How much pain you can bear, how much freedom you can get.
Someone left me a message:
I am an English major. After graduating from college, I went back to my hometown and worked as a junior high school English teacher in a town, but I was very unhappy every day. I really want to quit my job, but I feel that my family really wants me to stay in town.
There are many reasons for being unhappy: First, I feel that there are not many opportunities for study and promotion. There are basically no teachers to learn teaching skills, and it is impossible to improve knowledge. There are too few opportunities.
Secondly, the quality of some rural students is really poor. Sometimes I feel very sad and want to cry.
What's more, staying in a town for a long time makes people feel very rustic.
The reason why I am a little hesitant is that I am afraid to quit my job and find a job worse than now, or a salary similar to now. However, I am not happy every day here.
Sometimes, I will be confused whether to change my education through postgraduate entrance examination or not, and I don't know what to do. So, I want to ask you, and I will also think about the road ahead. It's just that sometimes, I can't hear other ideas and suggestions, and I'm a little helpless.
Answer:
I have been a teacher in a township middle school for a month, and I may really understand your feelings. But I don't advise you to resign rashly, because from the information you gave me, I don't think you have the ability to make a difference outside.
As the lyrics say, the outside world is wonderful and helpless. The reason why you hesitate is that you are afraid of being worse than your current job, or the salary is similar.
Think about it, too. After graduating from English major, they will return to their hometown to work. They should still pursue a relatively stable job in their bones, but there will always be a little reluctance in their hearts, unwilling to take root in towns and villages, and unwilling to change soil day by day.
Let's talk about the reason why you are unhappy. First, you have no chance to learn and improve yourself. Now is the era of mobile Internet. If you want to learn, especially English, how many apps and websites are there for you to choose from?
There are basically no teachers to learn teaching skills, and I am drunk. There are so many teachers, so there is no credit?
I used to be an English teacher for a while. I bought many online courses and reference books of New Oriental, so I imitated and learned their teaching experience. I also do English test questions for senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, study some rules and teach them to students, and their grades improve rapidly.
I won't say much about the rural environment and the quality of students. This is also an objective condition. It takes a lot of effort to change. You are so unhappy, I'm sure you don't want to do it again. In fact, the more rural environment, the easier it is to achieve results.
I have a high school friend who graduated from college and went to teach in rural Gansu for one year. It is very hard to see the picture of teaching in his photos, but they played basketball with the children, went to physical education class together and organized a New Year's Eve party for them. He often corrects homework until eleven o'clock in the evening, makes up lessons for poor students and makes home visits. Said he might be a little far away. Tell me about my college classmates.
Some of my classmates and seniors were also assigned to the countryside. Let me tell you their example. There is a senior who is worse than you. The university is excellent. He was assigned to a valley to teach mathematics. At that time, he organized many activities for children and worked very hard to start psychological research in the ravine. Write a letter to the director of education every week, give your own opinion and say what you have done. Three years later, he was transferred to the Municipal Education Bureau, and now he is in charge of a large-scale teaching and research project to enrich the summer camp related to psychology.
I also have an alumnus who studies very well and gets a first-class scholarship every year. However, due to poor family conditions, the test teacher was also assigned to a rural primary school. It's very cold in winter and the heating is poor. When I saw her, her hands were frozen stiff. I cried then, and then we both cried. Can you imagine? In college, we often talked about Zweig together, talked about Holdrin together, and read poems together. Now we have spent our best youth in this damn place.
She comforted me at that time, so bear with it. She was rated as an advanced individual every year, participated in activities organized by counties and cities, won the first prize in teaching competitions, and wrote papers in her spare time. In the third year of graduation, teachers in urban areas are recruited, and in-service teachers can also take the exam. She passed the first place with high marks and was transferred to a key middle school in the city.
You have to ask yourself how to get a better job. It is not you who choose society, but society who chooses you. And do you want to change anything by taking the postgraduate entrance examination? Now graduate students who want to be teachers and civil servants have to take the exam.
There are too many examples of others mentioned above. Now, let me talk about my own suggestions. You must first accept your present situation. It's no use complaining and unhappy.
Now the school is general, try your best to get all the honors. Summer vacation and winter vacation are so long. You can go to the city to find training institutions, teaching places and learning experience. If you really do well and don't care about the establishment, it would be good to teach in such an institution. But personally, I don't think you can accept it.
Then find a way, test it and seek opportunities. If you want to live the life you want, you must endure the unbearable pain of ordinary people and overcome many weaknesses of human nature.
If you are not satisfied with the present situation, seize all the time and energy to improve yourself. You found your own learning channel. No one can give you a brilliant future, and there is no savior in the world. You can hope for the best. A pizza suddenly fell into your hands. I can give you some panacea to solve your present situation, but unfortunately there is no one.
If you just think about it and don't want to take action, then you can either accept your fate and think about it. At least a formal and stable job. If you don't accept your fate and work hard, you will continue to be unhappy.
This article, I may be a little harsh, in fact, I can also encourage you, it doesn't matter, quit and pursue your dreams. I don't think it is realistic. I don't think you left me a message for praise.
There is as much freedom as there is suffering. When you don't have strong ability, you are not qualified to choose, you are all chosen.
Complaining about adversity is giving up luck.
People will encounter difficulties and dangers at any time in their lives. If you just stare at these difficulties, you will only see despair. On the road of life, everyone will encounter adversity, which is full of thorns, but it also contains opportunities for success. As long as we face it bravely, we will surely walk out of a sunshine avenue on the road full of thorns. As bacon said, "miracles often happen in bad luck." In fact, we should not complain in adversity, because complaining about adversity is undoubtedly giving up luck. If you want to be a strong man in life, you must bravely declare war on adversity and throw yourself into the tide of life like a real sailor.
Daoben can't even write his own name, but he has worked as a janitor in a middle school in Osaka for decades. Although the salary is not much, he is satisfied with everything that life has arranged for him. Just when he was about to retire, the new headmaster dismissed him on the grounds that he "can't even read, but it's incredible to work on campus."
Daoben reluctantly left the campus. As usual, he went to buy half a pound of sausage for dinner, but when he approached the door of the grocery store, he remembered that it had been closed for many days. Unfortunately, there is no second sausage shop nearby. Suddenly, an idea flashed through his mind-why don't I open a small shop specializing in sausage? He quickly took out what little savings he had and opened a food store to sell sausages.
Because of the flexible management of Daoben, 10 years later, he became the president of a cooked food processing company. His sausage chain stores are all over the streets of Osaka, and it is a "one-stop" service for production, supply and marketing. The well-known Daoben sausage production technical school also came into being.
One day, the headmaster who dismissed him learned that the famous chairman was illiterate and praised him with admiration: "Mr. Doben, it is incredible that you have such a successful career without formal school education."
Daoben replied sincerely: "I really appreciate that you fired me and made me stumble." Only then did I realize that I could do more. Otherwise, I will definitely be a school worker who lives on a little pension. "
Like Tao Ben, successful people first rise from adversity. Adversity can exercise a person's character and stimulate a person's courage and potential for upward development. In adversity, when forced to retreat and there is no way out, people often think of ways to save themselves at the last minute, which invisibly contributes to the glory of life. Therefore, we should be grateful for adversity and problems and thank them for their success.
There is no despair in the world, only desperate people. Nothing is difficult in the world as long as you face it bravely.
When we are in adversity, it is useless to complain and curse blindly, which will only make us more depressed and desperate. Instead of waiting hard, it is better to light the only "fire" and hope in your hand, to overcome the darkness, get rid of the predicament and create a bright future for yourself.
Fate never believes in complaining, only those who fight against it. The life of the strong is to face and overcome the adversity that comes like a flood. They will not miss the opportunity to "climb up" because they have experienced too many adversities. In reality, we see that many successful people come from unfavorable environments, but they can always bravely walk out of the world submerged by adversity.
We should not complain in adversity, because complaining about adversity is undoubtedly giving up luck.
Only you can save yourself.
The depth of a person's experience of pain is precisely the depth of his understanding of life.
Our life is like a castle with a locked door. Standing in front of the castle gate, you may feel at a loss and find yourself so small that you can't peep at how much space this huge castle contains and how the scenes are arranged. Perhaps the meaning of those tortures that make us deeply understand the pain of life is the process of trying to open the castle without a key.
When you can treat yourself with a masochistic attitude, you will master more mysteries about life. This can be said to be a test of the will of life. Only by passing this test can you really know how big the castle of life is and what's in it. The possibility of life and will needs to be challenged to understand. Self-torture is the challenge itself, which makes our life and will unfold its possibilities in front of us.
You know, "people practice in bitterness, and knives are sharpened on stones." After suffering, you can have a strong heart and the courage and perseverance to reverse your destiny. In the process of a person's growth, suffering not only comes from the pressure of others' kindness or malice, but also is an instinct in your heart that is eager to break through, forcing you to grit your teeth and complete seemingly impossible tasks.
We admit that the changes you can't make, the environment you can't choose, and the enemies who are bared their teeth will all set obstacles to your progress and become a stumbling block to your career success. However, you can't always rely on your family, teachers and friends around you. You should try your best to meet all kinds of challenges. Even if you can't be better than your opponent, at least your losses will be minimized and you will get stronger day by day.
Maybe you will say, why bother? This is an act of asking for trouble. Actually, we can live a better life. Yes, self-abuse is also considered as a kind of abnormal behavior in psychology, and self-abuse is also considered unnecessary by many people, because the behavior of torturing oneself is so obviously contrary to people's natural tendency to pursue sensory pleasure. However, it is puzzling that self-abuse is usually a ladder to sensory happiness, and self-abuse has become a necessary way to pursue happiness.
If you are a person who loves to observe life, you will find that those things that can attract some people to devote themselves wholeheartedly are often full of self-torture. For example, in the ups and downs of business, people, like gamblers, would rather get more than lose everything; Challenge the limit of physical exercise, and let the body and mind reach the test limit. If all this is just a kind of self-torture, why are brave people so happy?
Someone will yearn for it, it must be because he has experienced the happiness after self-torture, and those happiness must give him a feeling that other happiness can't match.
In the eyes of most people, Lin's life is really better. At a young age, he has been a well-known local radio host and has the support of a large number of listeners. He grew from an ordinary graduate to a respected and famous announcer, made his column and became one of the backbones of leaders' key training. It seems to be smooth sailing and promising. Life has been showing him the best side, and he seems to be the luckiest one.
However, Lin is not satisfied with this. What he likes is the sense of accomplishment and urgency when he constantly conquers. He makes him feel uncomfortable when there is no challenge in life.
Lin made an unexpected move. He submitted his resignation letter to the leader. He is going to the TV station to find a new direction. As a result, people kept coming to do ideological work for Lin. Everyone thinks it's crazy for Lin to give up such a stable and promising job. Moreover, he is just an ordinary newcomer to the TV station, just like being beaten back to his original shape.
Lin was unmoved. He strengthened his mind and resolutely gave up everything now and came to the TV station, just like just going to the radio station, starting from scratch.
For the TV industry, he is a newcomer, but he has never used the standards of newcomers to demand himself. Even if it is a small detail, he will force himself to do his best like a skilled veteran. Many people don't understand his behavior and even laugh at his stupidity. Why is he so tired? However, Lin still insists on his own standards.
Opportunities always patronize those who are prepared. Lin lived up to his expectations. Two years later, he successfully transformed from an excellent broadcast host to an excellent program host, which made people feel that the god of luck really loved him too much.
People just envy Lin's achievements, just feel his luck, but never see how much he has paid for his pursuit. Perhaps, when you are sitting on the sofa watching TV with a satisfied face, when you are idle with others, when you waste your time in those illusory games, the god of luck has passed by and left you.
If you always have no demands on yourself, if you always forgive your actions for various reasons, if the progress of others never gives you a sense of urgency, then what reason do you have to complain about the injustice of fate? It's that you failed to grasp your own direction, that you put yourself in a passive position, and that you delayed your future.
If you have no demands on yourself, you will never feel the joy and satisfaction of conquering yourself. Or we can say that there is a major difference between those who have experienced self-abuse and those who have not, that is, for the former, life is no longer a castle with a locked door, and we have become the owners of the castle because of conquest; For the latter, life is still an object without depth and a mystery that cannot be straightened out.
We all have this precious life, and we all have infinite possibilities of life. However, in this limited life, how much potential we can play is unknown to everyone. If you refuse to torture yourself, then you can only wait for life to torture you.
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