In fact, what really hurts the child's future is the child's character and the child's behavioral ability. And all this comes from the influence education of parents. If the parents themselves are impatient people, the child's character is either timid or furious. And education is also a child's most precious wealth. Because education will reach children's hearts, plant different types of seeds and grow different fruits in the future. Education can make gifted children become excellent; Without education, talents may be buried by time.
Sadly, he was unhappy when he was a child and will be mediocre in the future. And all this is because parents don't understand education, and they don't know it yet.
1. These wrong educational methods are pushing children to mediocrity. 1. Trying to control children is particularly terrible. These people try to control children's lives, stand at the highest point of morality, and constantly control and restrain children. Since childhood, children can only buy their favorite extracurricular books with the permission of their parents.
The phrase "I do it for your own good" has become the reason why parents control their children's lives. This kind of education, on the contrary, will make children have no ideas, no ability, and even no right to speak at will. In the future, what awaits him is mediocrity.
2. I like to turn over the past. When a child makes a mistake, the parents will "read" it to him again. Speaking of the true meaning of "turning over old scores", it must be superior memory. Parents still remember every mistake made by their children, and they will gossip.
The most unsuccessful parents are of course repeating their children's mistakes. Words like "before" and "before" are just negative for children, reminding them of their own shortcomings, and the mental stress is obvious. In the end, children will naturally avoid problems.
There is another kind of parents who like to lose their temper. They like to educate their children by losing their temper. I always feel that persuasion education is of little practical significance, and my gentle attitude can't make children attach great importance to it. In contrast, I always feel angry is more useful. Most children are afraid and compromised in their parents' temper.
In fact, the more angry parents are, the more they educate their children who are not very good. Quite simply, every child has a certain degree of rebellion, even if he performs well at this stage, it is only temporary. I must be thinking of ways to escape in my heart. Many children are sensitive to inferiority.
It is never denied that every parent loves his children deeply and hopes that they will be happy in the future and create many surprises. But sometimes, parents don't pay attention to the necessity of education, and using the wrong form will make their children less excellent.
Imagine; If parents are too tough and always want to manipulate their children's living conditions, children will become "puppets" of thinking when they grow up; If parents are always immersed in their children's past mistakes, then parents and children will influence each other, and their future is always confused, only by constantly reviewing the past; If parents want to drive their children to be smart through "violent behavior", it is a big mistake.
Second, regarding education, I would like to give you a warm reminder 1. Please treat the child as an independent individual and respect his personality and thinking at all times. Only by getting the respect of parents can a child become confident and optimistic, because she is more confident to live. Even if you sometimes make mistakes, I firmly believe that parents will not punish and scold you.
2. Talking to children with high-quality parent-child interaction is a reasonable way for family harmony and parent-child communication. Parents who know how to listen and communicate should maintain a respectful attitude in education and never treat their children in a tough way. Smart parents know that when a child is angry, it is not easy to communicate and will not blame.
3. Encourage your children. There are no naturally excellent children, but there are encouraging parents. Self-confidence will make children become excellent, and self-confidence is closely related to parents' encouragement and praise. Naturally, there are ways to encourage, not to say that "being good to you" can solve it. It is necessary to give substantial encouragement in combination with the child's performance, which can be verbal expression or chemical substances.
4. Accepting children's mediocrity, the most important thing is that parents should learn to face children's mediocrity. First place, there will always be only one, and you can't dream unrealistic dreams. If benign education can't make children become excellent, then parents should face the reality, and there is nothing wrong with mediocrity. Compared with health, mediocrity is also a kind of happiness.
Write at the end: in education, be a tolerant parent who knows how to tolerate and admit mistakes. You will find that today's tolerance and understanding will become the quality of future children.