. At the same time, we should teach children how to protect themselves, encourage children's independent tendency, require children to be different from men and women, and especially educate boys to respect women. Teaching children the general moral principles of male-female communication requires children to respect themselves and love themselves.
Adolescent sex education
Adolescent sex education is of special significance. Because during this period, most children have entered adolescence, girls have menstrual cramps, and boys have nocturnal emission for the first time. They have begun to pay attention to the opposite sex, have hazy sexual consciousness, are curious about the opposite sex and have requirements for communication. At this time, the contents of sex education mainly include: adolescent physical health knowledge, menstrual health knowledge, principles and precautions of communication between men and women, how girls protect themselves, preliminary moral principles of marriage and love, clarifying the basic requirements of law and morality for gender relations, preventing crimes, and recognizing and accepting themselves at the same time. This period is from 10 to 20 years old.