Many times, parents and teachers will blame their children without knowing the ins and outs of things. Once there is a strange voice, they will sentence their children to death.
In the program "We Grow Up", Zhai Xiaowen, a member of r 1se, blew himself up and said: In primary school, a classmate lost money, but at that time I happened to be alone in the classroom, and soon I went out. Then that classmate went to tell the teacher that I stole his money, but I didn't steal his money. Then, since that incident, neither classmates nor teachers have much respect for it.
Later, the teacher called my father. Fortunately, my father trusts me. He asked me: Did you steal money from your classmates? I said, I didn't. Dad said: OK, I believe you. Suddenly, I really appreciate my father trusting me so much. Later, that classmate also knew that he accidentally lost money on the road and apologized to me. But that time really affected me.
In fact, whether it is an action or a sentence, it will have a great impact on the growth of a child. The trust of parents is the belief of children. They know that there are people who are willing to choose to trust them and give them strength when they have not made mistakes.
Some children are interesting. They hide the stolen things, so that the lost people can get different pleasure when they are anxiously looking for them. They enjoy the temporary pleasure of stealing and the pleasure of playing tricks on others. For them, this is a different kind of prank, and they don't regard it as "stealing" in others' mouths.
Some children always show off their wealth in class, while others are jealous because of their poor family. When students are often shrouded in a ostentatious environment, some children often go to the road of theft because they can't get what they want. They hope they can have it themselves, and they also want to reap the envious eyes projected by others. They like admiring eyes.
Some parents find their children stealing, and some parents with bad temper kick their children directly, and then the children will never get up again. When parents sent their children to the hospital and diagnosed their children with lumbar fractures, they regretted it. My parents cried bitterly: I don't know why I started so hard. I was hot-headed and angry.
Some children like something, but their parents can't meet their children's needs, so children are on the road to theft.
When I was a child, Xiaohong liked Transformers. Almost all boys in the class had all kinds of Transformers. His mother never bought him any toys. What toys do boys play with, study hard and do more meaningful things? For mom, boys play with Transformers just like girls play with Barbie dolls. They are not big, dirty and spoiled.
Xiaohong, standing at the window, sneaked into the toy store while her mother was not paying attention, secretly took away her beloved Transformers and carried the toy behind her. The clerk found that she had lost her toy, so she ran after it and grabbed Xiaohong. Shout loudly: you are really a good boy, don't learn bad. How did your parents teach you to be a thief! The mother on the side suddenly blushed, returned the toy to the clerk in shame, and hurriedly apologized. Accuse Xiaohong in front of everyone in the mall: this is my shame. How did I teach you to steal like everyone else? What a shame! Cowardly Xiaohong was so scared that she never expected her mother to fly into a rage. He burst into tears.
For her mother's scolding, Xiaohong's self-esteem was completely trampled by her mother, and there was no room for it.
When a child is caught stealing, he often hurts his heart first and produces inferiority complex.
When Xiaohong goes back to school, she always hears her classmates talking about him behind his back: that's him. I didn't expect him to be such a person, stealing things in the mall. What a thief. We should take good care of our things, in case he steals them one day, it will be miserable.
Xiaohong is very sad and feels inferior. He often thinks that in the eyes of his classmates, he is already a real thief. Nobody wants to play with him, even his best friend is far away from him. what should he do ？ He doesn't want to lose all this.
When I was young, my teacher told us the story of "the child who stole the mango".
That day, it rained heavily, and the grandmother who pushed the mango cart had a hard time pushing it up the hill. Mango fell down the hillside along the way, and many passers-by helped pick it up. A passing child picked up a small mango and skipped home happily.
He waved his hand to show off to his father: Dad, Dad, what do you think I found on the road?
Father looked at him with a serious face and asked: Where did you pick this up?
The child naively replied: I picked it up on my way home.
Father said to him in a different tone: Look, does this mango look like a child like you? When it can't find its mother, it will be as anxious as you. Its mother must be anxiously looking for its child. Do you think when you get lost, you will be afraid of never seeing your parents again?
The child said: Dad, I know. Little mango must want to see her mother now. I want to return the mango now.
The father touched the child's head with relief and followed the child to return the mango.
In fact, education is not difficult What is difficult is the way of education. Many parents may punch and kick when their children make mistakes, and they may get angry. But they might as well calm down and educate and guide their children in another tone. Will it be unacceptable to children? In fact, children will be afraid after making mistakes and will be punished by their parents. Then wouldn't it be better for us to change a method that they can accept and voluntarily correct?
School is also one of the most important environments for children's growth, and teachers' education plays a key role.
When students commit theft, teachers should first educate students individually to make them understand that theft is a shameful act and undesirable, and guide them to take the initiative to return it and apologize to their classmates.
I believe that once students have established a sense of shame, they will think when they do something: whether it is desirable, whether it will hurt others, and whether they will be made fun of by others and feel ashamed.
Never catch a child stealing. The wrong way of education will only leave a psychological shadow and cause inner trauma. Only effective education can make him really accept and take the initiative to correct.