In fact, whether to have a second child is a very personal question. As long as you think clearly, don't be disturbed by others But I still suggest that parents who have this problem might as well read I just want to finish reading this book.
When I first got this book, I thought it was a picture book to teach children how to read, but after reading it, I found that it turned out to be a record of the daily life of a second-born family. With a clever story, the author vividly depicts the contradiction of having more children, parents' education and mutual love and killing in the second-child family.
The author of this book, Michael Teh Loulier, is a famous Belgian book illustrator. He graduated from Saint Luc College in Liege, Belgium, and his works were exhibited in Flanders Expo in Gandland, including the children's book The Journey of the Magician Wolf. Another author, Catelyn Mesmeyer, has many years of experience in children's books, such as Pippi for Boys and Xixi for Girls, and Small Collection. The book "I just want to finish this book" co-authored by two senior children's book writers can be said to be a great book in terms of conception, details and stories. It is not only suitable for children to read, but also enlightens parents who are deeply troubled by the second child.
This book actually tells a very simple daily story. Mia and Tom are brother and sister. Sister Mia, quiet and fond of reading; My brother Tom, lively and active, stopped for a while. Where Mia goes, Tom follows. Mia thinks that Tom's appearance ruined her life. Tom often appears in Mia's room without knocking. He also rummaged through Mia's drawers, took Mia's brushes and even doodled on the wall of Mia's room. So Tom became Mia's biggest worry.
Tom spat at Mia with a water gun. Mia was so angry that she shouted "Get out of my room at once" and pushed him out.
When Mia closes the door, Tom will shout at the top of his voice outside the door, "Open the door, I want to play with you", knocking at the door and shouting loudly. This kind of daily life will be staged every day.
Often at this time, parents will appear. Dad will be angry and say to them, can you stop at once? It's unbearable. You two go and play in the garden!
At this time, Mia and Tom can only run to the garden in despair. So, Mia is troubled. She just wants to read quietly for a while. Why is Tom always criticized by his parents? Mia said angrily to Tom, "can't you be quiet for a while?"
In fact, Mia has always had a little thought in her heart, if only Tom disappeared. Mia closed her eyes and said thoughtfully, "I hope Tom can become a cat so that I can finish reading quietly." Who knows what happened after I opened my eyes? Tom is missing!
Mia looked everywhere, but there was no Tom. My brother Tom really vanished into thin air. Mia was a little panicked when she saw a cat she had never seen before. Has Tom changed? Did your idea come true?
Mia knelt on the ground and said guiltily to the kitten, "Tom, I'm really sorry. Believe me, I'll change you back." So close your eyes and meditate. Come back, Tom. No matter once, twice or three times, Mia was desperate. She knelt on the ground and folded her hands, as if begging Tom to change back to his original state quickly.
Suddenly a basketball appeared behind him. It's Tom It turned out that Tom was just playing with the new Arthur in the backyard.
Fortunately, Tom is fine, and Mia is relieved to hold the cat. Tom also gave up harassing his sister because he had a new playmate. Finally, Mia can relax with her back against the tree and finish reading a book thoroughly.
End of story, isn't it simple?
But this thin picture book tells us the following:
First, the second-child family is not always quiet, and it is likely that "the war will continue."
After watching the daily life of Xiaoyu and Anji in Where is Dad, many old aunts cried for a second child. Do you think the love between Xiaoyu and Angie will be staged in your home? Too young! The way Tom and Mia get along is the correct way to open the second child. They will stage 800 brotherly wars a day. Littering toys, graffiti-covered walls and screams everywhere. To have a second child, please practice your inner endurance first.
Second, children have their own way of getting along, and parents should not interfere too much.
What moved me most about this book is that no matter how the children toss, parents stay out of it. It was not until the last two children had a great influence that their father came forward and drove them to the garden. Even so, the father didn't criticize the children too much, but said angrily, "Can you stop at once and you two go to play in the garden!" " "This is because he sincerely believes that children can solve their own problems. Infant is an important stage of children's relationship running-in. Parents should let their children solve their own problems properly, which will help them learn to control their emotions and put themselves in others' shoes. This is very important for the future!
Third, brotherhood is always the most precious.
Although Mia hated Tom for making trouble, disturbing herself and even trying to make Tom disappear, when all this really happened, Mia went from anxiety, panic to despair. Instead of being happy that her dream came true, she began to look for Tom crazily. As soon as the cat appeared, she knelt in front of it, as if praying for God to return her brother. This is brotherhood, and no one can replace it. I remember fighting with my brother when I was a child, but as soon as I heard that someone bullied him in my class, I rushed over to beat the little boy who bullied him. A brother is the one who can only be bullied by himself and cannot be touched by others.
Fourth, the sense of boundary needs to be cultivated from an early age.
Erickson, a German psychologist, said in "Personality Theory of New Psychoanalysis" that children aged 65,438+0 can form self-concept, enter the self-esteem period at the age of 3, and begin to look for self-value. Children around 3 years old are the best time to cultivate his sense of boundaries. Mia couldn't concentrate on her study, so Tom casually entered her sister's room. In fact, the sense of boundaries has not been cultivated. Two-child families should cultivate their children's sense of boundary from an early age, which can not only cultivate their sense of responsibility and behavior habits, but also release their nature, cultivate their independent living ability and thinking ability, so that children can grow better in self-realization. So, are you ready to cultivate your child's sense of boundaries?
You see, the two-child family has chickens flying and dogs jumping, and there is also brotherhood; There are war horses and brothers United, all of which require parents to have a strong heart. Of course, children always bring more surprises to their parents than troubles. So, do you want to have two children? Do you have an answer?