In order to encourage her son to go to school, the mother in red knelt at the crowded public rest stop for an hour and didn't get up.
Her own son, sitting in a chair with his legs crossed, was carefree, brushing his mobile phone with a little pride, and was indifferent to his mother's plea to kneel.
What is even more irritating is that this son and mother begged for their photos and showed them off in a circle of friends. The article is as follows.
Spend every day happily.
After the photo spread, many people condemned their son's willful rebellion and then spread it. Now the child is ungrateful.
There are also many old parents who feel embarrassed for Xiong Haizi, but we deeply sympathize with the mother who wants to have a child on her knees.
I'm sorry, I said:
The son is indeed a baiwenhang, but the mother has no sympathy at all.
In a sense, the mother knelt down in front of her young son's cunning and asked for forgiveness, which just illustrates the absurd reversal of this father-son tragedy from one side.
1.
Why is that child so cruel?
Dangerous uterus education
In the photo, the teenager just used his mobile phone to ask for leave. He was indifferent to his mother's plea because he ignored her appearance and feelings and took pleasure in disciplining her. In the final analysis, it is because he is used to it.
Parents' endless doting on their children is ultimately their punishment.
Remember the story that the killer bit his mother's nipple before he died?
The mother begged the child in every way, praised her son for stealing for the first time, and finally sent her son to the guillotine in the process of doting.
On his deathbed, his son wanted to lie in his mother's arms and nurse as he did when he was a child.
Mom actually agreed.
When the mother unbuttoned her chest, her son bit her nipple.
This old story implies that disciplining mothers is the worst education:
Uterine education.
A child who left his mother's womb was protected by his parents like a baby and in a warm and comfortable greenhouse like a uterus for a long time after birth.
Later, elderly parents, who have no body temperature and energy, provide comfortable accommodation for their children. Children who have been spoiled for many years either squeeze the last flesh and blood of their parents or go through the storm.
If you search Baidu and enter the keyword "ask for money, chop up your parents", you will find that the horror of many people explains the lesson of "uterine education".
A 30-year-old son in Tancheng, Shandong Province asked his 60-year-old mother for money after drinking. After being rejected, he picked up a kitchen knife and cut his mother into a grade 9 disability.
The doting mother begged the judge to let her son escape after receiving treatment.
Zhejiang's 36-year-old son asked his 58-year-old cleaner mother for money and gave him 7000 yuan, which was too little. After being rejected again, she beheaded her mother and abandoned the pool.
What is more sad is that this mother is a widow, loves her son, and tries her best to marry him and have children.
After Kaifeng became an adult male, he asked his parents for money, but there was no result. He even skinned his real parents alive.
Before the incident, the highly educated suspect, a university teacher, resigned and started a business, losing money. His parents were searched for no results, so he contacted. ...
These amazing extreme cases all illustrate the same fact:
Parents allow their children's attitude towards their parents.
All arrogance has been pursued for a long time.
Do you want your children to be decent people? When he grows up, get him out of the uterus and arms!
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Why did mother choose to kneel?
Controlled self-mutilation maternal love
Another aspect of uterine education is that parents who love their children, when they can't control their children, continue to let their children return to the controllable uterus through self-harm.
I don't know how many people, like me, saw a mother who didn't kneel in the photo at the beginning of the article, and really wanted to get into the screen, pulled her up and shouted:
"Why do you want to kneel? Why not recycle the child's mobile phone? Why not pull him out of the chair? "
Besides, why don't you scold him and punish him?
It's a pity that this mother won't do this.
Or, if her heart was too soft and weak when her child was a toddler, how could her relationship with her child collapse to this point today?
In China, it is not the first time that a mother kneels to her child, and it is not uncommon.
Two years ago, in a street in Shenzhen, a mother knelt down to her daughter and told her to study hard for five minutes.
During the consultation, I found many parents around me, because their children played truant, made mistakes, could do nothing, slapped, went on hunger strike, jumped off a building, committed suicide, and made the prodigal son turn back.
Parents commit suicide in front of their children, which shows their incompetence.
In a sense, hurting one's parents in front of children is more lasting and worse than hitting the parents of children:
It either cuts off its own cruelty, abducts children in disguise, and makes children its own slaves, or makes children its own replicas.
A mother with postpartum depression shared such details:
After giving birth to a child, whenever the child is crying and disobedient, whenever grandma and her husband complain to her together, she wants to commit suicide by cutting her wrist with a knife.
One day, she collapsed and really did it. And then passed out.
In a gloomy dream, she dreamed of a scene in which her mother gave up in front of her brother after quarreling with her father at the age of 4.
After being cured by rescue treatment, she realized that she had been living in the traumatic cognition of her mother's fear of self-harm for the first half of her life.
Don't hurt yourself, don't hurt yourself in front of children, don't kidnap children by hurting yourself, don't kneel and stand up, don't collapse and stand up. This is both responsibility and practice.
After all, the state of parents hides the future of children.
3.
How will we educate our children?
Good parents are a little cruel.
In recent years, with the rise of tolerance education and the crusade against mother-tongue families by various topics, many parents have become more and more confused and at a loss.
Managing children is a sin.
Regardless of children, children will do bad things.
If you can't do it well, label yourself immediately, thinking that you have hurt your child.
If the child is unfortunate, first reflect on whether it is his own problem.
Our children are not as fragile as we thought.
Really qualified parents, in a sense, are somewhat indifferent.
In "Particularly Cruel and Love", Sarah, a Shanghai Jewish mother who raised three excellent children, came to this conclusion by comparing the education in China and Israel:
China's parents are generally soft-hearted.
I always want to bear all difficulties, remove all obstacles and take all risks for my children, but I just forget. Failure is the normal state of life, change is the truth of life, and symbiosis with risk is our life.
Qualified parents are not kneeling on the ground to grow up for their children, nor are they teaching their children to grow up from above, but take a step back to see their children.
Don't spoil, let the children see the difficulty of survival.
Let go early and cultivate children's practical ability.
Learn to quit and let children become the leaders of their own lives in their own experiences and feelings.
Make rules to make children face mistakes and failures, and be punished and paid.
After so many years, in the collision of children, you will grow into a self-responsible person, and you will understand how deep love was hidden in the cold hearts of parents at that time.
The best love is generous, with clear rewards and punishments. At that time, that cold heart contained deep affection that it took years to understand.
4.
What is the lesson of tragedy?
Destroy a child's comfort zone
Zoologists found strange sculptures in the Grand Canyon in Colorado, USA.
After giving birth, the female eagle flies 200 miles every day to find a hard and barbed iron branch to build a nest and cover it with branches, feathers and weeds to prevent the child from being stung.
When the child grows up, the parents eagle will deliberately destroy the branches, feathers and weeds in the nest, and the bitten child has to get up from the nest and flap his wings desperately.
Then, a great scene happened:
The baby eagle struggled several times and learned to fly from there.
Then, the thorn nest reminds parents who are addicted to "uterine education":
Birds can also bravely break the comfort zone of future generations and force children to stand on their own feet.
Let alone people.
All love in the world is for the purpose of aggregation, and only parents love their children for the purpose of separation.
In order to let the beloved children learn to stand on their own feet in the storm and rainbow.
Study together.
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