1. Don't speak ill of your spouse in front of your children, and don't complain about your spouse to your children. If your child tells you about the other person, suggest that he put the issue on the agenda of the family meeting. This is just a "problem", and it is enough to find an acceptable solution.
2. Get rid of the black-and-white way of thinking, appreciate each other's differences and see each other's contribution to the family. Allow the other person to have a different opinion-you can't change it anyway. Let the other person know that although you may not like the way he/she does certain things, you are willing to respect his/her relationship with children. You can make an agreement, for example, when one of them is disciplining a child, the other party should not intervene unless there is child abuse.
3. Let the other person see your parenting methods. What is more effective than reasoning is demonstration. If you show it to him, I believe he will consider whether to choose to change through observation. We can only change ourselves.
4. Don't try to confront your spouse to make up for the other's behavior. For example, the other person's education method tends to be strict, and you become too tolerant to make up for it. Children are very smart and will know how to treat different parenting styles. This is called "watching people cook". Be yourself, keep learning, and give children more effective guidance in a kind and firm way.
5. Express more thanks and appreciation, and enhance their relationship. A good relationship will naturally accommodate many differences.
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