According to statistics, the only effective way to educate children is encouragement. This is undoubtedly a good way to educate children. However, most people always think that encouragement and praise are the same, and praise is encouragement. In fact, their purposes and functions are different.
Praise is a kind of reward, focusing on comparison and competition. Praise means that children do what their parents ask in order to meet their expectations. Encouragement is different from praise, which focuses on the development of children's ability and helps children get a sense of accomplishment by contributing their own strength; Encourage affirmation of children's strengths and strengths. Encourage attention to children's inner self-motivation and don't make value judgments. So, how can parents effectively encourage their children?
1. Sincerely accepting people should have the courage to accept imperfections. Depression is the root of all human problems. To have the courage to accept imperfections, we must first accept the imperfections of ourselves and others. There is a difference between actor and behavior. We accept the actor, but we can disagree and accept his behavior.
2. Focus on the positive. If you want to help children who are temporarily underperforming, you should start to avoid some negative words and deeds. Parents should reuse positive educational methods, that is, help their children build self-confidence. When children are satisfied with their performance, they will work harder to correct their mistakes, so as to do better in the exam, answer more questions correctly, write more beautifully, and so on.
3. Pay attention to efforts and progress. Parents judge success or failure by the result of one thing, which will make children prone to depression, especially in the face of a very difficult thing, despite their best efforts, they still can't do it well. Only by focusing on efforts and progress can we play an encouraging role; Don't overemphasize the result of things, just tell your children that unless you do well, it's worthless.
When children encounter difficulties or setbacks, parents should be able to understand their children, tolerate them and give them warm smiles and appropriate encouragement.