I remember Xiaofengzi was just born, and we had to hesitate for a long time to turn on the light for fear of stabbing the child's eyes. I've been worried that sleeping on my stomach will suffocate me. The doctor said: Don't worry, the child will take care of himself.

It was the first time I learned to let go.

(2) Later Xiaofengzi learned to walk, but she was still unstable. We got the nerve to let go of her little hand and stumbled for a few steps before falling down covered in blood. I quickly learned to walk, run, jump and climb. ...

It is the heartache after letting go for the first time, and it is the growth I saw.

③ Then learn to speak and communicate. I like playing with water. I can play happily for a long time by putting a pot of water in the bathroom, and I will say "Dad is gone" every time so as not to disturb her play.

It was the first time to realize the child's sense of independence and the joy of letting go.

I am worried about my children's safety and undermining their independence, so I always "ask" (rather than tell) her: Can I go into the kitchen? Can I touch the socket? Why can't you climb the balcony? Can a stranger give something?

Every time I answer, I put down my hand and my heart.

⑤ Go to school. I couldn't finish my homework, so I helped her do a little at first. Continue to choose to let go, telling you not to do your homework after 9 pm, and do it yourself.

So I slowly learned to arrange my own time and try to finish my homework ahead of time.

There was an extracurricular class, but Xiaofengzi said it would "affect the time of playing" and let go, becoming the only student in the class who didn't attend extracurricular classes.

⑥ I learned to play mobile phones, read online novels and indulge in mobile games, even my English scores plummeted. We still choose to give advice, leave it alone, and let Xiao Fengzi choose for himself.

So far, except for English accompanying reading, everything else has been liberalized. Gradually learned self-control, with excellent results and mature actions to tell us-she knows.

I believe that one day, she will be completely divorced from us, but she will grow into the best self.

At that time, we had completely let go, and the only thing that didn't let go was love.

Teach children at what point to put it down. Judging from the child's psychological development, it probably started from half a year old. At the age of half a year, after the child starts to sit up, his eyes can start to leave his parents voluntarily, such as turning his head away from his mother. This is the first act of leaving your mother. Psychologically, it is called separation. When you are older, you can climb, and children will have less time to pay attention to their mothers. Parents should let go more at this time. Older children go to kindergarten and spend more time away from their parents every day. Parents should learn to deal with the anxiety of being separated from their children. Finally, after graduating from college, the children went to work in other cities, so the whole family can get together during the Spring Festival. In psychology, the theme of the relationship between children and parents is separation. The whole process from being in the mother's belly to the death of her parents is separation. Therefore, it is not when to let go, but to learn to let go bit by bit until the end of life.