Especially my daughter's homework, it's too slow. I yell every day. The point is that it doesn't matter.
Later, I also figured it out. Don't yell at her every day. I told her that studying is your own business, and you control your time. For a week, she went to bed at two o'clock every morning. Can you imagine getting up at two o'clock at night and seeing the child still lying on the desk?
However, Rome was not built in a day. It is unrealistic to want to change children's habits at once.
Since you want to let go and let her manage by herself, you must control your temper. During that time, I tried to make myself angry. Letting go doesn't mean ignoring it. When I see her dawdling, I will remind her and teach her a lesson, but I won't yell at her hysterically. After a long time, I found that the child is developing in a good direction. The final exam, the result is still good.
I reflected on my daughter's education, mainly the following problems.
First, enlightenment education is a bit late. When she was a freshman, she was really a blank sheet of paper. I asked someone to send a message to her teacher, asking her to pay more attention. Soon, the man replied that the child would do nothing but call him "stupid".
? I began to learn English in the third grade, so spell that piece. The teacher said that most of my classmates had already learned it, so I stopped talking. And this girl can't even recognize 26 English letters. Fortunately, my colleagues reminded me to keep up with my English, otherwise I would have to make up lessons in several subjects, and I couldn't make up them. Once, my daughter learned a word and couldn't bend her mouth. I was so angry that I joked. The girl really slapped her mouth and touched her nose with her fingers. It made my nose bleed.
Second, I didn't develop good study habits. When my daughter was in the big class, my son was born. In-laws said, you take care of the younger ones, and we will help you tutor the older ones. I remember the teacher asked me to add and subtract five times a day. Once, her grandparents said that this is not all, so I don't need to draw.
The problem of reading is even more serious. The teacher asked to read twenty pages a day. My daughter is not good at reading, so she reads slowly. Her grandmother read a sentence directly with a book and asked her daughter to imitate a sentence. Therefore, her daughter doesn't like reading, and even if she does, she is slow.
? Third, there are no examples. It is said that example is more important than words. I didn't set a good example in this respect. Everyone has inertia, and I can't avoid it. And my laziness directly led to my daughter's laziness. Later, after discovering educational problems, I first reflected on my own shortcomings, and it is still effective to influence children with actions.
When there is something wrong with children's education, we must first reflect on whether we are doing badly. For new parents, we will inevitably have shortcomings. Only by continuous reflection can we make progress.