For educating children, there is an eternal topic. Which is better, frustration education or encouragement education?

In my opinion, incentive education may be better than frustration education.

As we all know, children who are frustrated in education are often not confident, afraid to express themselves, afraid to fight for it and so on.

Children who encourage education will be more confident. They tend to be extroverted and more cheerful.

I don't know if you have heard of pygmalion effect (also known as the Rosenthal effect).

This was discovered by American psychologists Rosenthal and Jacobson in an intelligence test.

It is about teachers' subtle influence on students' psychology, so that students can achieve the progress expected by teachers.

The test results show that if teachers think students are smart and give them positive comments, they have high expectations. After a few months, these students tend to be more adaptable, attractive, curious and intellectually active.

However, students who have low expectations of teachers do not show these characteristics, and their intelligence changes are not obvious.

This test shows that both teachers and parents should have confidence in their children, which is of great benefit to their development.

Some analysts will strengthen the behavior that others appreciate because of rewards; Reduce the behaviors that people disapprove of because of punishment, that is to say, rewards and appreciation will make children more active, while punishment will weaken their enthusiasm.

Of course, some people will say that frustration education is not completely bad. For example, Degang Guo's teacher gave Guo Qilin frustration education, and Miss Gao said that he had been scolded enough at home, so no one would scold him outside!

Of course, we also saw Guo Qilin's efforts and received rave reviews. But he also said that he is actually a very insecure person, which is undoubtedly related to frustration education!

In fact, frustration education or motivation education depends entirely on your own children. If frustration education makes children depressed and insecure, then this method is obviously not suitable for children. When encouraging education to make children appear conceited and start bragging, we should also change the way of education.