Wenzhou Net News The recent popularity of the TV series "Tiger Mom and Cat Dad" has caused many parents to talk about their children's education after dinner. The reporter learned that Zheng, a fifth-grade student of Lucheng Experimental Primary School, has been studying for more than three years. Reading thousands of books and keeping a diary every day has become his unshakable habit. Over the past 44 months, diaries have piled up like a mountain ... "Cat Dad" Zheng Jianfeng proudly shared the story of growing up with his son.
I wrote 64 diaries in 44 months.
Since kindergarten, Zheng has often listened to "Cat Dad" Zheng Jianfeng telling stories about historical figures in China. After attending elementary school, he was touched by some stories in his father's letter to Zeng Guofan for a long time, so he volunteered to keep a diary soon after the second grade started.
"Mainly writing stories at school. Students, teachers and classes can write. As long as you observe them carefully, there will be content. " Zheng Xiao said that in order to develop the habit of keeping a diary, the diary should be completed before the homework assigned by the teacher every day, because the latter must be completed and must be completed later.
For more than a year, keeping a diary has become a habit in Zheng Xiao. Even one day, Zheng Xiao doesn't want to "miss". Once, he left his diary at school. In order to continue to keep a diary, he went to school to get it back at 8 pm after finishing his homework that day and continued to keep a diary that day.
After more than three years of persistence, Zheng Xiao has written 64 diaries.
Zheng Jianfeng helps his son carefully collect every diary. He said it was Zheng Xiao's painstaking efforts: "Every time he finished writing a diary, he had to check and revise it twice. I feel that it is not well written, and it is not easy to rewrite one. "
3000 books have been read 1 000.
With more and more diaries, Zheng Xiao wrote better and better, and read a lot of extracurricular books, which gave him a broader vision. The story he wrote also moved from campus to society, and gradually gained "depth". He also won the first prizes in many youth composition competitions.
The "study" at home is also the place where Zheng Xiao does his homework. There are more than 3,000 books neatly in the two bookcases, including many books on history and literature, while Zheng Xiao, who is only 13 years old, has read all the books13.
"He's been reading History of Chinese Aesthetics and Water Margin recently." Zheng Jianfeng said that Zheng Gang Jr. started reading books mainly by reading stories, and browsed faster. Later, he advised his son to read slowly and focus on understanding. "Now he saw what he didn't understand. In addition to asking me, he will copy down words he doesn't know, look them up in the dictionary and deepen his understanding. "
"He doesn't read the extracurricular books arranged by the teacher for the students now, saying that they are read by children." Zheng Jianfeng said with a smile, Zheng Xiao has read so many books, which makes him feel the most obvious, that is, his son is much more sensible than his peers, and he will take care of people and take responsibility.
Growing up with children.
Unlike other parents who hang their children's awards high, Zheng Jianfeng keeps Zheng Xiao's various honors and diaries in the bookcase, and uses newspapers as a "door".
"Of course, there is a reason for this. I hope that he will not be proud of his current achievements and learn to be modest. " Zheng Jianfeng told Zheng Xiao that Rome was not built in a day. As long as you persist and work hard, gold will shine sooner or later
For the current hit TV series "Tiger Mom and Cat Dad", Zheng Jianfeng thinks that many of them are exaggerated. "School is important, but family education is more important." Zheng Jianfeng said that although the couple run some businesses, they seldom go out to socialize in the evening, and they all stay at home with their children.
"Of course, parents mainly play a guiding role and cannot force their children to avoid counterproductive effects." Zheng Jianfeng said that parents should be patient and grow up with their children. In the process of educating children, children will also teach their parents a lot.
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Every child is a book.
Qi zhou, associate professor of Wenzhou University.
I think this father Zheng has several successful practices:
First, pay attention to the cultivation of children's good habits. Zheng Xiao kept a diary, from listening to his father's story to going to school. At the same time, constantly increase reading, enrich writing materials and become an excellent writer ... Ba Jin said that the successful education of children begins with the cultivation of good habits. As parents, we must be aware of the importance of habits and cultivate children's good habits.
The second is to attach importance to the formation of children's good mentality. In the story, Zheng's father put all kinds of honors and diaries in the bookcase and covered them with newspapers as a "door", hoping that the children would not be proud of their current achievements. This practice is thought-provoking. In today's competitive society, how many wolf parents and tiger mothers are worried that their children will lose at the starting line, and young children begin to participate in various trainings, bearing the ardent expectations of their parents. Sometimes our children lose the fun of learning and the childhood happiness they deserve in the process of pursuing success and fame. In a person's life, a positive attitude is especially important for filial piety, gratitude, thrift, self-confidence, honesty and trustworthiness of elders and kindness of others.
Third, attach importance to the establishment of harmonious parent-child relationship. Parent-child relationship is irreplaceable by any emotion. Parents should not pay too much attention to their children's achievements and ignore their other aspects of development, let alone forcibly deprive their children of their physical, interest and emotional needs because they pay attention to learning. This will not only fail to meet their parents' expectations, but also cause their children's resentment to a great extent. In family education, finding, educating and cultivating children in time is an important step to establish parent-child relationship. Maintaining good and regular communication with children can often get twice the result with half the effort.
Every child is a book, which parents must read. As parents, to educate their children well, we must understand their books, study with them and grow together!